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So all of my life I have been living with my parents, the people I consider to be my parents and I love to death, but not the people who conceived me. I was put up for adoption at birth; but then luckily never had to live in foster care, cos I was adopted just over two weeks after. But I just have so many questions for them. Why would be the most prominant coming to my mind. I do not regret for one second the life that I ended up with, I would just really appreciate some answers. I don't even know much about them at all. I don't know what I should do. I mean, should I try to find my parents? What if they don't want to be found? Why would my "parents" I live with wait until I turned 17 to tell me all this. I'm so mad, they should have told me long ago. I don't know what I should do. Does anyone have any ideas?
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Your parents just wanted to wait until you were old enough so that way you could understand. As for looking for your birth parents I think that you should talk to your parents about them to see if they know anything about them. If not ask them if they could help you look for them because they would understand that you would like to know who your parents were and why they had to put you up for adoption. Besides your birth parents are probably wondering how you're doing and how you turned out. I hope that I help you.
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Hun, you have to try to find your birth parents. I know if you don't you'll always be wondering what might have been there, what you're missing, ect. Your parents probably only told you this now because, they thought you would understand it a bit better and handle it in a more mature way. I'm pretty sure if they were to tell you at the age of 7, you wouldn't understand and such. So, it's better to tell you at, 13-15 plus, I'd say. If you want to find out more about your birth parents, go to a adoption agency you were adopted through. I'm sure you can find your birth parents through there (If your parents don't know too much about them). Just tell your parents that you'll always love them and they will always be your true parents - but, you have to know who your birth parents are. There's awhole other life out there waiting to be found - so find it. I say go for it and ask them tons of questions. And yes, do find your birth parents!
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I dont know where I heard this from, but I heard it was better to tell your kid growing up that they were adopted so their not shocked when they learn at like 16. But I mean how can you explain that to a 5 year old? I think what they did for you was what they thought was best. Your 17 and your mature..they knew you could handle it. Now that you know, you should ask them questions. If they dont know much try looking up the adoption agency you were adopted through. They have to give you some infomation. Trying to find answers might take a while, and sometimes finding answers takes forever..but you should try. Good luck!!
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if its really important to you that you know your birth parents, then you should. Maybe you will feel better once your unanswered questions have been answered. Just make sure you let your parents know you are not doing it to replace them.
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