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Iris. Seveteen. Dreamer and a Romantic.
Acoustic-Player. Songwriter. Sensitive Emo Kid.

I went through being 'in love', lust, relationships, friend battle, fiancee leaving me for my bestfriend, temptation, cutting, self-destructive, suicidal thoughts, depression, jelousy, craziness, rejection, heart-ache, shyness, .. you get the idea.

Note [ I am very openminded, so dont be scared to even ask me any kind of question, even it may be sick to other people ]

advice

Okay I have this friend and she has been my friend for about a year. Anyway she is like always bugging me she never shuts up and she always bugs me and my boyfriend. She is always trying to get us to do things, and she makes us on the sims 2 and made me get pregnant on the game and him have an affair with the maid. I mean she is a really good friend but she is always like butting in to our relationship and it gets on me and my boyfriends nerves. I just wish that she could but out of me and my boyfriends relationship. My boyfriend thinks that she likes to try to make us do stuff because she can't get a boyfriend.
Please Help Me
(*)Haleigh Ann(*)

i think you need to tell her to back off slowly.
i mean tell her that you want time with you and your boyfriend to herself.

i mean i would get sick and tired of her doing that, not that i have friends like that anyways.

but that is kind of strange that she is trying to make you guys do thing. why dont you just find her someone? if you can.

well yeah talk to her how you feel, alright?

goodluck

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sorry if this long, please read it.

13/f

umm, ok. im not realllly ugly, but im not beautiful, hot, etc. i have lots of great friends, but sometimes i feel like i dont belong. im always worrying about what the popular people are thinking when i do something. (some popular people are my friends tho) there's this one girl, she always gives me the "stare" and she popular.(reminder: the people in my school arent like preppy, their like 'cool', punk, all that.)and she thinks shes all that, but shes so stuck up. i dont feel comfortable around her, because i think im gonna do something that she doesnt 'approve' of. i dont know, im confused. i dont know what to do. i dont wear makeup, do you think i should? i dont wanna look like a prep. i wear like billabong, oneill, and other stuff. like i shop at pac sun + other stores like that. i just dont know what to do. please help me. thank you sooo much. i really appreciate it.

hello little penguin,
well first of all, youre sounding like a posuer. why do you want to be someone else so fucking bad. popular kids are fucking losers. UH! even though i was a popular little queer they will always say shit about you.

just be you
dammit
just be you

thats all it matter
fuck what people think.

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I have been datin my bf for 4 months now...the only problem is is that he lives in nebraska and i live in florida...well we talk all the time on the phone and on aim...and i am going to go see him for thanksgiving...i can totally see me and this guy together in the future...the bad thing is is that there is this guy who goes to my skool and i kinda like him...and he likes me...but i made the decision to stay with my bf in nebraska...do you think i made the right decision??? please help and thanx for your advice

hey youre that girl that left me a comment for my questions. thanks man.

but yeah maybe you did make the right decision cause if you TRULY LOVE him stay with him or if you want to talk it out with him then go ahead.
tell him how you feel and see if he wants to just go out with new people for awhile and when you guys can be 'together' again physically then you guys can be back together forever.

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okay i sing better than jojo and am 17. if she can get a record deal so can i but idont know how. any advice peeps. i rate high as hell! ur help is appreciated!

look into it. like there is a lot of place where you can try out. sign up for gigs around your area. thats how you usually start and find a place where you can record your songs at a studio and then send off the demo to record companies and see if they like you.

good luck.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and have made out and he has felt me up. We are both ready for the next step, which is fingering. He wants to really bad, but I've never been fingered before! I know I should shave, but how can I do it so it will be smooth and not rough or anything? Also, how do I know for sure I don't smell down there? I would be so embarrased if he fingered me and I smelled. What should I do about all this?

Everyone 'smells' down there , Vagina does have a scent if you noticed at all. So its only natural to have a smell scent.

If you want to save your pussy, just shave it by using a cream and a shaver..jsut be careful. You really dont need to shave it but i guess if you boyfriends want that, well theres my advice.

Have Safe Sex.
Bye

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ok i really need some help with this. ok well i have this friend "betty". shes not like my BESTEST friend but i can keep my secrets with her and i tell her who i like n stuff. well theres this one guy that i like A LOT and hes only a year older than i am. and i told "betty" a few weeks ago that i liked this guy and she was just like oh cool n stuff. well he told one of my friends that he MIGHT want to go out with me so i was EXTREAMLY happy bc this would be my first b/f in jr. high. so i was telling "betty" the story and i was like omg im so excited and she was like "oh well im like madly inlove with him" and i was like ur kidding right? and she said no so i was like well why didnt u tell me a few weeks ago that u liekd him to when i told u that i liked him then? and she said idk i guess it was kinda a secret or something. so im really mad/sad now. this isnt like the movie mean girls where i would get revenge bc shes like such a nice friend n all. but what if this guy asks me out...what do i do or say bc i really like him???

XoXoXo me

Been in that situation before
But I didnt want to hurt my friends feeling so I didnt.

But its up to you, I mean do you think your friend would be okay with it?
If not then there is going to be a battle between having the same old friendship or losing it to some guy.

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OK on Friday I'm going to my boyfriends away game. His mom is driving me there with her and I know im going to be so nervous. I dont want to say anything thats going to make me look stupid, but I know im going to end up doing that.. I always do. I was just wondering if you guys had any adivce on what I should do to be less nervous or not say anything dumb that I'll regret. Thanks SO much!!

ha been there.
Just keep really quiet and dont giggle too much. Just talk like a really simple manner such as

"hello ma'am"
"thanks for picking me up"
"how was your day?"

like simple stuff, i know its pretty intense to be with you boyfriends mother alone..but just try to keep calm. dont think about it. think about you just being in there with her for 30 mins in the car or something. lol.

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This might be a stupid question, but how do you know when you're in love with someone? How does it feel?

x you think about them non-stop
x you think they are the most elegant creature on the fucking planet
x you want to hear their voice, youre just fucking addicted
x you cant even think about anybody else
x they are always in your dream even though they might not be in it, you feel them next to you
x you squeal like a little girl (wait..thats just me)
x you want to do all these stuff for them
x you would DO ANYTHING i mean seriously ANYTHING for them, for example, they ask you IM HUNGRY GO GET ME FOOD, and i would ride on my bike and go all the way to whatever fast food they like and get it for them
x you want to be with 24/7
x if youre like me you would get jelous of all the people that surround that person cause youre like DAMMIT I WANNA BE WITH HIM/HER NOW YOU LUCKY BITCHES
x sometimes you get paranoid
x when you say i love you .. as much as you say it will never add the amount of how much you actually love them
x oh and last of alll..



you cant really explain it.. you just know.

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alright well i dont wanna be like another girl saying oh my relationships arent workign out its only been a month blah blah .. yeah thats not a real relationship .. see for about 3 years now on and off i've been with my boyfriend .. this is the third time we've been together adn its been about 2 months but for some reason it just hasnt seem the same at all .. and he is completely obsessed and always says to me how im like his life and idk what to do because i know how badly i'd hurt him .. and im scared because what if me and him really do have a future with eachother but just not right now and if i ruin it with him now he might not want me later in life .. please i could use any advice

on-and-off relationship.
been there done that.
bullshit kiss my ass.

well actually, uh, wow 3 fucking years on and off.. why the hell do you guys break up and then get back together. now think about that for a second. is it for stupid reasons.. is it for to mess with other people cause youre not ready for commitment. . . well either way, you guys need to stop having this on and off shit.
its not fucking healthy.

why dont you guys just get back together when you both know what you want. instead of saying..

im going to hurt him hes going to leave then we get back together and he leaves..

uhm yeah. talk to him about it and uhm try to work it out, but mostly likley i dont think it will cause i had an on and off relationship and it just caused each other more pain evertime we got back together.

its not healthy so i suggest you should just be friends and move on. but its your decision
have a nice day now
xiris

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i think i mite be a lesbian, i catch myself looking at gils as well as guys at school and when my friends come over when they sleep i cant help but think what it would be like if they come on to me, what would i do? HELP!

Hi. Im queer. :]
but anyways, I started off like that in 6th grade.

if you can picture yourself being 'with' one. then youre more likley to be bisexual not a lesbian.

other than that, youre just bi-curious

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how do lesbians have sex?

lesbians. oo thats me! well not really im just queer but uhm okay to your question

girls can usually only just finger each other
or go down and eat each other out.

some girl prefer to use toys on each other such as dildos, strap ons, and vibrators [those scare me but anywho whatever floats their boat]

but its not all about 'sex' , it may seem like it wont be good or something but actually it is , only by what your heart feels with that person but anyways theres youre answer :]

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im a 17 female and need tips on how to lose weight. i cant go to the gym so ill need tips on what to eat and how to exercise at home .. thanks soo much !!

I suggest just to eat salad, and a little meat everyday for protein.

I lost weight by having fun.
For example, if you like to 'dance' just blast music on and dance in your room. Use lot of stomache motions to work it out. Also , at least jog every once in awhile. Its healthy. :]

and when youre watching Television, during commercials give a few sit-ups. Sit-ups are the best.

Well anyways good-luck

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hi im 13/m. i think i am a woamn trapped in a mans body. i want to get a sex change and then date other women. so basically i want to be a gay trans sexual. i also like to do it to animals sometimes. i used them for practice. how do i explain about my sexuality to my family?

Strange I was like that too except the opposite.

But anyways, whatever floats your boat.

I think you should like keep this on the low. Youre only 13 but as you grow older and if youre sure about this 'sexuality' of yours, then you should come to your family more slowly.

I do have friends who was born as a girl and then had a sex change into a man and now is a gay man drag queen. Did that make sense?
Well just know there are people like you exist out there but theres going to be lot of rejection youre going to have to face but all you need if your friends and family love.

Good luck.

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my girlfriend has posters on her wall of a bunch of celebrities that she thinks are "hot". She claims to me all the time that she doesnt check them out or think about them in any way but i think she is lying to me. I dont know what to do now. Is she lying to me about checking other guys out or what. She claims they are stupid little pictures, well if they are so stupid why are they up?

Well people are going to have some celebrities and stars they will like. Its only natural to like someone of the T.V and Movies. I mean everyone has a little lust for stars but you know. If she says she dosent think about them, she dosent. That means she wants YOU. So stop thinking she is lying. It dosent matter if theres silly poster of some star in her room because inside her heart, YOURE her star.

and everyone always have something they think that is 'hot' in their room, i mean they are just poster.

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