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Newlywed needs help writing Christmas cards to new family
Please help.
My husband is in the Military overseas in Iraq. He has been gone since Feb 2004, he was still my boyfriend then. In May, he called me to tell me that they were granting him leave in July and wasked me to marry him, much to the dismay of his family. Before the wedding, I had never met any of his family. Now, he is still gone and I am having trouble writing my new family Christmas cards. My sister in-law sent me a list of who I should send cards to, but I just don't know what to say. Should I come up with a few "generic" lines or should I try to make it all little more personal. Should I sign his name? I've never met or even spoken with 99% of his family. On top of it all, while he was home, I got pregnant. I know they are not happy about that. My friend said I should send out a Christmas card with the ultrasound. That doesn't seem appropriate, but I just don't know the etiquette on this type of unusual situation. I know I am under the microscope right now, and I want to do the right thing. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Jeez no offesense but the sister in law telling you who to write..hello....
Ok..yeah..just drop a note saying that you gus were married on so and so and are expectning a child in.. your husband is in Iraq and that both of you wish that family a peaceful Christmas.
Ps my hubby never met my family eihter till I got married..did NOT want to scare him away..lol
No..no card with the ultrasound..nope..that is not cool..you know his family will get used to the idea(give them time)..ok...besides..lots of soldiers get married and have kids during times of crisis..see it is a way to AFFIRM what a wonderful life they have..and give them something to come back too.
Congratulations!!!
Ps you are a soon to be mom now..who cares what his family thinks..you do what YOU think..he would want YOU to do.
I hope you are taking care of yourself...this is a joyous time!!
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hmm this is hard... well i personally think that you should call all of them and throw a little christmas shindig or party and then just go around being a good host... otherwise with the cards you should probably be like i dunno "thinking of you" and then have the ultrasound... give the list of names you would like to name the child... and then tell them if it's a girl or boy
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if you're at a loss for what to say, just say that you are really looking forward to getting to know them and wish you had gotten more time with them before the wedding to talk to them, that you love their son (or nephew or whatever) very much and are overjoyed to be a part of their family. even though yor aren't close to your in laws, speak in a very personal way because that will give off the closeness vibe and they will feel it. if you say something generic like "happy holidays!!" then they will consequently feel the distance between you and them. let them know you, and they probably will loosen up.
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