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my dads mom dies today, and the sad thing is i didnt cry. noone in my family has ever died while i was living. im ot sure if it didnt hit me yet, or i just wasnt close to her. to be honest she annoyed me alot, always asking questions, being nosy. she was an alchoholic too. i just felt bad for my dad and thats what made me saddest. i feel guilty because i cant remember times where i liked to be with her. what am i supposed to do? is it bad to feel that way? should i talk to my friends about it?
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People deal with grief in lots of different ways. It is normal that if you were not close to this person that you don't feel sad. It is completely normal.
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Sometimes when your not close to someone or just dont know them, you wont care because you dont really like them or know them.
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Talk to your friends if you want to and your family if you can and if they can too.
People react to death is different ways. Maybe you are in shock or it hasn't sunk in yet. I remember when my Grandad died it was shock for about two weeks before it hit me properly.
It's okay not to cry, just as it is okay to cry. People are all different. There is no right and wrong way to grieve.
It may be an idea to talk though to save it all building up inside.
Your family will also need a lot of support, especially your Dad. It's a hard time for everyone, but at least she is at peace.
If things really do get you down you could consider a bereavement counseller or phone a helpline such a criuse (if you're in the UK- search on google for the number or for other lines). It can help sometimes to talk to someone who is distanced from it all.
*hugs* I'm really sorry to hear your news. Take care xxxxxx
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It isn't bad to feel that way. You weren't close. You don't need to feel guilty either. :)
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If you are asking if you are an uncompassionate human being...You aren't. I can tell because you feel guilty for not crying, and feeling sorry for your dad.
It's okay not to cry. All people cope with death differently. You might still be in shock. My uncle died when I was in my teens, we weren't close, and I also felt guilty when my family started to cry and I didn't. At his funeral, before they buried him, they did a 21 gun salute...and I lost it. I realized then that I hadn't cried before because it hadn't quite registered that he was dead yet. When those guns went off...I don't know. It suddenly sunk in.
And if you don't cry. Well, that still doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. It just means that you didn't know her well enough. Either way, I'm sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my prayers...
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same thing happened to me. i didn't cry, although my grandma wasn't really that annoying. it was my moms mom. i felt so bad for my mom. although, you don't have to feel bad about what happened. you don't have to do what everyone else does normally. follow what you think you should do. thats what i did.
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