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okay, so ever since i came to my school, in second grade, this girl, we'll call her "teresa" has been my best friend. we could like write a book about eachother. sometimes i think she noes me better than i noe myself. haha! but, the thing is that ther were a whole bunch of new kids this year. one of them we'll call "melanie" and the other we'll call "claire". when melanie came into school, teresita was being her friendly self and started greeting all of the new kids and introducing herself etc, etc. so her and melanie supposedly become really close. oh, she can have a friend! but i couldnt make friends w/ another one of the new kids, which is claire. so, teresa, knowing that melanie calls me a bitch and kinda bullies me around. i mean, my gosh, she's a real bitch! but i mean, gosh, sumtimes i dont think i realize how much shit i take in from a lot people. im too nice to those those people. but thats just the way i am. the only way i can really blow my top is by writing here. i hardly ever get this way w/ people cuz im too shy to tell them off. but i put my foot down. im not taking crap from those people anymore! so, i tell teresa, right? i tell her that i'm sorry. but i cant be friends w/ sum1 thats friends w/ her b/c she is a serious bully. i mean, we've even had to talk 2 the principal about it b/c the girl is out of control! she thinks that she's hot stuff, and shes not even close to it! and its silly, at my age, it really is. im 14 yrs old and i just think that its really silly that i hav 2 talk 2 the principal @ this stage! but, the thing is that the school has its own network and its like my school e-mail. and she's sending horrible e-mails during school hours! so... yeah. it had to "be brought to the attention of authority" haha! anyways. and she IM's me such mean things, that i had to block her! and teresa is like nothing. hanging out w/ her, laughing. and everyone is accusing me of ditching her and hanging out w/ claire. just b/c teresa decides to go w/ a girl that cant stand my guts. i dont know how to explain this to her! people even told me that i had to choose between them and claire b/c they dont like claire. but u noe, its really stupid. b/c sum1 that i thot was a true friend, look wat she did to me, and this girl is just sum1 to hang out w/ since my friend ditched me! its like she's on her side. thats so unfair! i've always been ther for her! why duz she like melanie so much if she's that way w/ me? its really just annoying. please let me know what you think. i rate high!
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ok well mabye she dosnt realize how mean melanie is. also this might be hard to understand but she has been your best friends for a long time and your a boy so she cant tell you EVERYTHING. now with melanie around she can tell her more because they are both girls and have the same problems. Why dont you tell Teresa that you dont like melanie but you really want to keep on being her friend. mabye you can even print something that melanie said was mean to you on the internet and show it to teresa so she really knows how much she hates you. hope i can help
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Assassination is always a readily available option.
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Well honey, it's called growing up and when people grow up they lose old friends and gain new friends. Now you may not see what Teresa sees in Melanie but she likes her. I don't think it was really right for you to not be friends with her anymore cuz of Melanie, you can't let one person affect your relationships with others. I think you need to get a restraining order from this Melanie if she really is harrassing you that badly. Peer pressure sucks hard ass and what other kids are saying about what's going between you, Claire, Teresa, and Melanie are just stupid so I would just ignore the comments. They have no right to tell you who you should be friends with, if they can't accept the friend you got then find others who do. Maybe it's time to let old friends go.
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I can't tell you what 'teresa' sees in 'melanie' but I can tell you what I've learned when I was in high school, and it's not a glamorous fairy tale.
People change, ESPECIALLY your friends. Some change for better, some only mildly change, and some change for the worse. I can't tell you the number of times I've pondered in confusion why someone chose the option they did, you'll see a lot more people make stupid choices as you continue through school.
You've talked to 'teresa', right? She has done nothing to help your situation, right? Sounds to me like she likes 'melanie' more.
I've witnessed a similar situation where the 'melanie' was actually just jealous of the girl she was bullying. In that case 'melanie' wanted to be best friends with 'teresa' and take 'teresa's' current bud out of the picture.
Well things are clear 'Melanie' doesn't want to sort things out, and if 'teresa' isn't helping, I suggest you move on. There'll be tough times, but things always get better after awhile.
So in a way, you have to choose but if 'teresa' isn't helping then I think it is safe to say that you don't have a choice.
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I must say that this sounds liek something i've went through before. But your friends are going to have friends you dont like and you are going to have friends your friends dont like. they need to choose am i going to not be her friend just because shes friends with this other person. Although i think if a good friend is letting someone bully you around thats not right. Real friends would atleast say ease up on her dont be so mean . Im sure if she got to know you she'd like you.Most girls who are bullys and say mean things to you are jealous of you and want to be like you or would want to be your friend , but there way of acting as if there better then u when infact there the ones who are the loser. They act like there the sh*t.I think you need to talk to your friend , and then tell all your friends to accept the friend you have because shes been the only good friend to you at this point. You shouldnt have to choose your friends because other friends dont like um. Im sorry but that is childish and its sad when the principle has to get involed. tell them they need to grow up . if the principle isnt doing anything , you can go to the cops for harassment , i've done it before and get a restraining order put agianst the girl. That way she cant talk to you , and if she does she'll get arrested and sadly sometimes it has to lead to that because teenage girls are dumb sometimes. Your not doing anything wrong. Just keep your head high and know you better then that .
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i know how u feel i been in this predictament before with my bff that i also knew since i was in 2nd grade and then she became with this girl that i hated so much so what i did was i just told her how i felt and that shes not the reason why im not hanging out with it was herfriend and, and she was ok with that b/c everybody doesnt have to like everybody lol and so what we did was that when we wanted to hangout we knew better to not invite her friend.
and dont ditch your new friend claire b/c she seems like she a nice person and when you and teresa come back to hangign out dont forget claire because then itll seem like shes your rebound when you have nobody to hang around withn well i i hope i helped!
good luck!
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