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visiting friends
When I go back home on weekends, my parents get really upset when I want to take off in the evening and see my friends. They complain that they never get to see me and all this, and don't understand why I even want to keep in touch with my old friends anyway, it's nuts. So I'm thinking about going and staying with friends in their town and just not telling my parents that I'm there. I know if they find out they'd be really upset, but they guilt me if I don't spend every second with them when I'm in town. Is it wrong to lie to my parents about visiting my hometown, or a necessary evil to see my friends?
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It kinda sounds like your trying to runaway your parents may even call a search party but I don't think it's evil to see your old friends I had the same problem my friends were in Indiana and I was in Kentucky fortunately I moved back to Indiana but then I moved again and it takes 1/2 and hour to go to my friends house.
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How often do you go home, and how much time do you usually spend with your parents when you do?
It seems like there ought to be room for a compromise here. The one thing you want to avoid is making your parents feel like they're just providing a hotel for you to crash at during your visits home. So if you make an effort to *plan* things with them, as well as wih your friends, they might be somewhat soothed. For example, you could offer to cook Sunday brunch for the family, but spend Saturday evening out. That way, they might feel less like they're getting your leftover scraps of time, if you see what I mean.
If you're not home very much, you really do need to make an effort to spend at least part of your visits with them. If you're coming back to your hometown nearly every weekend, I think it's fine to schedule a few during which you're pretty much only seeing friends -- but then, make sure that the next time around, you have quality time with your folks. I really wouldn't hide your visits from them: you never know whom you might run into, and it could get extremely awkward.
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try and balance your time with them. your parents obviously miss you, so plan one night at home with them to do something. then use the rest of the time to do whatever
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I think your 'rents are starting to suffer from Empty Nest Syndrom. By this I mean that you are [possibly] the youngest or an only child and they don't weant to let you go. Lieing in general is not pleasent, but I think maybe you can tell them that this weekend you are going to spend the whole trip with mates, and then next weekend you will spend the whole weekend with them. But make sure you carry it out!
Good luck :)
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Well i for one think it is wrong lyeing to your parents. Maybe your parents are so protective over you. Parents can be like that. It takes time for them to adjust. It is a good right for you to go see your friends but spend alittle more time with your parents. They'll sometime let you go. It is not evil to see them. Your probally a a person who just wants to have fun. Your friends give you that. Remember don't lie it would only make the situation worst. You'll lose your parents trust and you don't want that trust me.
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