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Third Wheel
Me & my friend "Carrie" are really close. Thing is, she's really close to her soon to be step sister (me & her step. are friends, too) I always feel really jealous around them, because they get to hang out every day of the week & they have so many inside jokes & stuff that it makes me really depressed. Like we were shopping the other day & they saw a Barbie at Toys-r-us (don't ask y we were in there.... lol) & they were like "oh this one's me & that one's u!" It was like I wasn't even there! I mean, don't get me wrong, I love both of them, they're my best friends, but my stomach turns whenever they say or do something that I don't get, cuz I'm not close to anyone but them for the most part. I'm so confused
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Well just talk to them i know its hard to do its easier said then done but you gotta do it if you want things to be changed so ... just talk to them and ask them to include u in more things or maybe you could have another friends of yrous tag along with you 3 next time that way its equal cuz if you go with a group of friends and its a odd number someone is most likely to get left out and everybody knows that
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I think you should talk to both of them about this and they will include you in their inside jokes. Really sit down and talk to them and tell them how you feel.. and if they get mad their not your true friends.
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if u really are worried about it,try and talk to them,they probably dont even notice they are doing it.im sure they arent doin it on purpose.if they truly are ur best friends they will include u aswell after they talk,if it does carry on try and hang around with a different group of people i no its hard but u dnt want to feel like the third whell everytime u go out,u wnt to b invovled.
i hope this has helped.
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hey, ok first calm down. dont be so upset if you dont get one of their inside jokes. theyre not ignoring you theyre just having fun like you always do with your friends and if you get that upset why dont you become friends with another girl and then the 4 of you can hang out and you wont feel like a third wheel. that way when your friend and her sis are talking amongst themselves you too have someone to goof off with.
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You're being slightly over-analytical. Your friend "Carrie" is probably ecstatic at the fact that she will have a real 'sister'. Especially if she is an only child, she is appreciating the bond she has formed with her new chum.
Yes you are jealous and yes it is very normal, but remember that you are also their friend and it's not their intention to make you the third wheel.
When you are around them, speak up a little. Talk to both of them. Don't walk behind them and sigh everytime you hear an inside joke.
It's tough having to share your bestest buddy of all, but you have to remember that Carrie is probably finding this new experience with her soon-to-be step sis an easier transition to her reaction to her parent re-marrying. You have to accept and respect that.
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that has happened to me one time
just tell them the truth if it realy bothers you
or when there talking try to talk with them like if they say i have a dog say i like dogs or something just get in to there talk good luck!
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this is acsactly wat i'm triing to deal with now my friend lynn and a girl named heather always talk.i'm always left out.so tell her how you fell ( both of them) if they r as good of friends you say they r they will under stand and let you in.
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