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fading friendship
Well i new my bff for 9 years now, and i was moved away in a different state for seven of them (but we kept in touch, i visited constintly) but now we are losing a bff style, like whenever i call she has to go, or if she doesnt she'll proply hang up on me in a few minutes anyway. i cant trust her because she always lies to me and brakes promises and tells secrets.i am really starting to dislike her, but never the less i have known her and was her bff for 9 years now, and she used to be so kind and sweet to me (its only been a year where she was rude to me) i miss her being the way she was. please help me!
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I can relate, sorta. One of my friends moved away, not too far but I miss her still. For the first few years we kept in touch well, especially in the summer. Later, around the fourth year I didn't see her for, like a whole year because we just didn't find time. Well, I invite her to my B-day party every year now and we see each other alot in the summer. My advice to you is to see her face to face, for a while, and then if she doesn't seem happy or if she's aacting strange you'll know what's wrong. She might be having family problems or be sad that your far away and broken apart so she made new friends, and now she is scared they'll replace you so she won't talk to you. Hope I helped, and hope you find out why she won't talk to you much.
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She is getting older and her likes may have changed from what they used to be. It's called growing apart. You can talk to her about it and try to salvage your friendship but, she may just have changed to much. If that is true you'll just have to find a friend who shares more of your intrests. :)
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ok, i have the same problem as you, my bff for years moved away she wrote me one letter and i wrote back but she never wrote again, it didnt really hit me much then, and then she moved back about 2 years later,we visited and hugged and had parties and were bffs again,and then one day she went to high school (she was a year older than me and i was held back in first grade)and became a cheerleader, suddenly we werent friends anymore, she didnt call, i didnt call, we never visited, and whenever we did see each other we didnt hug or anything, we didnt even so much as say hello one time, and you know what, i was becoming bitter towards her, because she wasnt my friend anymore, she just left me one day, i thought how could this even be happening, i have your letter, and all the gifts youv ever given me, ive kept everything, i remember everything, and it mad me mad, i just wanted to go over to her house and scream, whenever i look at her friends screen name(dont ask how i got it...i dont really remember)i get jealous and really pissed off, i always go back to her letter when i see her friends names used and see if they are the friends she mentioned in the letter. sorry this is long, and all i can do is be mad, but thats just my point, you drift away, your both getting older and things are changing,she was the best friend i ever had, and since then the only one i can call a best friend,but we just have to let go, you cant help it if your drifting apart, let it drift because you will get a new bff, dont tell her your secrets anymore, just be there and be her bff, keep it as long as you can, but one day youll just have to let go
sorry its sooooooooooooooooooo long
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Just go with the flow. You will figure it out on your own.
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Aww, I am sorry to hear that. Talk to her about how you feel and tell her that you don't like her making up excuses, lieing to you, and telling your secrets. She isn't a friend if she does all that to you!
-Brianna
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Whoa..that is horrible..my best friend in the world lives 2 hours away..i miss her alot too and we still keep in touch..lately it has felt like we have been falling apart..but if you really want to stay friends with her..try..all you have to do is try..and talk to her about the way you feel..maybe theres something on her mind that she doesnt want to say..and you should get it out of her..?..I hope i helped.. <3
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