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Hi, Okay so when I went to my friends house, we had to stay with her parents( she lives with her grand ma) any way, when I went over there I had alot of fun but I had my heart pounding when I saw my Xbf ..... His parents wants me and him to get back to gether.. they emarresed him and Had him blushing. when my friend asked him back out for me , he said he didn't know. But he alresd has a gurl friend. PLZ help me, I really don't know what to do or say..... I frezze!!!! what should I do???
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a confussed gurl!!!!!!!
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Do you like him still? that would help me out a little bit lol but if you dont then I'd just leave it alone-trix
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Hey,
Ok, heres what I would do... I would act like I didnt want him. Sometimes that brings the guys to you.I would act like everything was fun ( or I'd act like everything he liked i liked that to). In doing that they mite start to thing he is missing out on the one he wants.And with the frezzzing thing try to act like hes your best friend that happens to be the guy you like.
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If he has a girlfriend, leave him alone. All 3 of you could get hurt in this situation. If he said he doesnt know, then thats a no. If he really wanted to he'd say yes right off the bat.
megan.
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"when my friend asked him back out for me"
This, in its very essence, unhealthy! Not only were you and your friend rushing him, his parents had joined in. If he wants to go out with you, he will do it the conventional way, and ask you. If not, that is his loss, but your throwing yourself at him (through someone Else even!) will never cause him to want to be with you, and might even chase him away. It may not be obvious to you, in your current situation, however to the world actions like this show a lack of self respect, lowering yourself enough to turn dating a person into a game.
If you want to be with him, tell him how you feel, but don't, in any situation, send a friend to give an impersonal message to him in which you make the first gesture of doing something about the feelings you haven't yet discussed with him. As a solution to this situation, I would apologize for being so impersonal and embarrassing, and then proceed to tell him how you really meant it, honestly, calmly, without anyone else involved. However, you must realize that if you pursue this you risk hurting others, like his current girlfriend.
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No one should think they have the authority to force you to date someone you don't want to. If it didn't work out between you and your ex, the ex's parents need to realise this. Have you ex talk to them, or talk to them yourself and explain to them that for whatever reson it didn't work out and you and the ex have both moved on. Also let them know that they have no control over who you date.
As for the freezing, pick a time and a place you are comfortable with and makes sure they know you mean business. If it helps prepare yourself a script so if you start to freeze up you can spur yourself along with it.
Good luck
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