My name is Kim. I'm 19 years old and married my soul mate. We have a beautiful daughter. I love having fun and helping people. I have always wanted an article in the newspaper where I could give advice. Like and "Ask Kim" type thing. Still working on it and don't plan to give up.
E-mail: kimc514@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: binghamton ny
Occupation: home-maker
Age: 19
Member Since: November 12, 2008
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So im 14, female and freshmen at school. I only play volleyball as a sport but since that is over i have nothing to do. So ive been thinking of getting a job. Most of the jobs live very close to me. but i've been thinking if i can get a job at a hairstyle place. Like clean up, set appointments, or getting the people who are waiting to get there cut all set and ready while the hairstylst finishes up on someone else. Do you think they would allow that?
ps- how much do you think they would pay if i get the job? (link)
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some might hire you for that position but you'll only be making minimum wage. so you need to just call and find out.
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for my birthday, i'm having a glow party. i already got 1000+ glow sticks, so i'm set there, but idk what else to do. i really wanted to get these glow cups that i found, but i'll be too expensive, since there's going to be about 50 people there. so any ideas of what else i could have? i found a bunch of glow in the dark puffy paint that i could put on a white sheet or something and lay it over our couches, and i also am going to have a couple of blacklights, but any other ideas? (link)
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there's this website that can give you some ideas or you can order from it. It's all bulk so it would be perfect for your party and it's cheap too. http://www.orientaltrading.com/ui/shared/sharedFlowController.goToBrowseController.do?categoryId=377497&requestURI=viewEndecaCategory&categoryFromSearch=true&rd=glow just use that or go to www.orientaltrading.com and go to the search engine and put in glow.
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I want to get my bf something really sweet and cute, but something that he'll actually use alot, and think of me when ever i use it. We've been dating for almost a year now so i want to get him something special. But he's kinda tight on money right now so i want to get him something pretty cheap because i dont want him to feel like he should have gotten me something expencive. So for sure under $40. And i have absolutely no idea what to get him :( HELP (link)
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buy him his favorite cologne. Or an earring if he wears them or a necklace that he'll wear.
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today i realized that i'm in love with my boyfriend of 3 months. we haven't said "i love you" cause we both want to wait until we really mean it. but i hear from all his friends and basically like everyone that he "likes me soo much and talks about me all the time" ...i really want to say "i love you" but i don't want to be the first one to say it...
and also the thing with me is that this is my first relationship so i'm not really pro on knowing the difference between love and lust, he makes me wet but its more than that i also love to hang out with him and cuddle with him and just be with him.
so my question is what do you think im feeling? please dont tell me you'll know if its love because i think it is...just advice on the whole saying "i love you" ..thankss.
16/f (link)
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you will truly know when to say it. it will just slip out without you even thinking about it. that's the joy of love.
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I have always wondered exactly what religious/spiritual catagory I fall into. I believe in a higher being but I do not believe in organized religion. Where would I fall? (link)
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you would be an atheist. we believe in a higher power but don't know what the higher power is and we don't care because we know deep down that there is one.
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13/F
Okay well i'm in 8th grade and i really like these two guys but they're really popular, so i rarely ever talk to them. Sure i've texted oen, though he has no clue who i am, but during school hours i am very shy towards guys "higher in the food chain"
Anyway, what i want to know is how to be friends with them with out seeming like a total nervous wreck.
Please Help Me!!!! (link)
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Don't put on a front. What I mean is that you have to be you in front of them. If you can't be you in front of them then their really not worth your time. People are supposed to like you for you. So just believe in yourself and walk right up to them and just say hi and just be yourself and if they don't like you then tough cookies. Always be yourself.
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im 15 and basically i was at a party , and we were drinking .. a lot . i've never been so drunk in my entire life . there was this guy there , only a year older that i'd never met before and we were on the couch and out of no where , seriously , he starts making out with me (worst kisser btw, ugh) and then eventually we stopped but then he kept pulling my hand to his fuckin crotch and wouldn't stop so to shut him up i did what he wanted, and that eventually ended up with a blow job. and by morning EVERYONE at the party knew. so humiliating, and of course you have the rumours and shit.. i was just wondering how i can get rid of the embarassment? its been MONTHS now and i still feel like a hoe :(.. oh ima girl btw :P (link)
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There's nothing you can really do other than remember that everyone makes mistakes. I guarantee that next time your at a party you will watch how much you drink! Am I right?? We all learn from our mistakes. Next time don't give in to shut him up just walk away. Your not a hoe unless you sleep with a lot of guys and technically you didn't sleep with him it was just oral. Just keep telling yourself that everyone makes mistakes and next time you'll make smarter decisions.
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so my best firned since sixth gread is moveing we are not tenth graders..
she has been there for me during EVERYTHING! and two days ago she told me her mom kicked her out and she had to move accross the U.S with her other family... She leave next week and i dont knwo what to do because she is my best friend..
advice please (link)
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There's nothing really that you can do short of wishing her luck. Unless you can somehow take her in. Which is a really long process. Wish her luck and promise to keep in touch and visit.
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I have an odor coming from my vagina. I believe it's from not urinating or washing as well as I should have (don't worry, lesson learned). I just want to know how I can get rid of the odor without douching (I heard that can cause infertility).
THANKS! (link)
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Sometimes the odor can come from an infection. Sometimes the infections can't be seen on the outside and if you go to your doctor a simple urine test can tell you and put you on anti-biotics and the smell will go away.
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This mite be long.
Ok well im 18 an I have a 16yo sister. She is a hoe my other sisters think it nd so do i. She has ranaway like 3 times and has been kawt having sex n her room by my mom. Wen she got kawt my mom did NOTHING at all. Then jus recently my mom saw hickeys all over her neck nd once again did NOTHING. Now yesterday my mom kawt her ditching school walkn wit sum 19yo so my mom made her get n the car then my sis jumped out to be wit the boy nd my mom jus lef her there for a day. The next day she calls my mom to get her and everysince then my mom has been kissn her ass. Why does my mom act like this if it was me I wud have alredy been kicked out. Nd I have a younger sister who is 14 jus started thee same HS won't she be a bad influence on her. Thanks (link)
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I would sit your mom down and talk to her about it and let her know how you are feeling about the situation. Do you go to the same school as your sister?? Maybe you could go talk to her counselor anonymously. Maybe she has self esteem issues. Most girls her age try to hide it like that. If that doesn't work then I would sit her down and explain the consequences of her actions to her. Maybe she's just crying out for a different kind of attention from your mom. I would definitely sit your mom down and talk to her about it. Let me know how things go!
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My eleven year old sister bought prenatal vitamins for her hair. She wants to know how many she should take. It said on the bottle that four of those pills equals to the full dose. Also she wants to know if she buys biotin and folic acid bottles if it would work the same and if she could use a multi vitamin with it. (link)
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If she's only taking these for her hair then she definitely shouldn't take the full dose. It will make her sick. The full dose is recommended for people who are pregnant. I would take the multi vitamin with it but nothing else. she's too young to be filling herself with too much of that crap. I know that they say that it's good for you but too much of it isn't. I would tell her to take 1 prenatal a day or every other day and a multivitamin every day.
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ok so i just finished driver's ed in new york state and im planningon scheduling my road test. i know the bottom part you have to send to your insurance company.. but when am i supposed to do that? (link)
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right away. the sooner the better.
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14/f (sorry about the length)
7th grade was one of the best years of my life. I had a almost all of my best friends in the same class with me, all of my teachers loved me, and one of the most popular boys had this huge crush on me so he would constantly be around me, and brought all his other really popular friends along with him. The best year EVER.
But 8th grade REALLY SUCKS so far. I have my one very best friend in my class and a few other good friends, and NO ONE ELSE-I barely even see my other friends. That really popular guy? He completely and totally moved on and doesn't even look at me now, and he's in my class this year, too. 3 teachers out of 5 HATE me and will do anything they can do in their power to torture me. It gets worse, too... last year I was actually really outgoing and boys were constantly around me... this year, I'm so quiet and I barely talk unless I have to, and only a few boys still say hi to me in the hallway... at home I'm really stressed out, I barely do my homework, and I always get in fights with my sisters and especially my parents... I can't leave myself alone because I beat myself up (mentally, not physically... I just yell at myself), and I'm very ashamed to say this, but sometimes I even masturbate... I know that's disgusting and it's very hard for me to say, even anonymously. I feel really weird after that, too. This year I got permission to have a cellphone, and everyday I check the messages on it, and for some reason I always think maybe SOMEONE will call me, but I don't think anyone ever has. I also got permission to date and no one has asked me out.
So please, I really need help. I really don't know what's wrong with me. As I'm typing this I'm realizing how bad it really seems... I don't know what went wrong--Last year I was popular, I was happy and felt loved, I was pretty, funny, sweet...I didn't have single care. I'm not sure what went wrong. I stayed pretty, I may have even gotten prettier, and I'm sweeter and funnier than ever... but... I don't get it. Someone please help. I need back the self confidence I once had, I need to be outgoing again, I need to hear from someone other than my mother say I'm beautiful... I'm not asking you to tell me that, but I think you get my point. Oh, and please don't tell me to see a doctor... I don't want professional help... I don't think it's bad enough for that... Thank you. (link)
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All I can say is why??? Deep down inside you you know why all of this happened!! Don't get me wrong sometimes it's hard to figure out what went wrong. But you lost yourself that's all. And all it takes to make everything right again is to find yourself again. Find what you really love doing. Did you love the attention you got? Or was it constantly having friends around?? Once you realize what it was that made you truly happy you can fix everything again. You don't need people or things to make you a happy, outgoing, fun person. All you need is yourself. And those constant reminders that your mom is giving you isn't just because she's a mom. She has eyes too and I guarantee that she can see that your going through a rough time and can't help you. Did something happen between you and your friends?? Think about some of this that I asked you and write me back on what you have figured out and I will help you more. Good luck. kimc514@aol.com
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when you go to the gynecologist, what do they do to you? will it hurt? please dont give me a link to a website, can someone just explain it to me. thanks! (link)
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It's called a pap smear. Here is a definition of it. It doesn't really hurt it's more uncomfortable than anything. It's definitely worth it though.
What is a Pap smear?
A Pap smear is a test your doctor does to check for signs of cancer of the cervix. The cervix is part of your uterus (womb). During a Pap smear, your doctor takes a sample of cells from your cervix to be tested and examined.
To take the sample, your doctor will put a special instrument called a speculum into your vagina. This helps open your vagina so the sample can be taken. Your doctor will gently clean your cervix with a cotton swab and then collect a sample of cells with a small brush, a tiny spatula or a cotton swab. This sample is put on a glass slide and sent to a lab to be checked under a microscope.
this website should give you more information. http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/women/reproductive/gynecologic/138.html
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Hey there.
16/f
I'm not pregnant or anything, so don't lecture me. Haha.
I'm just curious, legally, can you get an abortion if you're under 18 without parental consent in the state of Florida?
Or do your parents have to be present and sign papers and stuff, because of the medial risks?
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your parents would have to be there. because you are considered a minor. 18 and older your aloud to. but i don't agree with abortion if you don't want the baby there are many families out there that are willing to take it because they can not have children of their own.
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okay so thanksgiving and christmas are coming up soon and i really want to bring my boyfriend home with me. we've been dating for about 3 months now. i havent mentioned him to my family because im not sure where its going but id love to have him home with me for the holidays. the problems is, i go to school about 5 hours away from home and he goes to my school and lives about 20 minutes away. so there would be some traveling involved.. how should i bring this up to him? and do you guys think i should bring him home or not? were not serious serious yet but ive never brought someome home with me so want to lol. im 19 by the way and hes 20. any advice on what to say to him and how to bring this up?
thanks!!!! (link)
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If I were you I def. wouldn't bring him home for Thanksgiving. Especially considering the fact that they don't know about him. And you have to think of the arrangements. Would he be staying for dinner or over night? Your parents aren't going to want to keep someone that they've never heard about overnight. If you would really like him to go home with you for Christmas then I would tell your parents about him and let them know what he's like and then I would ask them if it was alright first because you don't want to make the holidays stressful because you brought someone home. It's their house so you need to respect their wishes. And if they say that they don't want him there for the holidays then I would wait til they were over and suggest a dinner where they could meet him. Good luck and let me know how everything goes. If you need anymore help just e-mail me at kimc514@yahoo.com
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So there is this guy. We've been friends for like 3 years, and I've always liked him but never told him. The other day, we were hanging out and he kissed me. Of course, I was really excited. But, I don't really know if he meant anything by it; I mean, we were all alone and he might have just been caught up in the moment. I know the reasonable thing to do would be to ask him about it, but I'm pretty sure he'll just say "oh no, that kiss meant nothing". Like, it was such a good moment that I want to remember it as something sepcial, not as something that didn't mean anything. I know that sounds stupid but I just don't want to ruin that memory...and I'm thinking maybe if I don't say anything and we hung out more, it would happen again, you know? Eh. I really don't know what to do. (link)
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If you've like him for that long and he finally kissed then I think that it's time you confessed your feelings. If you two can have alone time then that would be when I told him. Start off the conversation with..."I want you to listen to what I have to say before you say anything." Tell him about how the kiss meant a lot to you and then tell him your feelings. At the end of telling him all of this ask him what he feels.
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im 18 years old. so my problem is, i feel like i never know how to keep a conversation going! me and this guy always text, and first its the usualy, hey, whats up, what are you doing, oh thats cool. and all that boring stuff. well then usually he will say something and i will answer and sometimes he makes it hard to talk. because he will be like "oh yeah haha" and i'm just like okay well what do i say now? so i randomly start texting things and i feel like im a weirdo and just go from one thing to another. i want to keep talking to him, so i feel like i should try to keep his attention you know? sometimes we talk about sex, even though we have not had sex but it's just playful things like that. what are some cute, naughty or just interesting things i can say to make him think im not boring! (link)
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It's pretty sad to say but men love themselves. You'll keep him talking by talking about the things that he likes. Sometimes ask him what he'd like to talk about. Never ask him about his feelings. If you run out of things to say then don't worry about it we all do. My suggestion would be to right down a bunch of questions. Maybe questions about what you don't know about him and stuff like that and put it in a hat and when you run out of things to say then pull a question out of the hat and try to keep the conversation going based on the question. These questions might seem a little weird but if you slipped them in a couple times a week it would give you something new to talk about. www.whichisworse.com then you'll learn new stuff about him too.
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Okay, well there is this boy in my school who thinks he can touch girls and flirt with everyone, smack they're asses. I didn't realize before, but he played me hard. I used to like him so much, i can't believe i didn't see it! So my question is, how can i get him back? like, how can i make him want more, or how can i play him? Be that one girl that he wants,but won't get. Would ignoring him be the best solution? I just don't know where to begin, but any advice would do, ugh i'm so angry! thank youu so much :] 15/f (link)
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The biggest thing that men hate is to be ignored. For some reason it just tweaks them. Try to make other girls realize just how much of a jerk he is and get everyone to ignore him too. He will be so shut out that he will come running to you asking you for help.
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