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what do i do my boyfriend called me a bitch....
so me an my boyfriend are long distance and so this week i said i wanted a break so it started Tuesday night so i texted him Thursday and said it felt like night days and that i miss him then he said your one crazy bitch that took me by shock like i feel its messed up but i also love him to death but should i leave him
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You have to respect yourself enough to know that if it’s bothering you enough to make you come online and ask what you should do about it, I think deep down you already know the answer. Do you find it respectful of him to call you out of your name? Anytime you two have a conflict or you may do something that he doesn’t like would you like for him to respond that way??? I think you need to make it EXTREMELY clear that you don’t like/appreciate/tolerate that and if he doesn’t understand that then I say you need to find someone who actually respects you. Hope that I could help
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You'd better break up with him. If he don't respect you now it will not change then
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What do you mean when you say you are long distance? Is he a friend who you were seeing & then he moved away, or is he someone who you met online? Because people you meet online are hard to get to know really.
You said you wanted a break and that may be a good thing. You don't mention your age but if you are a teen or young adult you just can't spend your time texting instead of socializing with actual people.
Real guys. This is the time in your life to socialize and figure out what you want in a relationship.
There is no reason you can't still be friends with this guy texting back & forth. That decision we can't make for you. I will say that I do hate texting for one reason. You don't really know how someone says something. He may have been teasing, He may have been mad. There really is know way to know without being there talking in person. Some people hate being called a bitch, while other people call girls a bitch & don't mean it to be a bad thing. Texting is awful! :)
I wish you luck. Follow your heart.
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I say dump him. I know it'll be rough and I'm sorry for that, but my dad has called my mom a bitch pretty much since they were married and it has caused problems. I don't want to sound disrespectful, but my dad's definitely not the smartest guy in the world and I honestly don't think he has any idea how hurtful that word is and how he'd has caused us all problems by using it against my mom on almost a daily basis.
When I was little, my sister and I had a nanny who came over to the house and took care of us during the daytime each weekday. One day when I was four, in front of the nanny, my sister did something to make me mad, so I called her a f---ing bitch. Can you guess where I heard that term from? When the nanny told my parents, they were humiliated, especially since the nanny seemed to know I'd heard my dad use that term against my mother. Our nanny, who used to think a lot of my family, and countless other people who have heard the way my dad talks to my mom all think that my family is white trash because of this. People don't think much of us at all because my dad verbally abuses my mom, my mom tolerates it, and my sister and I were raised by these people.
My sister and I listened to this kind of verbal abuse the entire time we were growing up and were under the impression the whole time that it was normal. We thought all men talked to their wives like that. Because of this, my sister grew up and married a guy who treats her basically the same way our dad treats our mom. She didn't know any better because she felt it was normal for a guy to treat his wife that way.
As for me, I never got married and never plan to. I don't know what a normal, functional marriage is supposed to be like. I am paranoid about ending up with a guy like my dad and I don't know how to make a marriage work. I don't know what I should put up with and what I shouldn't, so I'm afraid I'll either be a doormat like my mom or I'll be too intolerant and naggy. I have no idea how to find a good balance.
So as I see it, verbal abuse is extremely harmful. If you put up with this guy's abuse, you might continue to do so with any other guy you might date in the future and you might wind up marrying a guy who is abusive. Then you can wind up miserable and trapped in a loveless marriage like my mom, you can have a dysfunctional family like mine, and your husband can cause your children problems like the ones my sister and I have had. Or they could learn to become abusive themselves. That's why, if I were you, I would not continue dating this guy.
Good luck and sorry for unloading my family problems on you, but I do feel like these are things you should know. Hope I've helped.
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Thats entirely up to you whether you leave him or not.
The better question to ask yourself is 'Do I want a man who loses his temper easily and calls me names."
(this is not a one time occurence or a little mistake. Any behavior you see that you don't like always hints at more of the same hidden beneath the surface. But don't take my word for it. Hang out with him some more and enjoy more of the same. My first husband was verbally abusive so I know what I am talking about)
Heres more suggestions: Do I want a guy who doesn't respect me? Do I want a guy I know only through the key board or would I rather have a flesh and blood man I can hug and kiss who treats me like a Queen?
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