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I have a problem!
Ok well...Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now and are now expecting a lil girl in october.I have put up with alot these past 2 years with him drinking and a bunch of other stuff and finally i got him to quit alot of stuff he use to do,and hes been doing really good except i see a pattern here.Its like everytime im not around he decides to go somewheres and drink and then gets himself in trouble no matter what.Just the other night a cop brought him here around 3 in the morning and he was drinking!He needs some help and i dont know what to do anymore.Hes going to be 22 but acts like hes 16 still.I love him so much but i dont want the baby to be around this shit.What should i do?? :*-( (Sorry its so long...)
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i think u just need to tell him to change his act or u leave becuase evn though u love him its not fair that u have to deal with all his childish acts u need someone who can take care of u not the other way around
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Hey~I would tell him, if I ever see something or hear of whatever he does again that it might be over. Because i wouldn't want my baby to be around that crap either. So just tell him how you feel and Just go from there. I hope I helped! ~Paige~
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You certainly need to ask yourself if this is the kind of man you want around your child. I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend an offer and ultimatum. Something along the lines of, "Clean up your act, or I'm not going to allow you to take part in your child's life."
Once he understands that you are severly serious about this issue, hopefully he will be more ready to take proper steps. Many people have already said counseling or AA and I think thats a great idea. If he only behaves when you are watching him, he obviously has self control issues, and AA has been helping millions and people since 1935.
For more information check out www.aa.org
You can even find local meetings.
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I definately wouldnt let this slip by...sit him down and have a serious conversation abot your feelings and concerns. Suggest to him that he gets help..tell him you dont want your first child to be in that kind of enviroment. Your bf has to WANT to get help. If he isnt dedicated to fixing his problem..he wont get anywhere. Hopefully he`ll listen to you and really try and straighten up his act. Best of luck and congrats on the baby girl :)
-melissa
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U need 2 sit him down and maybe say something along the lines of (but maybe not as rude) "Do u realize that in _ months ur gonna be a father? U need 2 take tht responsibility and act ur age.." If this doesnt work there r many other possibillities such as a conselour, rehab or aaa group...Hope I helped!
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hey. i would recommend going to a counsler or something. maybe you and him should go and voice all your concerns to the counsler. the counsler person will help and shell give him some medicine to lyk help not to think about drinking and itll keep his mind busy so he wont drink (ive been on it before. except my problem wasnt drinking lol.maybe you can seriously sit down and talk to im ONE LAST TIME. and tell him that you are so upset with his behavior sometimes and that you dont want him to have a bad influence on the baby and then give him 3 chances and be lyk if i catch you drinking 3 more times and your drunk then im leaving you or something..cuz he can be drinking all of the time. thats crazy and esp around your new baby.....its just NOT right
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Rehab.
-xXoBrianna
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