Hey guys ok well .. two of my 'so called best friends' have just like .. ditched me & come up with excuses of why they hate my guts. One of my best friends [not one that hates me] i dont really know if i can trust but everything seems to be fine. But in the past we've had a number of fights and they might be like ruining our friendship. She says everything is ok though. And for my one, true best friend.. she has always stayed true but the two friends who hate me are like trying to turn her against me. I dont think they'll ever be able to though, we've been best friends for like, ever. I just want to know what I should do. Should i make more friends? Im really the shy type, so it would feel pretty awkward for me to just start talking with new people. I will appreciate ANY advice. Thanks soo much <33
sshelbyy answered Thursday April 28 2005, 6:25 pm: I guess I can sort of relate to this situation. See, your friends HAVE to have a reason to not like you. You may not see it in their point of view, but you must be doing something that irritates or makes them mad. Its not smart to lost your friends over a few fights. When you make the choice to let go of one of your friends, you have to get everything sorted out and ask questions. <p>Try emailing/IMing/xanga commenting your friends and say "Ok, I dont want to lose yall as my friends, so I just want to try to figure some things out. I know you guys probably have a reason to hate me, and I wish you would tell me so I would know to stop whatever it is that I am doing that makes you mad. Im sorry if I didnt realize this before and I hope we can sort out all of these problems." <p>and as for the trust thing, all you have to do is not tell your friends ANYTHING that you dont want anyone else knowing! As for your BFF that you trust, you can confide in her, but try to keep your secrets to yourself around the other girls. Sometimes people cant help not being trustworthy, but atleast you know how to avoid any trust issues that may lead to future fights. [ sshelbyy's advice column | Ask sshelbyy A Question ]
cyanideXsunshine421 answered Thursday April 28 2005, 6:04 pm: hey there
Not yo long ago i was in the same situation. What I choose to do was make one or two more freinds and give your others a little time to "cool down" Eventually, if your freinds really do love you,they might start to miss you and want you back. [ cyanideXsunshine421's advice column | Ask cyanideXsunshine421 A Question ]
Micah answered Thursday April 28 2005, 5:30 pm: if they dont like you anymore and they are mean to you, they arent worth your time. if you still want to be friends with them find out what the reason is they dont like you anymore. and if you find out, see if you can do anyhting about it. if that doesnt work, just ignore them and stick with the people who actually like you. [ Micah's advice column | Ask Micah A Question ]
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