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I really need help... I started dating an ex of mine thursday night.. Well today we started fighting. My cousin told me that he was just using me for sex. and I guess I kinda believed it. but I've been acting kinda shady towards him and he asked why. So i kinda mentioned it to him. and now hes really pissed off.. he hates my cousin.. he doesnt want me around him when I'm with her. and I'm almost always with her. but then hes like I'm going to bed.. I was like dont be mad at me. and he got off.. didnt even tell me he loved me. I'm afraid I really ruined things with him. and I love him more then anything in the world. I dont/cant lose him.. HELP! I'm crying here.. I dont know what to do!!
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He should learn to get along with your cousin because that my crying friend, is the first sign of OSSA. What is OSSA? It stands for over-sensitive spoiled asshole. If you let this OSSA get away with having these mood swings and not learning how to deal, then expect problems later on.
Act like him going to bed doesn't matter, because it really doesn't. He is going to bed, that is alright. If he's doing that to give you guys the cold shoulder, ignore it and all that stupid crap will go away. Ignore the OSSA's behavior and whatnot and he will stop moping and get on with life.
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i have friends that dont get along with each other, i hate one of my best friends friend. we just dont hang out at the same time problem solved really. gotta wonder how would your cousin know? i dont think hed tell him. anyways i think you might have ruined it. contrary to popular beliefs guys do have feelings, and they are fragile. my guess is he really does like you, however when you said that he probably felt like if he ever did want to fool around with you youd think he was just using you. basically the best thing you can do is appoligize and then kiss him.
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Well,it sounds like you and this guy need to have a talk,face-to-face.What concerns me is the fact that he got so defensive so quickly when you mentioned what you had been told,and the fact that he is rude enough to TELL you not to hang out with someone,much less your own cousin.But,that's not to say he's guilty of anything.It's possible your cousin is jealous and fears he's going to take your attention away from her,and therefore was willing to say anything to break you up.But she could've been telling you the truth.I'm wondering why you say you believed it when she told you he was only using you for sex?Had you suspected this before?At any rate,sit down with your guy and let him know that you were just telling him what you had been told.Express to him how much you care about him,but that you need and deserve to know the truth.Also let him know that you don't appreciate him telling you who you can and can't hang out with!!He has NO right to do that!Never settle or let someone play you out like that.But for now,you don't know anything for a fact,so sit down and talk with your boy,give him a chance to give his side of the story!! Hope this helps ya some!Let me know what happens! :)
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I think you definitely need to talk to him and explain everything. tell him that even though he may not like her, you trust your cousin. explain that what she said really hit a nerve with you and maybe by her suggesting it you started to see something that wasnt there. or it at least put some doubt in your head. he should have given you a chance to explain and tried to reassure you that it wasnt true. so i guess all you really can do is talk to him and try to work things out.
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Some guys have been known for using girls for sex. I think that you should tell him that you just wanted to know because this is something that you really suprised you to hear from your cousin . If he's a good guy he will tell you the truth and be upfront with you if he honestly loves you back. Next time your with him try to withold from sex and see if he starts 2 get frustrated then thats another way you can tell. Hope i helped.
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