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step daughter
gonna make this as brief as possible i have a step daughter she is nothing like my two kids she is bossy demanding and tries to run the whole household and gets away with way too much her dad does nothing she gets out her window at nite when we sleep she is very wild she grew up without a mother most of her life i have only been on the scene about 2 yrs she basically hates me so i have to go thru her father with anything i have to say about her and he says i am always being negative towards her but im not she is just unbearable at times all he does is play on his computer all day all nite ignores me and her what should i do .....desperate sorry about the punctuation and the grammer i am terrible at that
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I would talk to your husband and make him realize that his daughter is out of control. Don't try to be the only "bad guy" in the situation. Ask her if she sneaks out at night and if she says yes (which she probably won't) then just have a talk with her. If she says no then what I would do is while she is at school get someone to install a lock on the door that only you can unlock. This we teach her that you are the boss and should be respected. (Also if she tried to sneak out any other door stay up late to catch her in the act.)
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Your husband isn't a great parent. it's like your a single mother.
you step daughter won't think its fair, etc, etc that you will punnish her for do those things, but something must be done to control her. she doesn't sould like the kind of kid i would hang out with. but you can also just try to talk to her, help her without making an image as the ebil step mom. she is now your kid as well, treat her like you treat yours.
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I agree with "whatevers" answer, but want to elaborate. If her father is willing to let her do whatever she wants whenever, then he needs to answer the question of "What if something bad happens to her and is he willing to deal with the consequences when she gets in deeper acts more wild?" This definitely has to be a joint effort. But in the same instance, she has to know that although you are the "evil stepmom" she needs to respect your rules as well as you. But remember that you need to give her respect in order to get respect and vice versa.
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It is hard being a step mom...but you and your husband have to work on this together - not just you. If he is not willing to do his share, I'm sorry to say but things will never work out. The three of you should sit together and lay down the rules on her. If she disobeys any of this given rules then she will get punished. As for the punishment, this is something that you and your husband have to figure out. Make sure that you follow through on this because if you don't then she will think that she can always get away with anything she does. Also, make sure that she feels loved and doesn't feel like an outsider inside her home. Most of the times, teenager act rebelliously because there is something that is bothering them big time. Goodluck!
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