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my best friends father recently died, althoght i wasnt that close to him b/c her parents here divorced adn he liked like 6 hours away
he was only 42
please help me i dont no what to say to my friend
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Just be there for her. It's no use telling her things will be ok cause right now, she probably wont believe a word you say. Just make sure you're there for her and include her in stuff and don't be insensitive. That's all she needs.
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I have a good idea. Treat her to ice cream at the mall and shop there all day. Tell her how sorry you are about her loss, and that you'll always be there for her. I think the mall and ice cream is a good idea. Keep letting her know how sorry you are. And just be a good friend.
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Well this is tough postion for all parties involved to be in. But I can totally relate to your case. No amount of "I'm sorrys" or anything along those lines can bring back your friends dad, or the feeling she would get when she hears his voice. There's always going to be a place in her heart that only he can fil for her. What you can do though, is be supportive and be there for you friend in every and any way possible. Like maybe if she has some old video tapes of the family and she invites you over, you could just sit there and and watch them with her and hug her when she starts to cry and it's okay for you to cry as well if you feel the urge to. You could also ask if there is anything you or your family could do to help her and her family. Like helping with funeral arrangements, money issues, food, etc. You could get her a present like that would be good for what she's going through. For example, a diary so she can write all her greifs in it, or a photo albumn to put all her pics of her dad in it. Also, get her a condolance card and write something sensitive in it. Make sure she is aware that you are going to be there for if she needs it. Far too often friends alienate their friends with the loss of a loved one because of being afraid or not knowing what to do. Just do good deeds from the heart. Maybe bring over some of her favorite movies or foods andj ust say "if you are wanting to watch 'em, go ahead nad I will watch them if you want me to." But also take into consideration, that your friends cope mechinism might be to sulk alone. And you have to respect that. So first ask her if there's anything you can do before you smother her. Just be there for her and maybe tell her that God and her dad are both smiling down and looking after her, and after this she will be closer to them both and a stronger person. Just be her friend. That's the best you can do. :)
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just try to be there for her. tell her tht ur sorry but dont tell her like 100 times or else she'll think about it too much. theres not much u can do except be with her and pray for her.
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The best thing for you to do is to be there for her when she wants to talk. There's really nothing specific to say.
♥ Lorelei
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