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Love Hurts
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two years, and he has a three year old boy named Matty. I don't really have a problem with this, because I love the both of them so much. Matty's mom is the one who has the problem. Alex (boyfriend) doesn't EVER see Matty's mom. EVER. But he does sometimes let Matty see his mom. The only thing is that Matty doesn't seem to like his mother at all. He likes me more, so to speak. Alex hates Matty's mom for trying to take custady of Matty, but she lost the case, so he legaly belongs to Alex, but the problem is that she is telling people that I am ripping her baby away from her. I'm not. Alex was 20 when he had Matty, and he's a really great father to the kid, and Matty's mom is threatening to go to court again but this time with me. I don't want this, I'm not saying I like this girl, but I sometimes feel sorry for her. It must be hard never getting to see your kid and even harder when he doesn't like you. I'm tired of coming home and crying on Alex's shoulder. How do I tell this girl and Matty that there are better ways to solve this?
Thnx.
Sammy
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At the end of the day this woman should be happy that her child is being so well looked after, dont blame yourself for this situation you have done nothing wrong! you have to ask yourself though what has this woman done to her child to make him dislike her in the way that he does? Also if she was that heartbroken about losing her kid believe me she would fight tooth and nail with your partner to get the child back to be honest it doesnt sound to me as though she is really that bothered. I think the reason that she is being mean and threatning court is because she is jelouse of the relationship that you and your boyfriend have, ex wives and girlfriends usually find it very difficult when their ex partners find a new lady and starts getting on with his life. I would not worry to much about her threats as i doubt very much that she would see them through. i suggest that maybe for the time being you and your partner dont let her have access to the child to save the kid a lot of heartache and also you.
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well you really can't. You and Alex have to be real careful what you say about the ex in front of Matty. He's probably picking up on dad's feelings. You guy's need to play up his mom's good points, because she is his mom...even if not a very good one. Don't know what on earth she could take YOU to court for.
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It is this girls problem that her son doesn't "like" her, and there had to be a reason that she didn't get custody of Matty, so don't take her seriously. I don't think she has any legal right to take you to court since she isn't Matty's legal guaridian. She only gets the time she gets with him so she can't choose who her son does and doesn't get to see. And maybe to solve this problem you could sit down and have a talk (the 3 of you) and let her know that you have no intent to take her child away from her. It is Matty's idea of his mother that is making him not wanna be around, whether he thinks she is a stranger, or he just doesn't have any good memories of her. And don' let it bother you so much, she is just upset and maybe her feelings go deeper then her son's wellfare, maybe she still wants Alex. Good Luck! and remember that this isnt't your fault.
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