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How Do I Get People to See the Real Me?
How do I get people at school to see the real me? Everybody judges me except for my friends. I love listening to hip hop and rap and people are give me a weird look when I tell them I just got the new 50 cent CD or whatever. They also drop there jaws when I cuss. They say, "Wow..I never knew you cussed! I thought that was against your religion or something!" Just because I'm a christian doesn't mean I try to be perfect or anything...I am just like everybody else. And people also think that I am really reserved and I'm not AT ALL! I'm very gregarious and open..at least when I'm around my friends. They see the real me but most people just judge me. What can I do so that people won't be so judgemental? I was thinking that maybe it would help if I was a little more talkative at school w/ people who aren't necessarily my friends so people can see my other side. It just really pisses me off when people judge me this way!
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What really bothers you about this?
While I didn't really listen to hip hop and rap when I was younger, the rest doesn't really sound all that different from me from middle school to even now, except that it really hasn't bothered me in years. As a matter of fact, I learned years ago to just embrace it.
There are a number of people who have thought they knew me over the years who would be shocked to hear some of the things I think and some of the things I say to particular friends. However, I don't get upset at the fact that these other people think I'm different from how I am. Instead, I enjoy some of the advantages it gives me.
For example, with the people who are surprised when you cuss: would you rather those words have no effect, as would be the case if they just assumed every other word out of your mouth was a cuss word? I've personally gotten a perverse thrill out of the level of shock some people get when they find out that I even know such language.
And what does it really matter if people who aren't really your friends know what you're like when you are with your friends? Is it really that important that they think you cuss and all that? If it's someone you would like to be friends with who avoids you through some prejudice of their own, that's one thing, but if you don't want them to be you friends, why not let them think what they want?
Is it really that important that mere acquaintances know what music you listen to? Is that why you listen to them, or is it because you enjoy them? If it's because you like that kind of music, it really shouldn't matter what someone who isn't even a friend of yours thinks of you listening to it.
I guess I just don't see what is so bad about them not seeing what you think is the real you. I think perhaps I did feel similarly when I was back in middle school and high school, but that would have been largely a loneliness thing, which would go away whenever I was with a friend or an acquaintance who either didn't see me the same way or didn't care.
My advice? Try to stop worrying so much about how much your public image matches how you are with your friends. The truth is that there are a lot of people out there who are different in private and with their friends than passing acquaintances might believe. Let people think what they think, and worry more about your own happiness, your own life, and your own friends.
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whenever somebody says that just say well I guess I just proved you wrong! and smile. Be confident and dont let anybody know it's getting to you and soon enough you will feel that it's not getting to u anymore either.
xoxo*london
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well you shouldn't pay attnetion to what other poeple say but i know what you mean people thought i was weird and i had problems but they got over it and saw the real when. But you just have to do something outragoeus but be youself and dont always be quiet you gotta be talkative and really social and everyone has to know about you. dont worry it'll work out great
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why do you even care if people judge you?..considering pretty much EVERYONE judges people.
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hey, i am a christian i cuss and listen to hip hop and rab the same as u do. people were doing the same thing to be bacause i was a christian and im white. as i started to hang around other people they started to see me differentlynow try hanging around the people that do that are being judgmental. once u try it out wright me back and tell me what the results are.
I HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR U
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I'm guessing you're either in high school, or you're in middle school, either way, you shouldn't pay too much attention of what people think. The only thing that's important is what people you care about think of you. Otherwise, do what you want and be yourself. Ten years from now it really won't matter.
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Try talking to people who you dont nomarly talk to, tell them how you really are. Your not like they think you are. Tell them/ show them who you really are!
::hOpe i Helped!::
x3 Marisa
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