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Is she REALLY true friend?
I have a friend who i know would always stick up for me in the worst situations, but it seems whenever i do something wrong or get her angry she doesnt want to talk to me anymore and says she hates me. She says this is because she is a very emotional friend, but i'm not sure if that is completley true. She always sticks up for me whenver someone makes fun of my voice because it sounds like a cartoons and she always wants to talk to me, but when we get into fights some of the things she says can be very hurtful. Like just the other day she said on the phone she didnt wanna talk to me so i said then hang up cuz ur wasting my minutesand she got really mad and started accusing me of stealing the guy she liked away from her. She said she hated me and that i was some stupid hoe and many more mean things like that. The next day she said she was sorry for getting all emotional and asked if i would forgive her, but deep down i wanted to say NO i dont forgive you, but if i was to do that i know that the friendship would be over forever and i dont want it to end for some strange reason. I dont know what it is inside of me that makes me keep wanting to be friends with her, but all i do know is that when i start to think about not being friends anymore i get so sad and think about how bad of a friend i am and i just dont know what to do......plz someone give me some good advice on this one! Thanks
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well just give your friend some time and try to explain that you really didnt mean to hurt her.or just wait she'll forgive you somehow.
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wow. she seems like she is a pretty angry person and is taking it out on you for no apparent reason. you arent a bad friend at all. you shouldnt have forgiven her so quickly though.. that shows her that she can do whatever her mean little heart desires to you and you will forgive her the very next day. you should have had her groveling to be your friend again because hate is a very strong word. next time she pulls something like this, dont talk to her for a few days and make sure she REALLY means it when she apologises.
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Let me tell you this...you are NOT a bad friend! From what you described, it looks like SHE is being the bad friend. Wow, she is really emotional isn't she? That's really nice of her sticking up to you and apologizing, but those are really hurtful things she said to you. I don't think anyone should EVER EVER say they hate someone ESPECIALLY if they don't mean it. Hate is such a strong word...don't you agree? Explain to her exactly how you feel. Be sure to mention about when you didn't want to forgive her. Be gentle with her...since she's really emotional. Perhaps you both need some time apart for a little bit. Let things cool off. If, in the end, your gut still doesn't want to forgive her, I'd say to believe your gut. Her feelings matter, but remember...yours do too.
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Friends get in fights and say messed up things to eachother. It happens. Obviously you think she is a good friend, and can't let her go, so just stick with her.
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