Question Posted Saturday January 29 2005, 12:27 pm
I am part of a group of 5 with my best friend who i have known longer than everyone else. My best friend has been really attached to me and i feel like she doesn't want me to be friends with anyone but her. when i told her how i felt she started screaming at me and denyed it. Also, i never get any alone time with my boyfriend because she is always there and when i told her if i could talk to him alone she was like sure i'll walk behind you... but i wanted her to like be 100 feet away from us because he acts so much more romantic when she isn't around. How can i tell her how i feel without her screaming at me again? I want to have other friends besides her because every one i am friends with, she is friends with too... what do i do?
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Additional info, added Saturday January 29 2005, 2:16 pm: P.s. I will try and take a break from her... but i am in 3 of her classes and her lunch period ... also, she'll still wanna walk with me and my boyfriend... how can i tell her to lay off. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? IPIiINIkI_my_anti_drug answered Saturday January 29 2005, 8:26 pm: Hey, best friends tend to do that because you are the only person giving attention to her. Just tell her, i dont really know how to approch this situation, but i just want to get starigh to the point, you are a nice girl and all, but somtimes it is a bit overwhelming. I mean i love you but we are too clingy!! Somtimes i just want to be with my boyfriend alone.
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lilcubanhoney93 answered Saturday January 29 2005, 2:50 pm: i totally know how u feel my bf serina is the exact same way and i was sick and tired of having the same exact friends so i joined cheerleading out of school and then i made some totally new friends so may be u should join a club with out her finde a club or sport that she hates and join [ lilcubanhoney93's advice column | Ask lilcubanhoney93 A Question ]
gsngirl7 answered Saturday January 29 2005, 1:52 pm: Try talking to her. Just tell her that you feel she is being to clingy. If she still keeps it up, try not telling her your plans and keep some distance from her. If she your best friend, she'll understand. She should get the hint soon. Hope my advice helps! [ gsngirl7's advice column | Ask gsngirl7 A Question ]
So you want to get peace from your clingy best bud? Obviously telling her to leave you alone for a bit isnt working.. so why not just leave? Take a break from this overbearing relationship for awhile. Dont tell her where your going or what your doing. Dont answer the phone for awhile. If she wont give you your space then take it! Dont let anyone deny you your personal space. Your rents already keep tabs on your life. You dont need your best doing it too!
Your bud needs to learn to have a life of her own. She needs hobbies and friends other than you. She could also put that clingy-ness to use and get herself a boyfriend.
So take a break. Go on holiday from your bud. Tell her if she doesnt lay off then you're going to perminatly put her off.
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