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After my dad died, I've been having problems with myself. For a while I was okay. but recently i keep getting mad and feeling so...weird. So i started cutting, but now I don't know what to do. I can't stop...it feels so addictive. We have a spring trip soon to a water park and I don't want everyone to see my cuts. What should I do?
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It's ok, we all make mistakes and yes- I do agree that cutting gets addictive. I would advise that you cover up your cuts by wearing a light long sleeved t-shirt and just go swimming in it or just not go in the water at all. Try talking to your doctor about taking medication for your depressive mood swings. Also consider going to a church if you have the time. you can also mabey put some cover-up on it until it heals and you have to stop cutting..hope it works out
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It's ok, we all make mistakes and yes- I do agree that cutting gets addictive. I would advise that you cover up your cuts by wearing a light long sleeved t-shirt and just go swimming in it or just not go in the water at all. Try talking to your doctor about taking medication for your depressive mood swings. Also consider going to a church if you have the time.
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GET HELP! Stop cutting because seriously that's just ignorant. I know I might not be helping much by telling you that but it's true. Get tattoos instead! It's a much healthier addiction.
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Hi dear,
First let me say that I am sorry for your loss. I too lost my dad before I really got to know him. Your admission that you are cutting yourself, tells me that your family is not dealing well with the death of your dad. They are all (and I don't know how many people there are in your family), but they are all in denial. Or at least the most important person, your mom. She may not being dealing with it well, outwardly. Believe me, if she is functioning, and you have a roof over your head, and food in the frige, then she is dealing with it, but perhaps dealing with it inwardly. I can only tell you this. While the loss of your dad is devasting to the whole family. The loss is felt differently by the children and the spouse. Your mom, lost her lover, her husband, her rock, her life's partner, the person she hoped she would spend her retirement with, after she and your dad did a great job of raising you kids. Now he is gone. She may be trying not to think of that loss, while she is trying to protect you from the loss by being both mother and father, and doing a lousy job at both because she is denying her grief, outwardly, and grieving inwardly.
Now on the other hand, you have lost a very important person in your life, a person that you always counted on to be there, a person that you were not ready to give up, and a person who you hoped you would be able to turn to when you had some questions, or some problems....and now what do you do?????? You don't feel you can turn to your mom, because you feel for her,because she lost her husband. You're mad at him and the next second, you feel guilty for being mad. And you mom is experienceing the same emotional tumoil.
Well, do I need to say here that you all need some counseling. You probably already know that, but you know that you can't just go get it on your own. so you are wondering, why won't your mom suggest it?
You are cutting yourself, because everyone is denying their feelings, and it seems like what is expected of everyone is to feel numb, and guess what? We as humans, do not want to go around feeling numb. If we are forced to we will, but then we will act out by doing something like cutting ourselves, so we can JUST FEEL SOMETHING!!!!! or taking drugs, to keep the numb feeling, because without the drugs, reality keeps butting in.
I urge you to get some help. even if your mom won't. Can someone at school help you. Isn't there another kid you know who has lost a parent that you could talk to? You are not alone in your feelings. There are other kids who feel the same way. This must be the third letter I have answered about "cutting" in just one week. I wish parents would all go and take classes on how to help their kids through things like this, dealing with emotions...anger, loss, helplessness.
Again, I am sorry for your loss. I believe that when we die, our spirits go, well maybe not to heaven, but somewhere, and our loved one see us on earth, and while they see that we suffer the human frailties of pain and loss. They know that some day we will be leaving this earth and be spiritual also, and be happy. I know it sounds silly, but it keeps me going. Faith is very important in life. It keeps us from having to find ANSWERS to things like: and untimely death, to accepting that there are reasons for the things that happen. SOme of the things that have happened in my life, were not deserved or expected or wanted. But I spend time thinking about WHY they happened, and some took longer to figure out than others, but eventually I found that I had learned something from each event.
I hope this helped.
God Bless You!
Michele
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i understand where your coming from by saying that cutting is addictive...because it is...ive done it before, and i almost killed myself, i cut too deep and i wouldnt stop bleeding, my mom had to call 911 and i was in the hospital for 3 days and i still go to counsiling. cutting is an option, but not the best one, thats for sure. you should really talk to someone about you addiction, wheather it be your mom, or your best friend, your best friends mom, a little old lady, but tell someone, your hurting yourself and youve already been through enough pain and emotions your just making life harder to live and that isnt needed. as for your trip to the waterpard, you should talk to the adult before hand so they know your problem, and when you go, wear a regular bathing suit. show them. if there good friends they'll understand and support you in you trying to stop (becasue you dont want to die) if you want to thou you can cover up the ones that are just scars now with coverup. i hope you get through this. youll b in my thoughts...hope i helped........xox...remember you only live once...please rate me
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Well, first of all, I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is always a tough thing to do through. Nothing you can do or say is going to bring him back and as tough as it may be you need to accept that. You didn't do anything wrong. None of this is your fault. It is okay for you to feel sad or down. But also, think about your dad. Wouldn't he want you to live your life to it's fullest potential. Cutting is not the answer. I know it feels like it's the only thing you can control when everything isn't right, and you get this rush when you see the blood come out, but it is still not the answer. Try writing in a journal. Maybe seek the help of a counselor. Talk to your family. They are going throough the same thing. Support each other. Every time you think about cutting think about it like you are only hurting your dad and run and go tell someone that can get you to stop. Things will get better for you in time. Be patient. If some of your cuts have started to form scars, there is a cream called Mederma that is great. It fade out scars. It is available at drugs stores and it's like 15.99 or so. If they are still fresh wounds, put lots of neosporin on it. Stop cutting!!! If you need someone to talk to I am always here. :)
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Youo need to tell you mom and get some professional help before it gets worse. :)
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well first of all you should stop cutting..that doesnt help anything..i use to do it and it only led to more trouble..start writing in a journal or do something else to keep your mind off of cutting..and about not wanting them to see..buy some scar cream or something like that it works pretty good
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