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ok i have a bf thats my age. but i REALLY like this other guy who is 2 yrs older than me. i think he likes me too. he doesnt kno that i have a bf though so if he asked me out nd im still w/ my bf, wut do i do?
ps-i think the older guy would b a much better bf!
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Go out with the older guy if he asks you out. But break up with your boyfriend after you know for sure that the older guy likes you. So in case the older guy dosent like you, you still have your boyfriend.
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It doesnt matter what the age difference is... if you have feelings for someone then you have feelings for someone. Thats just how life works. But, If you have a bf and you have feelings for a different guy then you need to break up with your bf. then if this guy ends up asking you out you will be single & ready for a relationship.
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Why would the oldeR guy be a betteR boyfRiend?? Because you ASSUME he'll have money to buy you things? Because you ASSUME he'll have a caR to take you places? Because you think it'll make you LOOK 'COOL'?? Have you consideRed this: maybe the oldeR guy will expect moRe SEXUAL ACTIVITES!! Have you thought it THAT?? ARe you READY and WILLING foR that??? Hopefully you'll consideR all of those assumptions in making up youR mind.
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*I* think that if you have an inteRest in TWO, you don't feel enough foR eitheR one.. peRiod. HoweveR, if you INSIST on being with ONE of them.. I say pick the new guy, because if you like HIM it's OBVIOUS you don't feel enough foR youR cuRRent man. Even if that decision will huRt you, you've done him wRong ALREADY, so staRt thinking of him NOW: 'Love' [whetheR the teRm is used lightly oR not] is RecipRocal; meaning, it's NOT just one-sided. Think of it this way: what's the point in giving youR heaRt away to someone who isn't willing to give you theiRs? Be faiR to youR cuRRent boyfRiend... let him go.
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first of all, youre just hurting youre bf more by drawing it out. break up with him if you dont like him anymore. as for the older guy, are you sure he likes you? if he does ask you out, and you are still with your current bf, tell him that youll think about it, and while "thinking" about it, break up w/ your bf.
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I dont think you should be dating until your properly type out your words, but whatever. If you haven't been honest with the older guy, you probably wont be in the future. Dishonesty isnt the best way to start a good relationship. Though if you think the older guy would be a better boyfriend, dump the current one and look for someone who treats you better.
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Well, if you like the older guy, stop going out with your current boyfriend NOW. Don't be unfair to your boyfriend. Even if you're not sure if the older guy would work out, you need to take risks rather than be a wimp and use your boyfriend as a "back up boyfriend". So just break up with him, gently, as soon as possible. The sooner the less he will be hurt. Do the right thing.
Think about it. Are you sure the older guy really likes you in that way? Make sure he doesn't want to use you. Make it clear to him he has to respect your decisions. Most guys go out with younger girls to use them. I know you think he would never, but just aware. I'm only putting things to your attention.
If you think the older guy would be a better boyfriend, break it off with your boyfriend now. Because that means you don't think your boyfriend is the best he can be. And when you start comparing your boyfriend with others, it probably time you break up with him.
So I think you answered your own question: Break up with your boyfriend and try it out with the older guy.
If in the end, things with the older guy don't work out, it's okay. At least you did the right thing and your feelings are no longer hidden. If he does work out, that's awesome. So what I'm trying to say is, be nice to your boyfriend and break up with him. Be sure to tell your boyfriend what is going on. Don't leave him in the dark. Then take a risk with the older guy. And whatever comes out of it, just know you did the right thing.
Dating is about bonding with someone, gaining experience, and learning about what you need and want. You don't have to be confined to one person. So if one person doesn't work out you move on and live your life. That's perfectly fine, but be fair and never have "back ups" and never continue going out with someone if you know you already like someone else. Those are like...the rules of dating everyone should follow. lol. Good luck!
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nobody can answer this question but you. you need to meassure the pros nd cons. i hope you make the best choice.
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