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boyfriend and his best friend
ok when i was 13 i dated my boyfriend nows best friend... i am now 16... he was my first love... i was in love with nathan (my boyfriend nows best friend) for almost 4 years....i have just recently got over him... i got over him when i was 15... i am now 16... paul(my boyfriend now) doesnt understand how much work it took to get over nathan... now paul still talks to nathan.. but i need nathan out of my life and paul is bringing him back into it... i dont know what to do to keep paul but also keep nathan out of my life... i dont want to tell him to chose cuz thats not right.... please help!!!!!!
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Well.. this is a hard situation. If Nathan is causeing some problems in your relationship maybe you should talk to Paul about how nathan is and i think Paul will understand. I was kind of in that 'hard to get over' situation before and its hard i know, so you dont need that back in your life because you got over it and are with Paul now so just make sure he knows all of that. I dunno this one`s a little hard to explain coment if u need nemore help wit this! Hope i helped. xo-ashley
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Ok, you've got some big issues here. First off, for your boyfriend, Paul, say to him, "When I told you that it took forever to get over Nathan, I meant it by if I continue to see him, those feelings will crawl right back." He will get the idea about it, but as for the drug thing, you need to really get a drug-free guy, if hes been doing drugs. That guy needs to be honest with you. Ask him straight up, "Paul, I don't want explainations or arguements, I want a yes, or no, are you doing any type of drugs at all?" If he says no, then you should at least ask Nathan, I know you don't need him in your life, but you care about Paul, and even if it takes a ask him and walk away fast to get an honest answer, do it. If it turns out that Nathan says yes, confront the issue to him, and ask him. When you tell me it wouldn't be right to take Nathan out of his life, it shouldn't be to him, because it could mean losing interest from his girlfriend. This guy sounds like a big problem that you're in love with. What if it turns out that he was lying about doing drugs, not only would you have to add drugs, but then comes dishonesty. Honesty plays a big part in relationships, theres more fights to come your way if this continues, and then, what if he won't try quittung for you? He may not seem like a problem now, but he will be. What you can actually do about the Nathan situation is to not be around him while around Nathan, I hope you are not thinking right no, "but hes with him all of the time!" Thats another problem to add, I am seriously not trying to be a jerk, or harsh, I am saying that this guy will probably not last. A good way of getting off of drugs is rehab. But, you need to get this guy to listen to you instead of fight.
-TheTeenGirl
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First of all are you sure Paul is drug free? I sure hope so. You don't even want to deal with that kind of mess.
Is it possible that Paul is trying to help Nathan out, maybe trying to get him to get help, or are they just friends? I'm just full of questions tonight! I have a bad habit of thinking out loud, sorry.Maybe you should ask yourself these things though.He's really not much of a friend if he isn't though. So that brings us right back where we started!
The ideal situation would be for you to ditch him. But, I don't suppose that's possible for you yet. I do think he should have more respect for your feelings on this.It's not nice to make him choose,however Nathan is bad news.Never mind that he's your ex he has major problems that could get Paul in trouble too if he were in the wrong place at the wrong time.Then where would you be?
I don't think you are asking to much in this case to tell him that you don't like him hanging around with Nathan.Tell him you are concerned for his saftey and what it would do to you if he should get caught up in Nathans problems.
No matter what you decide to do, You will probably ALWAYS have some feelings for Nathan.Bad as he is today he was your first love.
We always tend to remember those guys! I sure hope all works out for you.Sorry I couldn't be more help.Feel free to ask again if you think of anything else that would be of help.
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try to avoid nathan. just tell paul that he can hang out with nathan as much as he wants, just don`t bring him around you. you don`t have to make paul choose, just make sure he`s not with both of you at the same time.
x3 KaTiE LyNn
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Keep your boyfriend. When Nathan comes into the picture, don't be rude about it, but think about a way to leave it be. You can always avoid Nathan if you choose. If you don't want Nathan in your life, let him know how you feel!
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