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Boyfriend Problems!!!
Okay well, I'm going into 8th grade next year and I still haven't had a boyfriend! No guy even notices me! I'm not a dork, and people say it's just because I'm tall. Well, there are other girls in my grade that are tall and have boyfriends! I mean it's not just that though. I mean all of my friends have had their first kiss and everything but I haven't. So no one really understands what I'm talking about or how I feel. All my friends have had at least 3 boyfriends and have all been kissed. What could I do to get guys to notice me? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
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the kissing part you shouldnt worry about...that will come with time! i have friends who are 16 & 17 and still never been kissed. if you want guys to notice you then talk to them!! if you like a certain guy, find out what hes interested in and try talking to him about it!! he'll be impressed ;) and i dont think being tall has anything to do with it so dont worry!!! some guys like tall girls!!!
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u shouldnt b rushed to do something just bcos ur friends have.....u need to just wait until the right person comes along and then it will just work itself out
x megz x
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Try not to worry about it to much. When your an older teenager (or young adult), and the guys are more mature, some guy will REALLY appreciate being able to be your first kiss. Worry less about not dating and kissing, and more about finding a guy you can truly love to give these things to.
Footnote: I did not date until I was 16, and I actually wish that I had waited longer. I missed out on friends, hanging out, etc. I wish I'd spent being 16 and 17 being more happy and care free, and worrying less about my boyfriend.
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You have to talk to them. Ask them questions about things. Smile at them. Be nice. All the usual stuff. Sooner or later one of them is going to notice you. Go places that you know they hang out at. It will happen soon. :)
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This is very well typed, good job. :)
Don't worry. I'm out of 8th grade and I haven't kissed a guy yet. I'm really glad, too. Kissing a guy is not how you show that you love him. You show you love him by talking to him, telling him "I love you", telling him how you feel, hanging out with him - not by doing "things" with him. If you get into the physical part of the relationship, and for some reason your relationship is broken, you're going to be hurt more because you gave a part of yourself physically to that boy and you can't ever get it back. Make that first kiss really special - don't just kiss because everyone else has kissed.
Don't take this personally, but I kindof think that girls who are young and have done "stuff" (kiss, make out, french, "more") with their boyfriends and who've had more than one boyfriend are kindof... slutty. Believe me, I struggled at one time with this too. I thought that I was the only girl in the whole world who hadn't kissed a boy at the grand old age of eleven. Now that I'm older, I see that I'm not the only girl who is waiting for the right guy, nor am I the only one who struggled like that. Don't let yourself get swept away - it's not worth it. Wait for the right guy to come along, be friends with him, get to know him. Know the little things about him: does he have brothers or sisters? What is his favorite sport? Does he like ice cream? When's his birthday? Etc., etc. Then - and only then - should you consider 'dating' or 'going out' with him. Don't be like many of the questioners that ask for advice on this site - go out with a guy for two weeks then be found making out on a street corner or something. Wait! Don't give yourself away. You can only give your virginity away once; and once you've given it away, you can't get it back. Kissing someone isn't the same as having sex with him, but if you don't have the self control to keep yourself from kissing him the first two weeks of your relationship, who knows if you'll have the self control it takes to keep your virginity.
Don't try and make guys notice you - that turns them off. I haven't tried at all to get male attention, and three of my four guy friends like me. I have no idea what compelled these fine young Christian men to like me; that still ... awes me. But, I certainly didn't try to get them to like me. Be yourself. Try and be friends with guys. Not their girlfriend, just a friend. Guys are people too, you know. Do you like it when a girl is kindof flaunting and flirting, making herself look better than the rest of us? I don't. And I'm pretty sure that most respectable guys don't either. It's more appealing when a girl is friendly, smiling, happy and encouraging, right? It makes you want to be her friend. Guys are like that too. Once you're their friend, they'll start to "notice" you more. I'm not saying that every one of your guy friends will fall in love with you, but chances are that one of them will. And you'll feel more comfortable with a guy that you're friends with than just some random guy off the street.
Save yourself. :)
-FunnyCide
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dont worry about boys!!! they are jerks lol. but no really i was like that too, until i found the most awesome guy, he gave me my first kiss and now i have been with him for 2 years. just stop looking and let him come to you. youll find someone.
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