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Cousin, Me and my Ex - Bad Situation -sorry it's long
My cousin, lets call her B, is the same age as me. Over the summer, I had a party and I invited her, friends of mine and even my ex, we'll call him D. They hit it off right away. About a week later, we all went bowling and my other cousin came up to me and asked if there was anything going on between B and D. I said no. So over the course of the night I saw them flirting, got upset and did not have a good night that night. That night D called me and asked me if anything was wrong and I told him everything about that night. Then the next day B called me and asked me if I would get upset if the two of them would hang out. I said yes at first, and then B said that D said "he would never date her cuz she wasnt his type" After that I said I dont mind at all- my mind was at ease. A couple days went by and B had a party at her house with only close friends of ours. I didn't spend the night cuz I had to work the next day. I found out D was spending the night at her house along with one other guy. I was upset about that.
My friends are upset at me for thinking anything was happening between B and D, but I think something was going on between them. They are both the very flirtatious type and she puts out more than me.
Was it wrong of me to get upset about my cousin hanging out with my ex? I mean, over the summer we were going to get back together but never did. I know how D acts when he likes a girl and he acted that way with B. So I asked my friend and he got upset at me.
Now I don't talk to any of them, my ex, cousin or the friend.
But anyways, should I have been upset about them hanging out?
im really sorry this is long...
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u should have been upset about them hanging out. it was your ex and "B" was flirting with "D" and since you and D were goin to get back together then i have the right to be mad at them but you really shouldnt stop talking to them because she is your cousin and he is your ex and if you still like him them you should really talk to him. ~*L*~
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hell no u shdoultn b upset u have feelins and r entitled 2 express them i think u shodul tell ur cuz n ex exactly how u feel! it mite change things w. ur ex and mayb u guys will hook up u neva kno!
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OF COURSE YOU SHOULD BE MAD, THAT IS YOUR EX BOYFRIEND AND ESPECIALLY IF U GUYS WERE PLANNING TO GET BACK TOGETHER. THAT IS YOUR COUSIN THAT IS LOW. FOR HER TO DO THAT, THAT IS DISGUSTING. I DONT KNOW IF I COULD EVER FORGIVE HER FOR THAT. THATS WRONG!!!!!DONT WORRY ABOUT IT BEING SO LONG ITS BETTER THAT WAY BECAUSE US ADVICE COLUMNISTS UNDERSTAND IT BETTER!!!BYE!!!
PS:IM SORRY THAT THAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU THATS MESSED UP!!!
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Hmm... You know what? What your feeling is natural. It's not your fault your upset. Maybe you need closure from your ex, or the fact that your cousin (whom I'm assuming is very close to you) is indirectly betraying you by hanging out with your ex.
"Do you still like your ex?" Ask yourself that. If you do, then obviously that's the reason why you're upset. If you don't, then maybe you feel betrayed by your cousin.
To conclude my statement: No, it was not wrong of you to get upset. I'm not sure if you should've been upset, though. It all depends on how you feel about your ex.
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Well, my opinion is this. You should've told them both in the beginning that you would get upset if they hooked up because you know, how are they supposed to know you are going to get angry at them because they liked eachother. On the other hand D told you he didn't like her, yet he flirted with her a lot. But if he is a very flirtatious type maybe that was how he was acting but nothing more going on. You really needed to talk to him about it instead of getting mad. This happened with 2 good friends of mine. I still liked this guy and he knew it and he was one of my good friends and this girl was one of my good friends and me and her and him went to the movies and out to eat and she told me that she didn't like him and she wouldn't date him anyways because I used to like him (I didn't realize I still liked him). Then later he also talked to me, but he told me he liked her. Then the next week and a half was hell because I was in fights with both of them because the girl ended up liking him and she lied to me about it and other things. Like she told my friends also that she wouldn't date him. Then, my best friend that is also good friends with her told her that she was gonna quit being friends with her if she didn't stop liking him unless I decided to be friends with the girl because by that time me and her quit being friends and in the end she told him she had to break it off because she'd rather be friends with him and I'm not friends with him anymore and the girl and him are hooking up now, but it doesn't bother me anymore because I don't hang out with them together. Sorry my story was long lol. -Kayla
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yea,hey it sucks, anyone can see that but no way! like u have the right to be pissed at all of them like ur ex is obviously just a stoner loser cuz u seem like a great girl and ur cousin sry, no offense kinda seems liek a biotch to me for doing somethign like tht to u! So i think yea u have a right to be mad but just get over it and except the fact tht they r both loser biotchs! k?
<3 Jen
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