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i need help. okay, i've been with my boyfriend for a while now, but there's a small little problem that i'm having in our relationship. i love him to death and i know that he feels the same way, but when he talks to other girls.. i often get jealous and feel as if he's going to leave me for this girl even though i know they are just friends, i feel like maybe he sees something more in the girls he talks too. i feel this way because in the past, every guy i was with.. left me for another girl or was seeing another girl behind my back. i just got used to it & so now everytime i get into a new realtionship, i feel as if the same thing is going to happen even though i know all guys aren't the same, it's just something that sort of stuck in my mind. i expect guys to leave me.. i guess it's so i won't get hurt like i did in the past. i've talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands why i feel like this because of past experiences but he always reassures me that there is nothing going on because he doesn't want any other girl in this world besides me & that he loves me more than i could imagine. i mean, we've even talked about spending the rest of our lives together. i don't always have this problem when i'm with him.. but then there are times when i do. i hate it a lot because i really don't wanna feel this way, i TRY to tell myself "hes not gonna leave you" and it works half the time but then other time it doesnt and i get really upset. just so you know, i do BELIVE that he loves me, i don't doubt that.. it's just i really don't know how to explain it. maybe someone knows where i'm coming from. the point is, is there anyway i can convince myself that he's not going to leave me? is there anything at all i can do? or am i gonna be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life because of what has happened to me in the past? (link)
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I've been trying to write you some good advice for an hour, but I can't! I'm sorry but the fact is, you will not find a man at your age that will commit fully to you.
The reason why you think that he might be interested in other girls is because HE IS. He's a 16 year old male, don't expect much.
Enjoy dating, but don't get too serious, you will just get hurt. You will know when you meet the right guy (and it wont be for a while).
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For some time now i've thought i was bi. I've never done anything but i've realized how i was thinking was totally different and unusual. It's been a year and i still haven't made up my mind. Once in awhile i'll "decide" that i'm not but then it ALWAYS comes back and drives me nuts until i'll decide i'm not again. But even then i can't get it off my mind. I know that raging hormones has to deal with this too, but what are the chances of this coming back EVERY SINGLE TIME?!?!?! My family is against it and my friends are okay with it. So please don't tell me to talk with my parents. I just need to know what's going on and why i can't decide. I'll rate ya high!!! (link)
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You seem to think that your sexuality is a choice. It is not, there is no 'deciding'. You feel the way you feel (and yes, depending on your mood, you can go through 'more straight' and 'more gay' stages).
Try to see through all the social programming in your brain and focus on how you truly feel.
Your parents each had their own lives to make all the decisions they ever wanted to make for themselves. Don't let them decide what's best for you in YOUR life.
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I really want to die. Really badly. I tried to kill myself but i chickend out. I'm not afraid of death.. I'm looking forward to it. I just can't handle life. My body is breaking up. I feel depressed and find the urge just to die. I don't understand why ssomeone can just take my life away. I'm alive and I want to die and there's dieing people that want to live. I don't understand why god just cant give those people a life and take mine away.. I hate myself so much.. I'm having a lot of problems now.. I'm 13, F. (link)
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I'm glad that you have the courage to talk about these feelings that you're having, it's a very hard thing to do.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a national, 24-hour, and toll-free suicide prevention service available to all those in suicidal crisis who are seeking help. Individuals seeking help can dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They will be routed to the closest possible provider of mental health and suicide prevention services.
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Good luck! You can do it!
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what are some healthy ways i can relieve stress? besides eating. I have a habit to eat everything in site when i am stressed. but i dont gain anything. maybe that is why. im 15 and weigh 90 lbs. so, i need a healthier way to relieve stress. what is a good way to relieve stress when i am at school? because i cant eat everything in sight at school. an average lunch i take in 450 calories. Not today! i was under a whole lot of stress and i took in about 900! so yeah. i need a healthy way to relieve stress other than eating! (link)
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Rather than trying to relieve your stress with an activity, you should find the source of your stress and resolve that issue. If you are looking for a hobby then play sports, get into a good book, pick up origami, think about an activity that makes you happy and do that!
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I was just wondering if i'm like mentally okay. I'm like super sound sensitive as in i can hear alot of noises and all but i'll focus in on one and it'll start to really annoy me. Then i'll start getting mad all of a sudden and it'll bother me even more. The same is when people move alot or scratch or anything it bothers me so much i get like steaming mad. I also have really bad mood swings. My family gives me a hard time about them but i can't control them. I just get mad and all. Is there something wrong??? No stupid answers plz. I'll rate high for good ones. Thanks.
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The problem with crazy people is that they don't know that they're crazy. If you are able to ask the question, "Am I crazy?", then you most likely are not.
Since this issue is affecting your normal everyday life, I'd recommend that you setup an appointment with a psychologist and let a professional help you resolve this (doesn't mean that you're crazy, but you don't remove your own cavities either).
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I am a right-handed golf player and I am about 40 years old. I notice, often, that after a full round of golf, the inside of my right elbow is sore. I know the right arm should not be too influencial in the swing but I always end up sore there. Again, it is the inside of my elbow, between my body and arm (with the arm at rest). Any advice? (link)
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You have just described medial epicondylitis (Golfer's elbow)! Golfer's elbow is simply caused by overuse of the muscles and tendons of the forearm which leads to inflammation and pain around the elbow joint. To treat this, you must refrain from the offending activity until the pain has subsided then gradually work your way back into it.
You can check this website for more information:
http://orthopedics.about.com/cs/elbow/a/golferselbow.htm
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i havn't had a boyfriend or even a boy liking me in a long time....each time i try to get a guy to like me more he doesn't ever seem interesed......and then either they end up liking my friends or just thinking i'm really weird.....how can i modivate myself when i feel like i'm not good enough for any guy that i ever liked and why is it that uhhh i don't know just help me plz
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There is nothing wrong with you, but just like a great wine, some things need time to reach their full potential. When you're ready to take a mate, the men will be there for you.
Focus on the things that make you happy now and forget about all the things that upset you. Mental baggage is heavy and not worth carrying.
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why do you have like a poor attitude towards peoples questions ? I know you knew to this site but I read your answers and there like smart ass answers and accordin to your info. you dont even like to give advice. Why are you here just because you have experiances (link)
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Maybe it is your poor attitude that is rejecting my good advice?
Can you quote specific examples from my writings that you disagree with?
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sorry this is long, last night i dumped my bf, john, after 9 months of going out and i said that i didnt want to go out with anyone for a while, later that night i was with my friends and they called the hottest guy in school and he said he wanted to go out with me so now im going out with a hottie but i love john so much i dont know what to do i want to go out with john but im already going out with the hottest guy in school, i think im having a problem with letting go
please tell me what i should do i rate 5s for any answer (link)
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Sounds like you're in a great relationship already??? You referred to two men in your question. One you referred to as "my bf john", "i love john", "i want to go out with john" and the other you referred to as "hottest guy in school"(x2) and "hottie".
You should ask yourself the question:
"Do I want to go out with (insert hottest guy in school's name), or do I want to go out with The Hottest Guy In The School"?
Answer that question and your path will be clear.
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Ok....first he broke up with me but he also told me he wanted me to find someone better then him.....but....he told me he still wanted me.And that he still loves me.He only told me to go and find someone better because he smokes pot so yea. So i dont know what to do or say to get him back.
can anyone help and not tell me that he doesnt want me when he keeps on telling me he does!??????!?!?!?!!
ill rate high! (link)
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Funny thing about pot is it can help you see through all the programmed bs in your brain and see the truth. Your friend seems to be struggling with deep, internal issues that the pot is bringing to the surface. Sometimes it's hard to deal with these new and unknown/unwanted feelings. If you really like him, try finding the root cause of his problems. No one has a drug/alcohol problem, people only have life problems. Substance abuse is just an indicator of a problem, and it is not THE problem.
Talk to him when he's sober and ask him what you can do to help.
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What are some web sites I could go to that could tell if a guy is flirting with you? No Smartass answers cause they will get a 1 and will be reported. Thanks in Advance! (link)
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If a guy is talking to you about random things, he is interested.
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Okay so there's alot of ways to get over an X-BF, but how do you just get over a guy -who's done nothing to youy. Hes like the sweetest guy ever, who would do anything for me. So dont tell me to focus on his bad traits cause he doesnt have any. But i still want to get over him..cause there's too much temptation with him. He doesnt presure me or anything..its my own body. w/e i dont know :S i just wanna get over him..but how do i do this when there's no actual reason to get over him. He hasnt done anything bad to me..but dont try to convince me to stay with him. Caue i know that i need to break up with him, but its hard you know.. and its not like i have any other guy that i can use to get my mind off of him..so what do i do?
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This guy has a massively bad trait. He's so perfect that you're bored with him! Women love to change their man, it keeps them interested! You feel like there's nothing that you can give him and as a result, you feel empty and curiously unfulfilled. You need a man who has 'bad' traits, that's what makes life fun.
You don't want a sweet guy, a guy who will do anything for you. You want a guy who will challenge you and keep you interested.
Drop Mr. Perfect and find yourself a real piece of work, someone that will make your parents cringe.
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