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Ok, I have a serious problem. I have become very suicidal because of depression, and other things that I don't want to say. I called my boyfriend one night, telling him I wanted to kill myself, he called my parents and told them. My mom was too busy with her boyfriend, so she just said, "I'll just call her dad and have him check up on her." My dad came over and just brought me food, it was very nice of him, but he didn't know what to do, I am seeing a therapist. But I know that if I told her that I felt as if I were going to attempt this, she'd get me in a hospital. So, here are my questions.
How can I get my parents to take my very depressed feelings of dying seriously?
[I tried telling my mom, my exact words were, "I seriously want to die, everyone thinks its just a phase, but I seriouly want to be dead."] I got nothing out of this. I feel like my mom could care less. And as for my dad, he thinks I'm being ridiculous, and so does my sisters.
When you are in a hospital/mental institution, what exactly happens?
I fear that I will be trapped in there screaming with everyone ignoring me. So, if anyone could tell me as much as they can please, details.
This would really help me, thank you
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Okay as someone who feels like you do, I may be able to help.
Firstly parents.. I would advise you work on one for the moment. If possible search somewhere such as google for suicide and parents and a site should come up with information for parents about how to help their teens. This could be benificial for your Mum/Dad or both- maybe show it to them? It could explain things. I'm not sure what other advice I could offer you- you could write a letter to them explaining how you feel since it would give you more time to think about what you want to say without any interuptions.
I've never been to a hospital or institution although I used to want to go there but when I spoke to my counseller or physchologist about how I wanted to die no one really did anything. If you live in the states I understand things may be different. It does seem that if a hospital is the option they give you it is something you are willing to try?
You will not be trapped in there screaming- it is much like a boarding school to some extent if you are a night patient as well. You will probably have group therapy, opertunities to speak to many people and work through what is going on. There will probably be time for school work too, from what I can gather. I also feel there would some kind of 'enjoyable' activities. It will not be like all the horror stories you have heard. People there will be trying to help you. For many people it does work. It may also be a chance to get medication if you want that and don't have it already? Telling your therapist could also lead to medication if you asked.
I feel for you- I hope that everything works out. Take care xxxx
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Why do you want to die? There has to be reasons and some issues. Find the problems and try to fix it. Killing yourself solves nothing at all. It makes thinks worse for everyone and for all the people that love you. A lot of teenagers go through this stage where they are very depressed and just want to die trust me I know. You will get over that feeling and you will relize how good you have it. Some people dont even have parents that care so you should be happy. You mom does care and so does your dad but they just dont take it so seriously because everyone goes through it. They love you so dont ever question that. As for the hospital thing they will ask you why you feel like that but going to a hospital isnt a good idea because they can put you on medication. Talk to a counslor and just do the things you love to do and hang out with your friends. Good luck! x0
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You need to takl to your therapst. Seriously. Tell everything and do not hold back. If she thinks jhospitalization is what you need then do it. The hospital would basically just take you out of the situation you're in. Treatment will be same as with therapist only more often. Not a big deal....and not a mental institution. Tell therapist everything!
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Your parents are the reason that you want to die. They should certainly be paying more attention to you. They should have been for a long time now. Your mother sounds very selfish, and you father is, like you said, confused, and lost and he doesn't know what to do. I don't think you will find the answers in your parents attention. Too much time has gone by. It would not be geniune anyway. Yes they should, but you can't make them. (unfortunately) Well, honey you did not pick your parents. They should not have been parents in the first place. But then you wouldn;t be here. And you need to be here. You are here for a reason. But you are going to have to find your own answers. What if you forgot about getting your parent's attention and tried to get the attention of someone who cares about kids. I know what you are going through, I went though it myself. A teacher that I had in high school made a difference in my life. She saw something in me that she thought was worthy. She complimented me. I had never heard a compliment before. I never forgot it. And it wasn't until many years later that I realized what she had done for me. I found out that I have value, and that I have a lot to offer. I know this will sound corny, but if you could find a way to do a little volunteer work, maybe for kids or seniors, at a food bank, or something,maybe a nursing home, you will find that those people will appreciate you so much, it will make you feel better about yourself. Don't wait for your parents to wake up. If you can do this successfully, you will be stronger for it. Even stronger then they are. I know that they are "adults" so they know more than you do, but honey they don't act like adults. They don't have a clue.
I hope this helps.
Michele
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Tell your therapist how you fell about all of this...I think that she would give you the advice you need. I hope things get better for you :)
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PLZ PLZ PLZ DO NOT KILL YOURSELF!!It's a very serious thing!! Well about your parents, i don't think they would understand your feelings if they are like that but how bout try telling a trusted adult or a councelor. Try and tell them to talk to your parents. As for the Hospital thing, (i speak from experience) they talk to you about why you feel the way that you are, and try and make things better. If not, tr finding things that you like to do, instead of being so depressed.
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