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my best friend is dating my ex...what should i do? i still l
hey, i am sixteen and i have dated a guy for 1 year and i absolutley love him..we did so much fun stuff together and we would mail eachother letters and pictures and everything else.. i broke up with him a few weeks ago.. and i realize i love him.. i can't get him off of my mind.. he is all i think about.. and now my best freind is gonna go out with him.. i was so pissed off at her.. she wonders why i am so mad and tells me to get over it.. i still love him.. we were suppose to get back together, but she came along and she ruined it all..she told me it was an accident and she dindt mean it, bullshit.. he told me he still loved me too... then i asked him if he wanted to go back out and he said fuck no.. then he called me a physcho bitch only b/c i was upset that they were gonna go out..i mean a few weeks ago he loved me.. i never felt like this before in a relationship.. we were commited to eachother.. and some best friend she is huh? what am i suppose to do? WE BROKE UP BECAUSE..i only broke up with him b/c he gave me lots of attitude, and he hung out with his freinds more then he did with me.. i felt like i was a nobody. we barely ever saw eachother and he called me like only like once every 2 weeks..and i got sick of it...but now i regret doing it..b/c i love him.. :-( now him and my best freind are gonna hit it off,i just feel so bad and upset and depressed... i never knew how much i really liked him.. he told me later in the future we would work it out.. but i don't see that happening.. well thanks alot... hope you can help me!!!!! jennifer, upset in pa
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You love him because you like the idea of love, not because you have any idea what it is or what it feels like. Nothing about your question sounds like a decent or healthy relationship, but you just love him.
No, you don't. You love affection. You love the feeling that someone wants you. You love not being alone.
None of those are good reasons to date someone. Actually, they go pretty much in the opposite direction. If you date someone because you just need to date anyone, rather than dating someone because you're compatible and theres a decent bond there, you end up in situations like this where the guy got dumped and jumped at the first opportunity to get away from you.
He told you you'll work it out in the future, but right now he's going to fuck your best friend.
And you love him. Douchebag that he apparently is, you love him.
Thats fucking stupid sweetheart.
You are better off without this guy, and you'll be better off if you get over this and move on. It won't be easy, but in retrospect I doubt you'll regret the decision you made, regardless of how alone you feel right now.
You weren't committed to each other, because he wasn't and isn't committed to you. And sure, he's hoping that if things don't work well with your friend that he can fall back on you.
Is that what you want to be? The fallback?
There is nothing you should do to get back together with him, and if he does come back you'd be a fool to take him. He's not worthwhile.
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yes, there is a code somewhere that says friends cant date friend's exes. but i think that only applys when the ex breaks up with the friend. in other words, your friend thinks its ok since you were the one who broke it off. and im guessing your ex DOES still love you. maybe he said what he said because hes dating your friend and doesnt want you to think anything of it. try to be cool with it for a while. hold it all in until you get home, and then stab your voodoo doll with the black needle :)) (kidding, sort of)
by the sound of it, your friend is a bitch. this relationship wont last long, trust me. especially if your ex still loves you. give it time. he'll probably come back soon. until then, just try to stay cool. and breathe easy.
take care! :)
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:[ wow that sucks, but I know how you feel. no best friend would EVER go out with your ex boyfriend, especially if they knew you still loved them and ESPECIALLY if you guys went out for that long. Honestly, that's just messed up. But anyways you have all the right in the world to be upset and mad at both of them. Obviously, your "best friend" is just a backup plan because he told you that he loves you and he ALSO said that there is the potential for you both to have a stronger relationship in the future. You most likely broke his heart when you ended the relationship, and his way of getting back at you is by going out with your best friend. Lame, I know. But sometimes, that's how guys deal with things. If your best friend showed interest in him and he relaized it, he probably thought that that was the best way to hurt you like you hurt him. You breaking up with him was something you chose to do because the relationship didn't feel like a relationship anymore, and as the saying goes "you don't know what you got 'til it's gone."
Unfortunatley, you can't really do anything. You just have to let things play out on their own. If they do end up going out, fine. He's gonna realize that he still loves you and wants to be with you, maybe this is a good thing maybe it will be a wake up call. However, if you REALLY want to try to get him back, you need to ask him to hang out with you ALONE, someplace where you can have complete privacy. Tell him that you're hanging out as just "friends" and he'll come. When you're alone, tell him everything you told us here on advicenators. You need to get your feelings out, and tell him that it bothers you ALOT seeing him with another girl and especially a girl that is supposed to be your best friend. then ask him how he would feel in your position, if you decided to go out with HIS best friend, that should really get him thinking. Tell him that you still love him but are NOT waiting around for him while he dates someone that is totally not right for him. And then he can make the decision of either going out with her or not. In the end, you can't be g him to come back to you, he has to WANT to do it on his own, and if he winds up not wanting to be your boyfriend, then his loss, because you're obviously a great girl who can do SOOO much better than a dirtbag like him. :] honestly.
Good luck, hope I helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! let me know how it goes :] xxo.
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Hey Jennifer upset in Pa.
I've been there, actually through growing up .. My best female friend dated like at least 50% of the guys I dated. Just after me. During my time of growing up though, I've always forgiven my bestfriend, and still to this day I would, and will. I love her to death. MEn are just men, there are millions of them.
You should just say fuck it, and be his friend. Do stay friends with some of your ex's? If you do, just be his friend, and be her friend.. But if you want to get even, flirt with him alot.. Stand in the middle of there relationship if they get together. You just have to choose to fuck with'em or join'em.. Or just fuck'em both. You know? You have to decide where you want to stand, and then take charge.
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