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Okay, well...there is this teacher, let's call him Mr. Somebody. Mr. Somebody...well, he isn't really a teacher, but he just works with the guidance counsler in my school. Mr. Somebody is a very freaky guy. It doesn't show to many people...but he just seems like he would be one of those molesters to the younger girls. He looks at me weird and it always seems like he is staring at me and it makes me very uncomfortable...the guidance counslers office used to make me very comfortable but now my stomach churns whenever I think about it. It's not like he's done anything, but its just the way he is and I dont know where to turn. I don't want to talk about it to anybody because I don't want to blow this out of proportion because sometimes that's what i do and I don't know if I'm just judging incorrectly. But one day I was in the guidance counslers office and he came in and my stomach churned and we shook hands when we were introduced to each other and it was just so uncomfortable becasue he gripped so tight and it felt like the handshake lasted for minutes.He just made me feel so uncomfortable and when my guidance counsler talked to me i felt his eyes on my back and it made me nervous. And then that day in gym class and he came up to me when i was sitting down on the floor and kneeled and out is hand on my shoulder and was like "Blah blahs gonna pick you up today ok?" and he smiled and I backed away and nodded. And then later my guidance counsler came up to me and was like blah blahs gonna pick you up today okay? And I told her I already heard and she was like "Oh you did?" and i think that Mr. Somebody just overheard the phone conversation between my dad and my guidance counsler and decided to use it as an excuse to see me or something. I know that sounds crazy, strange and unlikey but you dont see how this guy is...what should I do because I dont think this guy is your average clean cut guy...he just seems so weird and I dotn wanna see him...I give him dirty looks, not meaning to but whatever...and there was also another incident that occured but I'll tell you about that in another letter it will be entitled "About Mr. Somebody continued"
Please help me...what should I do?
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Dear Scared-Of-Mr.-Somebody,
Have you talked to your parents about what has been going on? If you sit down with them, they may be able to call the school and talk to the guidance counselor that you do feel comfortable around.
When the school hires somebody, no matter what, most schools do background checks. You can't be just an anybody to work with kids in a school.
If you still think that something is wrong, and you don't want to talk to anyone about it, talk to Mr. Somebody himself. Tell him that you don't like the way that he acts around you- and you would not like him to touch you and look at you like he does. Talking to him about these things may actually help you- and not hurt you. If none of that helps, seach online for a helplinen...I'm sure that there are many possibilities out there. Also check with your friends---see if they feel the same way abour Mr. Somebody as you do.
Hope This Helps!
Good Luck!
Signed,
Britney
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Oh my God. You're in a very intricate position. On any other day, I would be the first to say, " Go to the top of the hill and scream bloddy murder." But, you know what, my feet are planted in reality and I know that's not a viable option. Alot of lives could be ruined and all without sufficient evidence. If he makes you feel that uncomfortable, try and avoid him as much as possible. See if there's anyone else that is available to help you with your concerns. If there is someone on the faculty that you trust, and I mean really trust. See if you can confide in them. Let them know that it's not an accusation, but something significant enough to waarant your feeling the way you do. We sometimes feel "bad vibes" about someone because the subconscious picks up on something that the conscious is totally oblivious of. So, truat your gut, try to avoid him, and see if you can discreetly make your concerns known to someone else on staff. They can keep an eye on him and you can remain anonymous. PLEASE...let me know how this turns out.
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if you really think that he's a child abuser or he makes you really uncomfortable then you really shouldn't have to be around him. If it were me I'd talk to your guidance counselor or a teacher, and if that doesn't work then confront him directly.
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Talk to your guidance councellor and tell her how you feel about this. This is what she's there for. Tell her that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that your stomach churns at the thought of going to see her because of him. That way she'll probably see to it that he's not there when you go to see her. Ask your friends and other people what they think of him. You may just be paranoid, or others may feel that way too. If they do feel that way get them to go and talk to the councellor too. If you don't talk about it nothing can be done about it.
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If this guy makes you feel uncomfortable, talk to a counselor. It doesn't seem like he's all that bad from what you've explained, but I understand how you feel, and if he gets more,"friendly" We have this teacher, Mr. Sneider, and he is a pervert, sounds like the guy your explaining but far worst. He touches girls, slaps their butt, and touches them. It's weird, but I don't go near him. I say talk it out with someone. He seems like he has the urge to see you all the time. Talk to somebody, don't keep this inside forever. Good Luck and if you need any more help, don't be afraid to ask.
-Kachiri*
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