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My cousin, lets call her B, is the same age as me. Over the summer, I had a party and I invited her, friends of mine and even my ex, we'll call him D. They hit it off right away. About a week later, we all went bowling and my other cousin came up to me and asked if there was anything going on between B and D. I said no. So over the course of the night I saw them flirting, got upset and did not have a good night that night. That night D called me and asked me if anything was wrong and I told him everything about that night. Then the next day B called me and asked me if I would get upset if the two of them would hang out. I said yes at first, and then B said that D said "he would never date her cuz she wasnt his type" After that I said I dont mind at all- my mind was at ease. A couple days went by and B had a party at her house with only close friends of ours. I didn't spend the night cuz I had to work the next day. I found out D was spending the night at her house along with one other guy. I was upset about that.

My friends are upset at me for thinking anything was happening between B and D, but I think something was going on between them. They are both the very flirtatious type and she puts out more than me.

Was it wrong of me to get upset about my cousin hanging out with my ex? I mean, over the summer we were going to get back together but never did. I know how D acts when he likes a girl and he acted that way with B. So I asked my friend and he got upset at me.

Now I don't talk to any of them, my ex, cousin or the friend.

But anyways, should I have been upset about them hanging out?


im really sorry this is long...

Hmm... You know what? What your feeling is natural. It's not your fault your upset. Maybe you need closure from your ex, or the fact that your cousin (whom I'm assuming is very close to you) is indirectly betraying you by hanging out with your ex.

"Do you still like your ex?" Ask yourself that. If you do, then obviously that's the reason why you're upset. If you don't, then maybe you feel betrayed by your cousin.

To conclude my statement: No, it was not wrong of you to get upset. I'm not sure if you should've been upset, though. It all depends on how you feel about your ex.

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