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i feel like im stuck in the middle *kinda*
ok here is the thing...im in 9th grade and so are my 2 friends..i know one of my friends since 7th grade and one since last year (8th) and well they went out from like 01/06/04 to yesterday (11/04/04)...she broke up w/ him bc he wasnt a boyfriend type person who didnt do much..they basically acted like friends who kissed (pecked) nothing else...anyways she broke up w/ him in front of me, my friend kevin and becky outside @ dismal...and after this happened becky was trying to get them back together..and it didnt work and he walked off w/ our other friend matt and she started crying as the 4 of us (me, her..becky and kevin) were walking to the busses..and we took turns holding her and all..then i was talking to her on-line and all last night and she said how she was still crying and i said well you made a good point and all about dumping him..dont keep saying to your self "why did i do that" ...and all..today she came into english crying, and my friend and i were just holding her and all....and we stood there for like 5 minutes and all..she showed me a note he wrote to her and inside was a poem of goodbye and all..and the teacher sent her and my friend to the time out room *basically guidence but all they do is listen to ur problems and thats basically all* and they came back after like 5 mins and she was all calm and etc..then 6th period lunch i was talking to my friend about what was gonna happen 9th period bc we all have study hall etc...it came to 9th period..we didnt even sit at the table...we sat on the floor in the corner of the caf..and after the others decided to ask to get a table open they sat at the table and i remained on the floor w/ her..and at one point i got up and went over to him and asked if he was mad at her bc she wanted to know..so i asked and he said "yeahh bc there was no good reason for why we broke up" and i came back and i told her and she says "yeah there is he didnt act like a bf!" and i said "yeah i knoww i agreeee" then i went back and i asked him why he didnt want to be friends w/ her anymore and he said " i didnt say that! im just steamed i need time to cool off" and i said "then?" he said "then we may become friends again" and i asked "like a month?" and he said " i just need time to cool off" and i went back to her and told her..and she told me to tell him something i dont remember what and that she stilled loves him and i went and told him..and he like "i dont caree" and i went back and i told her..and she was holding a braclet in her hand that she always wears and i know she wasnt trying to cry and i could see it her eyes that she wanted to but she didnt want to do it in front of him..and im not quite sureee...
any advice anyways ways of helpin her??? thx
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tell them that itz not ur problem.
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honey, stop being the go between, they're growing up, and they need to learn to talk to each other. besides, he may not see how she truly feels if she doesn't talk to him... and she might not know how she truly feels unless she talks to him. best of luck
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your story is too long... but if ur friend broke up with this kid why is she crying? ahh im so confused. tell her he told you he was for a fact homosexual and maybe she wont like him then
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Don't tell her anything like "Get over it", while she's still sad, because this will make her cry even more. Comfort her as best as you can, but think of her feelings too.
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Yea that is a tough situation. Well...all she really can do is give it time. SHe can still like him but she really hurt him. After a while, they'll become friends again and who knows, maybe they'll even go back out. But you cant rush things. It wont work out if they try and become friends right away
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Let her have her time of grieving... she shouldn't be crying because she broke up with him! (In my opinion, she shouldn't have broke up with him, but should have talked to him and ask him why they weren't like b/f and g/f) I hoped i helped!! :)
xO Chelsea Ox
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Just tell her she can find other guys, because there are going to be new guys. Trust me! She will cry for a while, but just tell her one day she'll get over him and find a new and better guy. it just takes time, but when she crys just be there for her. So yeah day by day it will get better!
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