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How to make the mother appriciate what she has
I have autistic triplet brothers who are 9 1/2 years old. My mother had them for the first 5 years, then the father had them for 2 years and now my mom has them again. She always complaining about how hard her life is and she wants to go crazy and she says sometimes she wants to put them in homes because they drive her so crazy. How can i get her to appriciate my brothers more and understand that she has done so well with them and to not give up?
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i know how having an autistic relative is, i have a 18 year old cousin who cant care for himself. my aunt has a huge responsibility taking care of him, but the outcome is so great! hes such a sweetheart (as im sure your brothers are) she probably is saying she wants them in homes out of frustration. maybe you could help her with the housework or with your brother's care-taking. i know its difficult, but you guys can and will get through this.
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I have an autistic brother and I see where your mom is coming from. I don't think my mother could live with three of them. It's very difficult because she has to worry day in and day out about their futures,as I do with my brother. Ask her if she's really serious about putting them in homes,she may just be venting frustrations. Your mother loves you and your brothers,it's just so hard when you say "The red car went down the road. What went down the road?" "I dunno." "What color was it?" I dunno. That's the answer I get and your mother and mine both sometimes say things they don't mean.
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Well before your mom gets home for work or while shes out make your brothers do something sweet. Have them all make her cards (if you can get them to, or help them a bit if they need it) or have them help you make a dinner... and she'll see there sweet side. Tell her its her own sons and she cant do that. Make them show some manners and she'll see they're not bad. Also ... offer to baby sit or take them out for a walk or something to give her SOME free space. Teach them some manners and let her see theyre sweeet... and show her some baby pictures of them. She'll warm up... plus you should explain how mean that really is to say about her own sons. Good luck xoxo -- ps offer to do more chores, take her stress away, some ppl say things they dont mean under stress
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wow that is a great that u are caring about an important matter. Tell ur mom that should shud be happy that she is doing something good and caring about ur brothers..tell her u know its hard but isnt it rewarding?? shes helping someone elses lives out who really need her help. Ur mom shud b proud of wat a great thing she is doing and that she is in a better condition than ur brothers. List all the things that are good about ur moms life and show her the list!! i hope this helps...good luck
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