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I've really liked this one guy for about two years and I've finally got the courage to start flirting with him. We became friends and everything was going great. I could tell that he had a small crush on me (and that's what I wanted) however, all of a sudden my best friend starts to talk to him. My best friend is a lot prettier, funnier, more athletic, and smarter than me so of course the guy that I like starts chasing after her right away. Once I find this out I asked her if she liked him. She said yes and she was thinking about asking him out soon. I can't help but think that my best friend has stolen him from me because she's known that I've liked him for over two years. I feel jealous, betrayed, rejected... many other negative things. Should I fight over the guy? Forgive my friend? Drop the whole thing and pretend that nothing ever happened? Please help!
your fellow advicenator,
sp4rklingr4in
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
so ask him out first but before that tell your friend how u feel
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You shouldn't worry much about this guy anymore, even if you still have feelings for him.
Talk to your friend, through. Tell her how you feel. He could after her for other reasons, you never know, so don't think you are worth less than your friend, esp now because it's the other way around.
Much luck! :)
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I would beat her to asking him out. See how he feels. Ask him in person. In any case, forgive your friend. Everyone makes mistakes. Of course, let in a little angry awkward time, you owe yourself that.
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Wow.
I recognize this situation so much...
except I was on the other side. I was the "best friend." I feel rotten about what I did now, though. It was unintentional - I didn't realize how much my friend liked this guy.
Talk to your friend. Explain to her that you feel "jealous, betrayed, rejected..." Chances are, she doesn't realize how much she's hurting you. God knows I didn't. Miscommunication kills all sorts of relationships, including those between friends. The only way to keep the friendship is to start talking! So open your mouth and tell your friend what you're thinking. If she's a real friend, she'll understand. Good luck!
-Siren
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...I don't believe this,
the exact thing happened to me.
I still regret not having told him.
Don't make the same mistake I did.
Your friend's not much of a friend...
Tell him before she does, unless it's too late.
Your friend seems like a "fling"-type person, so be there if they end up dating and break up.
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A true friend would ask your opinion instead of telling you. Say something like, "Look, I don't feel that great about your asking NAME out- I really like him. Is it okay if you hold off for a while?" Otherwise you can end up really hurt.
If she laughs and says, "Oh come on, you don't really think he likes you, do you? Anyway you're not my friend if you're not happy for me!" ditch her.
If she says, "mmmph...maybe." wait a while.
If she says, "I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you and I realize I was wrong. I'll wait." keep her!
Good luck!
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