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Hi, my friend from church is 18 and shes pregnant. She started going out with a non-christian guy and my youth group thought it wouldent be a good idea. She wont come to church, shes too ashamed. But my church + pastor has told her many times that we wont think of her differently. Because we dont! We love her so much and we wanna help her get through this. I miss her so much, I havent seen her in 2 months. :( She doesnt really like to talk to anyone from church. She only talks to her mom dad & siblings...I want to call her, but im scared cuz her bf might not lemme talk to her..or she might not talk to me..and i wouldent know what to say!! plz help in any way you can:)
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I think you should definitely call her. Even if she was a non-Christian, she would be feeling shame and disappointment in herself. Being Christian only makes those feelings much more intense.
She's probably afraid to contact you, but I bet a phone call or visit would mean a LOT to her. As for knowing what to say, why not pray about it? Or imagine what you would want someone to say?
I'm imagining she'll want your support, and also a dash of normalness. Let her know what's going on in church, in your life, in school. You can be her connection to the outside world.
So call her. You'll do fine, and you'll make her day.
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Well first of all I think you should most definiely call her!! Keep in touch and let her know that you care and will be there for her. Tell her the same goes for her church! And she may just change her mind!
PS~I'll keep her in my prayers! :)
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She's probably very embarrassed and ashamed. Even though she knows that you guys won't think less of her, she thinks less of herself. She's probably uncomfortable. Write her a letter or call her, but don't say like "I don't care that you're pregnant". Just be like "Hey, it's *your name*, I was just calling to chat." and don't even bring it up. Just chat with her, to let her know you're still buds.
~Laura~
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id call her and tell her the honest truth. How you feel and how that people at the church feel. Maybe she'll change her mind, or maybe not, but at least you've got it off your chest.
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I say pray about the whole thing if you haven't already. And if you have, keep praying and be specific in prayer and I'll pray for you in regards that things will get better for your friend and even her boyfriend. She's going through a tough time right now, but just let her know like you mentioned, that you love her and so does the church and that we all make mistakes, but god forgives us for our sins, and that no one should judge others.
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Call up. Do the right thing. Your pastor is doing exactly the right thing!! If you do get a hold of her, let her know that she has more of a reason to be at that church than anyone else. And not for a bad reason! Just because she can use some extra guidance. I believe in sex when your married and all that, im a christian, but also, it could be worse. She could be 14 and pregnant. You know what I mean? 18 is still very young but it isnt the worst. Tell her that she could use her experience as a way to reach out to other girls her around that age thinking of having sex. Let her know of her potential and her purpose. If her boyfriend wont let you talk to her, show up at her house. Honestly, go there. Id say you have a 90% no one will turn you away if your at the door. This girl needs friends more than ever. Surround her with godly love, and give her support, and enforce her to go to youth group! Tell her no one there will judge, and if they do happen to, their not being a very good christian themselves!!!
GL...hpe everything goes smooth with the situation..... my prayers are out there
XOXOX
melzii
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god bless!!
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Call her, and tell her that you may not agree with what she has done, she is stil special to you, and no matter what you want to help her with the baby. Even go over there and talk to her personally if you have to!! You have to help her so that she doesnt make the horrible mistake of abortion!!
**_Nicole_**
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