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help!!
okay i have a problem, but its not mine, its my friends. my friend has been talking to this person on AOL instant messanger for about a week. let's call my friend Bob and let's call who he's been talking to Mary (not real names) Bob is one of my BEST friends in the whole world. he tells me that Mary and him are really getting along and that she always says how she loves him, even though they've only been talking for a week. he isnt sure if he's scared of her or anything, but he told me that he thinks she's sort of like a stalker and you know stuff like that. theres two ways he can go about letting her go:
1) just telling her to stop being so obessive
2) be a jerk and maybe she'll stop liking him
he doesnt want to do #1 because it would most likely hurt her a lot. but i dont think he should do #2 because thats dishonest and mean. please help!!! what should he do?
thanks so much!! and if you have anyother questions, ask me and i'll give you my email
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wow ok i have the same problem with some of mi friends. Well i think he should do #1 cuz it might hurt her but at least she will get a hint. It seems like they dont eachother enough to say i love you or w/e and she needs to understand that. #2 might make him look like a jerk and that will make his rep. change to a jerk if he realli isnt. He might not want to hurt her but it might be the only way.
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just block her. or like stop talking to her, make a new screen name
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MiSs kElS
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If this Mary starts to get creepy, block her. It could get ugly, so have Bob give her an explanation first. I know for a fact Internet relationships rarely work out.
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well either way is sorta a bad way to go about it.. but if you think about it. theyve known eachother for like a week so letting her go shouldnt hurt her so much.. + if shes reely so obsessive. its worth it.
xO-sara
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ok well if ur friend thinks she is being obsessive he could block her and in a couple weeks unblock her and if she says something about him not beign online for a while and he could make up a lie but that would be lying... there is really no way of getting out of it but lying and like I always say lying makes a problem of the future but telling the truth makes a problem of the past... so he could just tell her the truth and she would prolly be mad at him so much she wouldn't talk to him lol..
~Kaydee~
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option #1 is kinda of stupid to do and "2 as you siad is to mean. i would tell your friend bob to stop talking to her or he can block her and never stop talking to her again.
xOx morgan
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just tell him to say he just want to be friends
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Option number one would hurt her the least. Tell him that right away. Do not simply be a jerk to the poor girl so she'll stop liking him. First off, if she's really that obsessive then there is no way she'll simply stop liking him. She will most likely put up with his asshole-ness, and then her self esteem will go further and further down.
He needs to do the right thing and be honest with her. Option number 2 is simply the easy way out for him. Saying that he doesn't want to do it because it will hurt her is just an excuse that he's using to make himself feel better. He only wants to do it because it will be easier on him, not her.
Make him tell her the truth. That's what everyone deserves.
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