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i need your help deciding about adoption
i am 14 years old and i am pregnate. my mom wants me to give the baby up for adoption but the father of my baby doesn't want me to give it up. i am 7 months pregnate and i don't know what to do. it is a girl and i am afriad that if something goes wrong and i can't have children again and i give this one up i am never going to have a baby again. what should i do?
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you have to check me on this but I believe there's a way to give the baby up for adoption and still be part of it's life I think it's called open adoption like I said check me on it but it might be a good alternitive if you want to be part of the childs life and still want to give it a good life
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i think you should keep the baby even though your mom wants to give it up for adoption. you and the father of the baby can take care of it. if you do keep the baby good luck and i hope you make the right decision.if you have any more questions put in in my inbox ! thanks x3 becca
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This is a really hard decision.. if your mother is comfortable with you having the baby in teh first place, then maybe you shoudl talk to her more about it. if you really want to keep the baby, then convince her, but you also have to prove that you can do it. you cant go out wiht your friends all the time like u used to becuase youll have a big responsibilty. if you DONT want to keep her, then you could eitha let the father of the baby have the responsibility, give her up for adoption, or have your mom get full custody. You shoudl also talk ot the father of your baby about this too.. Good luck with whatever choice you make.. hopefully she'll be a healthy baby =]
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im 14 and i know i couldnt take care of a kid but its really very sad to give up a child u just carried around for 9 months. so this is one of your decisons u have to make for youself make a good one.
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Okw ell i think that u should keep the baby because u and ur boyfriend brought this child into the world and now i think that u should take care of her and dont let her go cause even though ur REALLY young u should take care and love her (including ur boyfriend)!
I hope that everything turns out good 4 u !!!!!!!
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Ok if the father of the baby really wants to keep it, then you should. On account of the fact that you KNOW he will be there to help you. Chances are if hes irresponsible enough to get you pregnant hes irresponsible enuff to not be able to care for a kid. Plus your 14. You can't really do this.. its too much. Plus your Mother most likely knows whats best. If she says to put it up for adoption sadly, you should. If you give this baby up it most definetly wont mean you cant have a baby again if you got pregnant this easy this time it should be no problem in the future when you have sex responsibly. All i can do is wish you best of luck.. Im so sorry it must be hard for you but hang in there sweetie.
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Don't listen to anyone else, do what you feel is right, and what you want to do, make the decision yourself.
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most likely the father wont be there to support the baby!! soo think about that-
-xxoBrianna
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you can only find what to do in your heart... if you want to keep the baby that much, and you know you'd regret it if you let someone else have it, then keep the baby. if you think you'd be fine and get over it, then give it up. but if you REALLY want to keep it, don't compromise just for your mom, because mom's don't always know best, despite what they might think.
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I would keep cause what if you are rigt ad you can never have another one agian!!! Then you will regret it for the rest of your life!! I wanna takl im me a volleball092209!! Hope I helped!!
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ok.....i would say keep the baby but stay in school and get a good education and i kno it might be hard but i kno its posible two of my rly good freinds went through this ane is in collage!!and if your mom wont let u keep it try to talk to her and tell her how you feel and if all else fells so if the dad will keep and you could go see the baby anytime u wnated!!well most of all just folow your heart and do what u think is best!!i hope i helped
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Well,at your age,unfortunately the father's don't always stick around!!!But this guy may be an exception,I don't know him!!But because of that risk,it's important to keep a close and open relationship with your mom.Sit down with her and let her know how you're feeling.Raising this baby is going to be very hard,you know that going into it,but if you've already developed an emotional attachment to the baby,and you really feel that you want to keep this baby,express your concern to your mom.Do your homework on teen pregnancy,and all of your options.By finding out as much info as you can you can show your mom that you're responsible.I looked up some sites for you,that I think will be of some help!
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A good one to look at with your mom is:
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And always check out www.plannedparenthood.com because they have lots of good info!Talk to your OBGYN about some options and resources like WIC(Women Infants & Children),they make sure that both you and your baby are stocked in food and necessities!I wish you all the best!!!Please keep in touch with me,and let me know how you are!!
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Well, you really need to do what you want to do. This is your baby and if you don't want to give it up then I would not do it. I personally think you should take care of it yourself. You made the mistake of getting pregnant so it should be your responsibility but make sure you stay in school and get a good education. :-) I hope this helps!
Crystal
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first of all your way to young to have a child your probably still in middle school going in to your freshman year! thats very young i would keep the child but see if any one in your family could babysit her for a few years untill your ready to take care of it yourself!
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Hey- This is a really hard desission. But think of whats best for the baby..If its going to be hard for you to support it then you should give it away. Your so young and I'm sure you dont want to drop out of school. What if the father leaves? I would probaly go with giving it up, and ik its really hard. Im sure you will be able to have a baby again, you dont need to worry about that. I hope this helped somewhat. Best of luck!!
Love, Jenny
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well..i think you should give the baby to the father and let him take care of it himself. that way, you can visit the baby when u want. your mom would respect your opinion on what u should do. i personally dont think your ready for the responsibility. but hey. if u dont like my advice...do what u want but make a smart decision.
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You should do wat u want to do not wat your mom sez becuz u might not be ready to take care of a child at your ae and it might interupt school and stuff but if u feel the right thing iz to keep the baby then do wat u wanna just think it through and look at your options and talk to the baby's father bout it!
Hope i helped! GOOD LUCK n God bless u n your baby
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KEEP IT! tht baby is gunna be tough to deal with...but itll be worth it! the first time u hold her in ur arms ur not gunna be able to let go! n shes gunna be there 4 u when u need her! id keep her..she'll make ur life tough but i think itll be worth it...but just go with ur gut instinct! remember..no regrets!!
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Basically this is ur call... its u having the baby so its ur decision... just follow ur heart!!! :) HOPE I HELPED and remember its ur decision!!!
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Do whatever you want to do. The father can't make you keep it, your mother can't make you give it up. But you can't give the kid up for adoption if the father wants it. It will go to him.
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if you can afford the baby and know you could give it a good life then yous should try to get your mom to let you keep it, i know the father wants you to keep it but hes 14 also isnt he? is not like he could fully understand what your going threw let alone could he give you child support?? if you cant give the baby a good home, theres no reason to punish it and should give it up to a home that could take care of it sorry....
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Well, I think you should give it to the adoption agencies. Do you think the father will be there to help you? Maybe in the beginning but not long. Besides, I think it'd be best for you and the baby. He/she can go to a mature/old enough family. You can sign papers for visitation rights for him/her too. It'd be best hun.. Good luck.. ~Jes~
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maybe you should just not worry about what your going to do right now worry about it then and just talk to your mom.
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