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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do

If you clearly stated that you didn't want to do it and you said "No" then you were raped. You really should report this.

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My love life is so messed up. I have no idea what to do and I'm so sick of trying to meet people. On one hand, I have my ex from about 6 months ago, on the other hand, I have a senior who I'm interested in. I don't know if either of the guys like me, or if I have a chance with either of them, the whole thing sort of irritates me. What the heck should I do.

signed,
nearly given up

I think you should just sit back and relax. If either of these guys are the right guy for you then they will take the chance to talk to you, or go out with you. If they don't take the chance then maybe they aren't the right one for you. that is just my opinion. good luck.

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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.



I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.


When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.


Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.


After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.



My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.


My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.



Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.



So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?




[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]

You should really talk to a guidence counselor or teacher. It may help you out more than I could, sorry to say. Good luck.

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Me and my bf have been going out 4 three months he just found out something bad about a family member and its been making him really angry. I understand how he feels but he takes all of his anger out on me! Last nite he was being such a jerk we almost broke up he tells me he loves me all the time but idk if its true. im only 14 but how can i talk to him without bringing up anything thats going to hurt him?

I know how you feel. I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you get scared or hurt when he takes his bad moods and anger out on you. Just be honest. If he is a jerk about it or you get hurt, which i hope you dont, then you deserve so much better. Hope it works out for you!

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I have this shirt that is 100% cotton. It's a bit too loose and it's suppose to be form-fitting. I want to shrink it so it fits my body but not too much because then it won't fit at all! How can I make it shrink just a tiny bit? PS dont tell me to return it!

When you wash it, make sure you put it into the dryer.

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I have acne (thats not really the point) and i used acne cream on my face but i recently stopped using it around my nose because id get really dry skin there. My problem is that it is still all dry and flaky and red there, even if i dont use medication there. I tried lotion and vasoline but that didnt work. The lotion just made it more red and the vaseline made it look oily and i dont want it clogging my pores .. again. I dont have any money to go out and buy anything so does neone have any suggestions what i should try to use? Thanks!!

I haven't actuallly tried it myself, but I have heard from several people, as crazy as it sounds, that toothpaste clears acne up. My boyfriend used toothpaste and it went away. My sister also. Hope it works!

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I am in 7th grade and I am in level math... Next year I am skipping Pre-Algebra and taking Algebra.. can any1 give me any expectations or any math tips? Thanks a bunch!

I am in Algebra. I think its hard but I think I'm used to it now.

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So my name is Danielle, and I'm terribly in like with this guy. I just realized yesterday night that I might not ever get over him... The one thing I hate the most is him, but hes the one thing that can put a smile on my face within seconds of his presence. I've tried mutiple times to show how that I care for him alot..and that I like him. He only wants to be friends though..or thats how he shows it...actions speak louder than words correct? I don't know whether I should just be there for him or just move on and erase him from my life and consider him just another stranger ...

I've been in your position before. If he is a close friend of yours then don't completely erase him from your life. Actions do speak louder than words, so don't let your actions hurt anothers feelings. You are just assuming he wants to be just friends, make a move or talk to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel. If he lets you down and you won't be dating anytime soon then don't give up. NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE.

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I'm a dancer and covered many different types of dancing and I'm only just getting in to hip hop dancing. I'm repeating moves so I need some new moves.
Are there any movies, music videos or places online where I could get ideas for new moves?
I rate high and especially to people with more than one suggestion.
(and when I said get IDEAS I mean IDEAS I don't copy moves, I reinvent them)

Don't say these music videos:
Usher - Caught Up
Ciara - Oh
Ciara - 1, 2 Step
Ciara - Goodies

Don't say these movies:
You Got Served
Honey

The movie called Save The Last Dance

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Does anyone know of any movies with dancing in them?
Apart from musicals, I think I've watched enough musicals to last me a life time.

It doesn't matter what type of dancing it is I just need dancing in it.

You Got Served
Honey
Save The Last Dance

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ok sry for the length but i need help...

i have this ex-boyfriend that i like alot still i dont know why..we've broke up a million times but i can seem to get over him..we my friends are telling me we should go back out because they say hes changed and stuff but my problem is my best friend doesnt want me going back out with him..he said if i go back out with him then he'll never talk to me ever again...and i dont know what to do help plz

If you love him and you are happy with him then your friends should be happy for you. Don't let them come between love. I am sort of in your situation. I have a bf and on June 5th we will have been going out for 8 months. The problem is that I have a guy who is one of my best friends. He lives in another state, its not too far from here. We went out before and even after we still had feelings for each other on and off. I still have feelings for him and it is driving me crazy because I have a boyfriend. But because I know I love my boyfriend, I could never leave him. No matter how much I think about the past. Go on with your life and figure out what really makes you happy. Find out who your real friends are. And always be honest of your true feelings. Good luck!

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I'm a 15 year old girl, he's 17. We both like eachother. But he's not sure if he wants to go out with me. He's worried about our age difference since he's turning 18 in like 5 months. Even then we'll have 2 years between us still. He's told my friend that he does want to go out with me, but he's concerned about the age thing. Should I just give up on him, or still try to hook up with him? Help? :)

If you really like him, don't give up. First think really hard about whether you think you could spend the rest of your life with this guy. If not, don't waste your time. But age shouldnt matter. 2 or 3 years isn't that far apart. Just go with it. Never give up.

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Hi, I'm in 8th grade and about to graduate, I really like this boy and I wanted him to ask me to our last dance. Every time I'm around him I can never get the nerve to talk to him. What should I do?

I've been in your position before. What I did was I wrote him a note, or had one of my closest friends talk to him for me. Try it. Hope it all works out!

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