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Q: Agh... I'm so agitated and confused and depressed at the same time I can barely type this...! Anyways... my gf and I have been going out for about 10 days. My friends and I and her hang out all the time. Well it started last night. My friend was just joking around and he said "I'm like a star in the sky!" (Yeah we're pretty weird sometimes.) And my gf said "If you are then I will love you haha" and this kind of got me down, even though she said she was just kidding. Also, the same day, my friend was just like "My butt hurts." Then she says "Haha let me check that out for you then", and she touched it lightly... In a joking way, but it still didn't feel right.Another thing is, today, when my friend and I were walking towards her, she was like "Hey (friends name)!" And I was thinking to myself... "Eh? :( She didn't even say hi to me..." But... my gf said that she is crazy about me and she really loves me and everything like that, and she said that like the 7th night we were going out... but on msn. =\ Anyways, my question is, does she still like me? Or could she be liking my friend, and not me? I mean, she says she's worried that I will like another girl and dump her in the near future, and she also says that she's afraid to get hurt again, so maybe she will hurt me, and everything will be fine for her? I don't know, but we still held hands and hugged and all the normal stuff we do like that, but it still made me sad... please help... and thanks for reading...

What are you complaining about? She obviously likes that other guy. It has only been ten days, you can't be hanging out all the time.

Q: im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?

Well if he doesn't want to go out he is obviously in it for the sex. Sad but true. He is eighteen, come on. If you really think that hooking up is the apex of your relationship, and thats all you want out of it go for it! If not, dont. Do what you think is best, but thats a red flag when he doesnt want it to be "official"

Q: i recently dumped my boyf amd still had feeling 4 him yestaday uptown he was flirting with me and we ended up going out again but he got this otha girl pregnant and now he ses he has a daughter but they've split and we luv eachother but sumtimes I don't believe what he ses about having a daughter and he seems pretty desperate if he has a daughter cause uptown we were cuddling on the grass and he kept getting erections and trying to show me luv but wen i tryed 2 kiss him he turned his face away and sed i dont know if I'm ready yet what does this mean?

He obiously has a chick on the side. And got it on with her. Don't do this, if he got some girl pregnant, and still has feelings for you, he is obviously a confused person. He should say sorry to you for this befor you do anything.

Q: k, i'm 5'4", 116 pounds, long brown hair to the bottom of my back, greenish eyes, long legs, and i'm wondering what would be some make up/fashion styles be for me. i have really fair skin if that helps any, i'd just like some tips to look cuter/hotter/whatever

please and thank you

First off: do something about the hair. Make it shorter. Your eyes are green... thats good. Make sure people see them. Tight clothes?

Q: 14/m there is this girl who i kinda like. the problem is that she is out of my league. she is in all honors classes and im only in honors math and we're not in the same class. there is also this other guy that likes her (a friend of mine) and he has a better chance at going out with her than me cuz they are closer than she is with me. how can i get close to girls, so i'll have a better chance with them than other guys?

Invite her, a friend and another guy to the movies over the weekend. Make sure its not your friend that likes the same girl as you. Giver her a flower. Ask her what she likes to do... become the expert at it. Some girls like wits, some like looks... do best to be both. Be original though.

Q: Hey guys,

I was sleeping over my friends house the other day and we snuck out around 12 to hang with these guys. The next day one of them asked my friend on the phone if I would hook-up with someone just for the hell of it without going out with them. (assuming he wanted to hook up with me) I told my friend that it all depends, like if we hooked up and then went out. Because I believe strongly in hooking up with someone you like and then go out with them instead of hook-up and forget it ever happened. And now he thinks I am just a little prude. And the night before he was all sweet and everything and respected my point of views.

How do I handle this??
xo0x HoW xo0x

Based on you dont want a meaningless "hook-up", i recommend you dont. hes obviously in it for the sex. sadly enough, most guys are. some just have more finesse than others. this guy wont go out with you afterwards... Dont do it.

Q: has anyone failed their permit test? i am going to get mine this friday and i was just wanting to know what i should expect. like, what kind of questions will they ask? i know people say they are just common sense questions and to choose the answer that they would think and not what you would think. lol..i know thats confusing but..i was just wondering what questions that it asks. thanks!

Dont worry. I have heard you have to be a complete dip to do bad. Its all common sense. Not only that, but there are retarded answers to these multiple choice questions. I can't give specific questions, but you dont need to study hardcore to do well.

Q: hey yea this is sammi... im wondering... how do yew get backgrounds fer yur column but not tha 1s that tha site offerse yew? well thanx to any1 who answers or attempts answering!
sammi (or) SwEeTbAbI

Stop talking like that. Look on the left side of the page. It says column settings. Scroll down and there it has differnet presets. Choose one and then move all the way down the screen and press the accept button.

Q: im 14/f i have a LOT of blackheads all over my nose and they won't go away does anyone know how to get rid of them?? because i have a formal coming up and my pores are pretty big so a lot of people notice the blackness of my nose everyday!!!!
please dont delete this!!!!!

Duct tape cures all. Or makeup. Try scratching them off. You never know.

Q: written by friend :

Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP

Its obvious he's in it for the rep. If you want to move up the "social latter" go for it. If you don't care about your virginity, go for it.

Q: aight well im going out with this guy who is great. but i hooked up with one of my best guy friends last night and i made out with him accidentally. i dunno what to do. should i tell my boyfriend what happened???

If he will roll with it tell him. It really depends on how honest a relationship you want this guy. If you are going to continually hit on this guy on the side, tell him and let him know. If it was a one time shot, it's not worth the feelings.

Q: okay theres this boy..his names jake and me and him arent together but he likes me and i relaly like him and im in texsa on vacation and he was like i miss you so much..and theni went out for the day wt myparents and i came back and hes acting differnt..like he doesnt care about me anymore :-/ and i seriously will go crazy if what we have is fadding away cause REALLY care about him..what should i say too im to see if we are both still on the same page?

Ask him out. The worst he can do is say no. If you really like him, you will do this.

Q: ok there is this guy at my middle school and he gives me and my friends hugs like all the time but he always wants to give me the first&last hug do you guys think he is dropping hints?

I think that if it is a consistent occurence through multiple occasions that he is going somewhere. It is worth it to give him a peck and see how he reacts.