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hey im one of those people who really likes helping other people, you know helping them with problems whether serious or not. well some times i get overwhlemed by all of their problems and i become depressed too. and sometimes it feels like they start to expect SO much out of me and i cant do everything...then we get into a fight! what should i doooooo???
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i used to be the same way!!!!! the best way to deal with it is to tell a person you'll do all you can for them and not promise to accually fix their problem. Maybe then they'll expect less of you so u wont hav as many fights....sry, i dont really know wat to tell you about becoming depressed too...but i hope i helped!!! -BandGeeksUnite
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Hi, what I think you should do is try not to work so hard, see me I try to help about at least 15 people a day, sometimes I get kind of sad and stressed too. If you don't have a column you should get one because you can help lots of others with every day problems
PS: If you ever need help again come to my column
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Your just like me I love giving people advice and they always seam to ask me for it but if I start getting overwealmed I stop offering it out! Do what you like to do but keep it on the low side dont let other peoples problems get in your head and become a part of your problems worry about yourself and be concerned about others after you.......that might seem a little selfish bu tit works
hope this helps ~**~SHANNEN~**~ 12
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That's good that you like to help, I'm like that too. You have to try not to get absorbed in someone's problems though. Just do all you can and if it's really serious recommend them to a therapist or someone who can help better than you, because you can only help so much. Don't obsess over helping people, take a day off every now and then and just do something fun to take your mind off things, or talk about happy things with the same people sometimes. It also helps to write about it and keep in touch with people you worry about, just let them know you care.
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awwwww!!! youre such a sweet person!! lol, thats all i can say..good luck i guess....
killah_babe69
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tell them...you will try to help if u feel the need to and if it wolnt get you down..your not there councler...if there problems are so serious sugust a counler for them it always helped me..and if they wolnt do that tell them you only can help on sertian things..
i really hope i helped
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You need to tell them before they come at you looking for advice that you will try to help them but that they can't expect everything out of you. You're a person and you sometimes need advice too. Let them know that, but continue to help them if you can.
Good Luck :D
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Maybe you should take a little break and not give advice. But instead you can just give a few of your opinions or hints just little ones. I think it's becuz you give so much that they expect so much from you. So leave their problems to themselves but if it gets out of hand or you feel the absolute need to give advice then do so.
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heyy .. just stop giving people help and when they ask you for it be like i already helped you enough and im not helping you again sorry ask someone else and your problems will be gone
hope i helped
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