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Am I overracting?
This may be long and I will try and not confuse you. My parent got a divorce like 2 years ago and are still going to court and everything for money cause my dad didnt pay for awhile ( he got caught up in drugs and had a lot of crack whores at his house, friend married one and also his friends son almost got shot cause a bunch of blacks *not offense but these people should be dead* wanted drug money or something) anyways i wanted them to get a divorce cause how i see it i dont have a dad. A dad isnt a person your scared when he comes home and u have packed extra clothes for when you get sick of it and run away again. *wow this sounds like a sob story* well we didnt talk for almost two years until i stupidly bought him and christmas gift and had a friend bring me over to his house he bought. He wanted me to blow off my friend and stay with him (he is an alcoholic and was on the verge of getting abusive again) so finally as politly as i could i told him that i already had plans and had to leave. we traded numbers (i hate being rude) and he called a few times i really didnt answere them. then after about 6 months he calls up to tell me he is dying 6 months to a year he has left to live. yeah i know i should be spending every moment with him. that night we went out i had an ok time he made me drive :( then while eating he tells me i need to lose about 20 pounds (im 145 but really athletic and used to be anorexic when i was little) did i also mention i start smoking ciggerates and cutting myself at 8 and drinking around 9. ive stop smoking i cant allow myself to be addicted to something and i dont drink as much. ok maybe i added stuff that dont belong but im trying to show what all im going through. Nows my question *finally* should i start talking to my dad again since he's dying but when we talk all i heard is whats your mother saying about me, why wont you come over im dying, let do this cause im dying. now i sound cold hearted. Any thoughts would really help im so freaking confused. sorry its so long.
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ok i can feel ya, totally on this. but it's not my story i'm sharing here. this is about YOU. and thats what you need to realize. its not about your dad, its about you and your hapiness. if you have a gut feeling about your dad than dont go. spend a little time with him just so you dont regret it later, think about your feelings when you grow up, will you feel good about the time you spent with him? dont go any where privite with him where u might feel scared. have your mom drive you to a resturant meet him tehre than have a time for her to pick you up. keep your cell phone or something on you at all times to make you feel safer and like you have a back-up. when i was little, and i had this sort of problem, in my bag, i'd take something that made me feel safe, and warm and pack it in there and just reemember its with me to make me feel not so alone. if you have anymore questions. i'm here for you, message me anytime...
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A bunch of blacks? I don't know how that COULDN'T be taken offensively. You didn't have to mention what race the people were as it had NO purpose to the rest of the story. I don't know if you're referring to black people in general should be dead or those selected few, but next time watch what you say because you could easily make that kind of comment with some people who aren't as nice as others around and have some consequences. As of your question (I decided to be nice and answer it), you shouldn't talk to him because it seems like he's just using you as a pawn in whatever sick mind game he might be playing. It is your call since it is your dad and you will have to live with whatever choice you make for the rest of your life. Just remember what you might be sacrificing to make your dad happy.
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Hey, and that was your short version? L.O.L. J.K.
Dont take this the wrong way but i dont think you should i know he is dieing and all, but it sounds like to me that he is using you, if he keeps asking you about your mom and stuff who knows he might start asking you for money... to me it just sounds like its going to lead to trouble... maybe instead of totally ignoreing him you should talk on the phone like 10 to 20 minutes a day rather than going to see him... dont get me wrong everyone has bad pasts TRUST ME... but it sounds like you dad has a SERIOUS ONE... just keep you distance plus if you start going to see him it will make it twice as hard when he dies.
Hope i Helped XoCandieXo
Ps: im really sorry about everything in your past if you need anything at all write me!
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ok so i would hang out if my dad was dying in 6 months to a year. because after he passes away you may regret not spending time with him.. now if he gets abusive and drinks and doesnt spend time with you then you could leave because you shouldnt be goin through that. hope i helped
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