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Dad's side & my bf
I've never gotten along with my dad's side of the family. We see each other once a month and they always ask the same dumb questions. "How is school?" they ask and I say fine. "Do you have a boyfriend?" they enquire and I say no. Then they ponder ALOUD why not. Well, Today we went over there and I was nervous because this time I actually have a boyfriend. I was tempted to lie and just sit through hearing all my attractive qualities again. But instead of asked if I had one, they asked "Who's your boyfriend?" I was so mad that they just assumed that I had one! (Nobody had told them I did.) They just assumed I did and out of the blue wanted to hear all about him! Well I hate that side of my family and I NEVER want them to meet any of my boyfriends. They'd be totally embarrassing and would probably scare my bf off. So what do I do? I don't want to tell them anything about my boyfriend, I don't want them to think they'll get to "meet" him, and I don't want to tell them that they are nosey. What should I do? They probably think I'm rude because I did'nt even tell them his name! But I think they are rude for invading my business and assuming things. I don't care if they are teasing or not, it's sooo mega annoying! HELP!
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you shouldnt have to lie to your family, i know it gets on your nerves but their probally jus excited to see you. When then ask about your boyfriend just be like yeah i have one but its nothing serious yet.Even if it is, you can always say it isn't so they wont pester you about meeting him, and if they do just explain that you guys are not in that stage of your relationship yet, and maybe when it gets more serious then you'll consider it. Even if it's a partial lie, itll get you through dinner.
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DONT lie!! I did for a bit, but then I told them!! Yeah I thought that they would be embarrassing, but at least you aren't lying to your parents! They are doing that because they want to keep you safe and if they want to meet him, just let them, if he really loves you he would stay with you after that.
Hope I helped!!
*Marielle*
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What you should say to your family is that they shouldn't be invading your personal business. Or not to be rude... just say "i don't know" until they get sick of hearing it or until they get the picture.
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Omg, I HATE when my family does that! It's sooo annoying! You don't have to do this if you don't want, but the best thing to do is to tell them how you feel. Like, that you think it's rude that they just assume that you have a bf. Or if you can't do that, just say no every time they ask, or avoid them as much as possible. You can always tell your parents you're sick that day. Lol, no, I'm just kidding. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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anonymous -
It's not that your dad's side of the family is being nosey about your life, it's just that they are trying to see what a young lady you have become. And it appears that this communication gap is what is causing all the commotion. It seems that they're putting in the extra effort to get to know you but you are just shutting them out.
Don't you think it's ridiculous that you overreact to a simple question? Sure they assume, but have you considered what it might be based on? What's wrong about thinking you have a boyfriend? It might be because that you're family thinks that you are a great person inside and out, and that it would be hard to believe that you could possibly still be single. I'd take that as a compliment! How on earth could that be offensive?
Why I say this is because I went through the same thing with my mom's side of the family. They always asked if I had a boyfriend too, and like you, I said no (it was the truth). And when I did have a boyfriend, they asked about it again, and I said yes. Why they want to know is because I'm growing up, and if a guy is going to enter my life, they want to make him feel welcome.
I apologize if I sounded a little blunt and straightforward, but I think it's silly that all this is solely based on your family just trying to get to know you! When they ask, you don't have to go into detail about your boyfriend, just answer what they shoot at you. If they get too personal, just simply reply "Hey, he's my boyfriend. It's not like we're getting married!"
I hope this helps!
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