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What should I tell my younger cousin, when she goes through
Along with all three of our mothers, my two cousins and I are all really close too (we're all females). One is 2 years older and the other is 2 years younger. Well, we've always done the "hand-me-down" thing and we've always been right around the same size--all three of us, but still. I would be my cousin's clothes and then my other one would get mine. But my two cousins are both now sharing a room (my youngest one is now living with my older one) but the thing is, she rips up all her clothes and sews them up. But every time my older cousin cleans out her closet, the clothes are supposed to go to ME. And even she agrees with that. Because no 1, I'm the next oldest, and no 2, because I'll wear the clothes as is and I won't tear them up. When I'm done with the clothes, she can have them and then rip them or whatever. But lately she'll go through her clothes before I do, and before telling my older cousin and it pisses me off. I'm supposed to get her clothes next, but she just goes through it. She took a really good pair of jeans (my older one just went into the Navy, so she cleaned out her closet). I've always had my eye on this pair of bootleg jeans that she had. Well, my cousin went through it the other day AFTER my older one said she wanted me to go through it first, because she knew I would wear them as is, and they're my type, well my other one took the pair and now she's going to sew them up (she's a "punk") and she'll ruin them!! God, what should I do, because she ALWAYS does this. The clothes aren't even her type--she'll take them and ruin them to fit her. I'm next in line, not her and its always been that way. What should I do??
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How can you say she has NO style of her own? Just because it's not what you like. Just because it's a "dirty punk look" and not the cute 50's look that you and your older cousin tried to dress her in, doesn't mean that it isn't her style and what she wants.
If your upset that she took the cloths before you, then go in her room and tell her that. Tell her that your older cousin wanted you to have them first, and she will need to wait before she cuts them up.
Don't sit there and say she "ruins" the cloths just because it's not what you would do with them.
"The clothes aren't even her type--she'll take them and ruin them to fit her"
That is so rude. How can you say your close with her if you come on here and insult her style so much?
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1.If the older cousin wanted you to have them then she should have given them to you instead of leaving them for the younger to mess with. Since she didn't she must not have cared who got them.
2.I guess you need to have the older cousin clean her closet when you are there if she wants you to have them.
3.She does have a style of her own. You keep saying she rips everything up. It just doesn't meet with your approval is all.
4.I think you are a little jealous maybe that the younger cousin is living with the older one and getting first crack at clothes you consider yours. I think you both should buy your own clothes and stop worrying about the oldest cousins clothes.
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Why don't you get a job and avoid this drama altogether? Have you tried asking your cousin nicely about a few specific pieces of clothing that you would like before the would be fashion designer gets a hold of them? Pick your battle. If there are a couple of pieces, then ask for them. Don't sit around being angry already over "stuff". It's all stuff. At least you have something to wear. There are people who have to wear the same shirt everyday of their life. Some choose to do because that's what they want, and some have no choice. And then there's the people whose house catches on fire, and they have absolutely nothing. So deal with it.
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