Hey...
I am a 14 year-old girl...and I love giving advice to anyone, about anything. I am a role model to ppl**luv all of you sistahs**, and one of them told me that I should start my own advice column..so here I am! I am an outgoing, fun, friendly, nice person...and I will always help ya, no matter what! Just ask a question, and I'll reply as soon as I can! Thanks!:)
Age: 14
AIM: sunshine2240
Member Since: March 11, 2004
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hi katie at the end of this you might find out who this is but oh well! ok like my friend have like a problem with me because i like a girl that is a year younger than me and i think she does too! so what do you think i should do? (link)
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wow sorry i have not been on this site in forever...but i would talk to the girl and see how she really feels about you being older and everything. to me, age doesnt matter if you really like someone.]
hope i helped:)
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Hey Katie, its Lisa...I dont need advice just wanted to say good job with the advice... ((LISA BD) heh...anyway
luvya katie ((marie))
hahah but anway...since I have to ask a question for advice... um...
This girl named kristin l. is really nice but sorta gyets pushed around by her bestfriend...they are always together...and her friend doesnt mean bad (idthink) but what should i say to her...? (link)
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Hey Lisa Marie..
I think you should just let kristin know that sometimes it seems like she's not being herself or that her best friend like has too much say over her..just really tell her how u feel..and I'm shure when you tell her best friend how she is acting and all she will understand and try to change her ways...and then you can all hang out. Her best friend might not even know she is doing this so when you tell her what you really think about everything that's going on, things should start to look better and brighter.
Thanks lisa..hope this helps
luv ya lots chicamuhlica!
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Hey, this is Terence. I have a huge question. You see I like this girl. A lot. We are pretty good friends. I want to take it to the next level but she doesn't. I want to know what to do about it. Also, we don't talk that much to each other other than on the internet. I'm trying to reverse that, but she isn't helping as much as i think she should. I want to know what to do about all this? (link)
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Hey Terence...
Well I think it's always important to be yourself..I mean she should love you for who you are..not for someone your not..You don't have to go all out of your way to talk to her...just talk to her when the time is right....don't force it...She will talk to you when she feels like it, I guess..is what I'm trying to say. Girls need space and have other people to talk to as well...Just always follow your heart and you never know.
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08~*
Oh, and keep talkin to her..friends is a start.
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Alrighty here is the story...
Me and one of my best friends like this boy, but my friend always clames she likes him more. I have been out with him before though too, and he only lkes her as a a cloe friend, not like that. but he does like me! and i like him...so he asked me out again and i put MY feelings first this time and said yes. because the other times we went out my best friend always was pissed at me so i had to break up with him. but now she is so pissed at me! she called me "some" names and stuff...and frankely it pissed me off too...I told her i would break up with him if it ment we could be friends again but she said no because she doesnt want to see him hurt again...and since i have ALOT of shit going on in my life i decided i couldnt handel a boyfriend so i broke up with him...but the thing is i didnt do it just because of her, but some of it yah...and now she is so pissed at me and hates me pretty much and now her best friend hates me too...and i like them alot, and i am willing to do ANYTHING! i really want to be friends again, but nothing works! i have tried telling them that and saying how much i am sorry, but they just say i am irritating, so i tried not talking to them for awhile but i cant get them off my mind! right now is a time in my life where i need my close friends. And i havent even been able to talk to them about any of this stuff because they arent here for me anymore! and i just dont know wut to do.Please help me out because i dont know what to do, and just remember i will do ANYTHING! plz.... (link)
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Hey..
First of all...thanks for asking a question in my advice column! In a way..I can understand where you are coming from..since I have been in that same situation..somewhat. At this time in your life...friends are like one of your most important values..and I can see why your saying you really need them right now. Well gurl...you know I'm always here for you..and you can talk to me about absolutely ANYTHING. I would also suggest talking to a close relative..maybe an older sister or your mom...someone who understands your perspective and point of view..someone you get along well with and is there for you all the time. I'm glad you put your feelings first this time. I personally think it was brave of you to do that...so u go gurl! Newayz lol..I also think that your best friend should try to realize what you did just for her(well not just for her but her being part of the reason why)..If you really still like this boy..then I would suggest talking to him about this and just seeing where your "relationship" is going..Your best friends should also understand that you really can't help liking him because it's just what your heart is telling you..Even if they claim they like him more..that doesn't give them any right to criticize you for your own true feelings. Just try waiting a little while longer..if they are your true friends they will realize how important your friendship really is..and they will hopefully just accept your feelings! If after a while they don't try to talk to you or anything..just have a heart-to-heart..tell them how you feel..or have another good friend talk to the person and let them know what you are going through..This might help them to accept the true fact that maybe you guys are just meant to be!? If you have any other questions....let me know! Also...jus tell me what happens if u want....that'd be great.....
gOoD lUcK cHiCa!
*rate me plz!*
~*KaTiE*~
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Hey this is Zach. I like this girl alot. We are good friends, but I want to be more than that. I think we have a good relationship, but im not sure. Should I ask her out? Maybe to a movie? (link)
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Hey Zach..
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column! I think first you should talk to her and find out how she feels about you..to make shure you are on the same level! A movie and hanging out is a good way to find out more about each other and build your relationship. If you both feel the same way about each other after all of that, then you can try pursuing a bf/gf relationship. But be careful that you don't rush things since you were just friends not too long before that. Take things at the pace she wants to go. I hope I helped! Plz rate me! If you ever need advice, jus come ask me:)
Let me know what happens!
Good luck dude!:)
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08*~
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I know this is a stupid question, but it has been bothering me for a while. I watch a show called Faking the Video on MTV. I caught the end of an episode. They were kicking off Thurston, but apparently something bad happened. They said they were going to sit him down instead of suprise him because of his "delicate situation". If someone saw this episode, please tell me what terrible happened. Thank you!
Love, Lauren (link)
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Hey..
I saw this episode of Faking the Video on MTV too. They weren't really kicking Thurston off, it was more of "letting him go" because of the terrible situation that he was faced with. The terrible situation that came upon Thurston was that his Father was in a horrible condition and he needed to get home to him right away. He was going to stay because he thought it was what his dad would want..But the producers talked it over and decided that he just had to go home and that they would provide him with another opportunity like this. I hope this helped you understand what happened!
TaKe CaRe GuRlIo!
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08*~
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Hi ummm everytime Im on the beach playing Vollyball Im in my bikni, and boys just keep trying to get my attintion alot!! umm and it makes me feel weird, why is that??? Im 15/fm (link)
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Hey..
You are probably just a little embarrassed by all of this attention. Sometimes gurls can feel a little uncomfortable in a situation where they get so much attention. Trust me, hun..lol I know exactly what it's like. But I've gotten used to it. It's just that the guys must like ur appearance and how u look...so they try to impress you and get your attention! Just always be true to yourself and never change! If you seem to like the guy too, go for it bcuz you never kno!:)Hope this helps
Mucho Amore,
~StArLiTeStArBrItE08~
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ok well my brother is 15 and he just moved to our house from his dads. My best friend is not allowed to come over because my mom is worried they are going to do stuff (if ya kno wat i mean) anywayz she is 13 and brother wouldnt do that. wat should i do?!? thanx 4 the help!!
xoxo,
me (link)
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Hey...
Well, I am assuming your brother and your best friend go out as bf/gf rite? I know what you mean when you say your mom is worried they will do stuff. I am shure that they wouldn't because of their ages. If your brotha really likes your best friend, then he won't push her to do anything she doesn't want to do. I would suggest talking to your mom and having a heart-to-heart. Tell her how you really feel. Let her know that the relationship between your brother and your best friend is more of a friendship than boyfriend/girlfriend. Make shure she understands that he wouldn't make her feel uncomfortable in any way. I know that your brother and your best friend are probably pretty close and are just more of a hang-out couple. If this doesn't help much try talking to your brother about it and having him convince your mom that what's going on between the two of them is nothing too intimate(if you know what I mean!) I hope this helps..and please rate me! Thanks gurl!**Let me kno what happens and good luck!!**~Come to me anytime for advice!~
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08*~
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Hey my names Katie im 14 going on 15 and i have a friend named Jenn and weve been pretty much best friends since grade 6 and she has been awesum always there for me and understanding and laughs at my jokes ..but now ever since her boyfriend she has pretty much stopped being a good friend she makes me look stupid in english class by saying out loud KATIE UR SO STUPID THATS NOT RITE and the guy i like is in our english class and she knows that ..everytime i try to tell her wut i feel she laughs at me and i get so upset ..what should i do ? please help me (link)
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Hey...
My name is Katie as well..lol:) I am also 14 going on 15! I can understand your situation because I've been there before. I guess this is just the age where guys start to come before friends(which is not rite at all!) I would definetly suggest telling her your true feelings and if she laughs at you...tell her it's really important to you and that you feel like your friendship is growing farther apart. Try talking to her about how she can change these feelings you are having so that you both are happy in the situation. It would be nice if in the end...everything turned our right and you could even hang out with her and her boyfriend sometimes(and possibly the guy you like!)...If she doesn't understand your feelings and doesn't seem to care, then she needs a wake-up call. For this I would suggest not talking to her as much and seeing how it turns out. This way, she will hopefully realize that she really needs you in her life as a best friend...someone whose always there for her. I would suggest doing the first thing and if that doesn't work, you could try the second as a last resort. I hope this helped and plz, if you have any more questions, jus ask me..I'm StrLyteStrBryte8:)
Take care gurl and good luck,
~*KaTiE*~
Oh, and let me know what happens, alright!? Thx!!
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i dont want to say my name but lets say my name is Lucy My Bff's is Tina and the boy is Darnell ok me and "tina" r best friends and we both like Darnell but u c i like darnell more then tina and darnell like tina more then me and sumtimes it feels like she replaces me 4 him or sumtimes fronts around him ( u no act different ) but i try to let it go but a lot of ppl like lets say her name is loraine she likes to make me mad at darnell by makin up fake stories jus cuz he dont like her so wut should i do??????? I'm 14 and im a female (link)
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Hey..
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column! I can relate to how you and your best friend like the same guy...that happens a lot these days! It's not like you can get her to stop liking him or anything...because you can't change someone else's feelings for someone else. I hate the feeling of being "replaced" too. It's not a great feeling at all...I hear ya! When someone tries to act different around a guy...u know that you need to talk to them right away. She's your best friend because of how she always was...not because of the other person she's trying to be just for him! That's good you try to let it go. I'd suggest talking to your best friend and letting her know that you miss the way you guys always like hung out...how u know you were closer....trust me this has happened to me before! I had a heart-to-heart conversation with her...and now everything is so great. We are closer than ever! I would also suggest that you talk to your other friends about the stories they make up. That's not a very kind thing they are doing and if you don't like it..I think you should also talk to them...and let them know. They will never know how you are feeling unless you talk to them! I hope this helps. Please let me know what happens and how everything turns out!
Thanks...and please ask another question in my advice column whenever you want.
Katie:)
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Will you go out with me katie? (link)
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I already go out wit u!
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Dear Starlight,
I have a big crush on this girl. Should i ask her out?
- Matt A. (link)
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Hey..
Well if you like the girl enough and you have "sparks" and things in common..(getting along well is important too)..then I'd say go for it..Just make shure you have a good enough friendship first...and that you know this girl really well. This will help you both have an enjoyable relationship. Thanks for the question.
StarliteStarbrite
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Hey Katie. This is Victor. I know no guys have asked you for advice yet. But i am desperate. I'm in 8th grade and there is this girl. I really really like her but she doesn't like me as much. However we are friends. How do i get her to like me more? (link)
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Hey Victor..
Thanks for asking the question....Well, your the first guy to ask me for advice, but that's alrite. Why are you so desperate for this girl? I'd suggest just always being yourself in all that you do...you don't have to go all out of your way to try to impress this girl. Just talk to her when you feel the time is right and let her know how u feel....Get to know her better and maybe things will eventually happen.....Thanks for checking out my advice column and please let me know what happens...hope this helps!
**KATIE**
(Good luck!)
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Hey Katie!!
I have light brown hair...but it definately doesn't look blonde. My friend...I think she is my friend....always calls me dumb blonde and says I'm bad at EVERYTHING she sees me do. My other friend...Lets call her Donna.... was talked to her and donna said that she said that the only reason that she calls me a dumb blonde and says I'm bad at everything is because she thinks I AM a really dumb blonde...(I'm not even blonde)...and that she thinks that since I'm so dumb It wont hurt my fealings and it makes her feal better about herself when she says that I'm bad at stuff. It makes me really mad!! I tryed talking to her about it and all she says is, " I dont do that." when obviously she is. I think she is the blonde 1 here but yeah. I really need advise!!! (link)
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Hey!!
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column! I'd first like to say that your "friend" has no right to criticize you for everything you do. She doesn't understand that you have feelings and she most definetly needs a wake-up call. I think that it was a good thing you talked to her. Try becoming closer to her...and earning her trust even more so that you can trust her to not say anything about you. I am shure that you are not bad at everything you do...maybe she just says that because she is jealous of how good you really are! People can be that way..trust me...I have been in the situation. A good friend of mine was jealous of me all this time and I never knew until she finally told me...and we worked things out...and now things are just great in our friendship:) What she is saying about you most definetly does not make you feel good at all and it is really painful to think that your friend would do that to feel better about herself. Of course you know that she is just trying to put you down and see how much pain you can handle. Don't give in. Keep telling her how you feel, trying to resolve this issue. Also, it may help to talk to other friends and see if they can get her to change the way she thinks. I know this may be hard to do, but I know you can do it. Please let me know what happens and leave me feedback. Thanks...and please, if you have anything you want to talk to me about and get some advice, just let me know.
I wish you the best of luck gurl!
**Katie**
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Ok well I have a bf and people say he is shy at kissing but wants too...what should I do? cause i want to with out feeling stupid (link)
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Hey...
Thanks for asking me a question in my advice column! You go gurl on having a boyfriend in the first place!!(LOL) I'd suggest that if he wants to kiss you and is shy....and you do as well...that you have to take the initiative and talk to him about it..then he may feel more comfortable. You can just ask him why he feels so shy about it...and maybe he will open up and tell you. Then you could tell him there's nothing to be shy about and you know, just comfort him. Then, after you talked to him, if he was still shy, you could again take the initiative and kiss him first(start slow though) I hope this helps...tell me what happens please:) Thanks! Whenever you need advice again, just come and ask me:)
Katie
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Hi! this is the same person that submitted that other advise thing about her best friend and boyfriend issue. I tried talking to her boyfriend and all he did was laugh and say ha ha I ruined you friendship. I think it is totally bogas that she can't just dump him because he is just a boy and I have been friends with her since kindergarden. Do you have any other advise, because I keep trying to talk to them, but nothing is happening. (link)
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Hey!
Thanks for asking another question..and telling me what is happening with your situation. Thanks for trying my advice...I kind of figured that this boy wouldn't really understand...because...well you know some guys these days..lol:) If after you have talked to both of your friends...just give them time...talk to other friends and things like that.....then this friend will realize how important your friendship really is(hopefully) and she will think twice about this boyfriend of hers. Try this...and I hope it works..let me know again:) Katie
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My bffl is like so totally going out with this guy that she really likes and he totally likes her. they have been wanting to go out since like the 3rd grade and finally like 5 years later they are. But the problem is, is that like 2 of my friends, and me like so totally hate is guts! He calls us bitches and is always extra meen to us at recess and lunch. He purpusly spills our stuff.
Another problem with her relationship is that my other freind totally likes him too. and she thinks that my other friend should break up with him so that she can go with him. but I think that they should both break up with him and nobody go with him because he is a total bully. But, if my friend loves him.....I want the best for my friend. Every time I try to talk to her she acts like I'm ruining her love life! What should I do!?! I need serious help! (link)
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Hey!
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column. I'd first like to say that you are on the right track for talking to your friend about it...and wanting the best for your friend. Of course, it is your friend's decision on her own love life, you also may be part of it in a way..if you all hang out together or what not. If they really like each other, they will find a way to work things out. But, I do think that it is wrong of your friend to still go out with him when he calls you bitches and all...cause face it ....that's just plain mean. It would be a different story if he came clean and didn't talk that way to you guys after your friend and him started going out. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be the case though. I do not think you are ruining her love life...just because you care so much about her...that is why you are helping her. I think that since you have already tried to talk to your best friend, talk to her boyfriend and tell him how you really feel about the whole situation...then hopefully he will talk to her about it and things will get better...Also, keep talking to your best friend...in the nicest way possible....and let her know it's all going to be ok..that things will work out for the better. I wish you all the best:) Please ask another question when you want! Also, it would be nice if you told me what happened!!:) Good Luck!!
*~KaTiE~*
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ok hey Katie,
I don't want to say my name, so I'll just call myself....Liz.....ok well I have these 2 friends, and I really like them and all, but they always tell eachother whatever I tell I tell them not to tell. So ok well reply asap. thanks alot!!!
~*mad*~ (link)
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Hey "~*mad*~"(Liz),
Thanks for the advice question. I would suggest talking to both of your friends...just telling them how important trust is in a friendship. If they are your true friends, they will definetly understand where you are coming from and they will try to keep your secrets a little better next time...and hopefully you will see some changes. This way, you will be able to trust your friends even more...and your friendship will become even stronger and closer because of this. I hope it helps...if not tell me. Please ask another question whenever you need to. Thanks:)
*~Katie~*
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Im in 5th grade, and i like a boy in 6th! he was on my baseball team...but now hes not! I dont kno how i can get him to notice me! i really like him but he doesnt even kno i exsist! HELP PLZ KT! Love you SO Much! ~*Nicole*~ (link)
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Hey Nicki~
I would suggest that you try talking to him, or finding out if he has a screen name or e-mail address in which you guys could talk, and get to know each other better. Of course, you don't have to go all out just to get him to notice you. You're a great person, and he should notice that himself. It is, however, a little bit hard when you are in different grades. Don't worry though, because if you follow your heart, which tells you that you and this guy may have things in common and like each other, then go for it. Just be yourself, no matter what. If he doesn't notice you then, he is missing out on A LOT! So, I would say you could start by trying to talk to him, or if that's not possible, then try saying hi or smiling to him in the hallways. That way, he knows you are thinking of him or are a kind person because of that. I hope this helps ya! lulas! ~*KT~
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Katie~
Ok here is the story see i like this boy, and he says he likes me, but he tells every girl what she wants to hear at the time! cuz today in class he was talking to this other girl and he said "I like you the most out of ALL the other girls!" So i talked to him ater saying that he told me he liked me and no one else. and he said he was jk-ing to her! and how do i no when other people ask him if he likes me, he isnt saying he was jk-ing to me?!
And then there is this other boy who asked me out and i said no...but i still like him but i just don't want a bf right now....and now whenever he sees me by another guy he gets all jealous and gets mad and says do you go with him? or he acusses me of likeing every single guy i talk to! I like this boy too but he is driving me away by doing this...what should i do for each boy and what should i say to them? HELP PLZ!!
LYLAS
~confuzed** (link)
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Hey~
Thanks for checking out my advice column, and asking a few questions:) I am always happy to help ya! See, the thing is with guys, they can lie and deceive you. Although they can be sweet, sometimes what they say to you may not all be true, only partially. If this first boy who said he likes you, and tells every girl what he wants to hear...I would suggest talking to him..as you did already for what he told the girl...Ask him what's going on between you two? If he feels uncomfortable answering, just tell him you are just wondering because lately it feels like he is flirting with every girl and you are wondering where you stand on his love life scale. If things work out between you two, great! If not, there are tons of fish in the sea:)
You know when other people ask him if he says he likes you...and he isnt saying he was jk-ing to you..well that's just a matter of trust. If you trust the boy you like enough, you will forsure know in your heart that he is not lying to you. If you are unsure, then ask him yourself...if he is telling you the truth. It at least can't hurt to ask him...
For the other boy....I think maybe just try to talk with him too as you do with other guys, trying to make the conversations as normal as possible. Somehow, I think this would help him from becoming so jealous that you talk with all these other guys, and not him. He should understand that you don't want a bf rite now....and hopefully he'll catch on that you want to just be friends for RITE NOW. Maybe....just maybe..later..something will come of the whole situation..let him know nothing more rite now. (gently though lol)....Every single guy you talk to definetly does not mean you like them. Guys can be your friends too....and you know in some cases...more! If you do talk to him and he feels more comfortable and happy this way....then I believe things will be better for the both of you. Does he know that you like him? If not, it's really up to you at this point whether to wait and tell him....which I say you do...because that way he won't be all like" Well, why won't you go out with me if you like me?" This way, you can give him some time(and you as well)...because you both need your own space for the moment.
I hope I have helped in some way or another!!
Feel free to come back and tell me what happens, or if you need advice on boys or anything else!!
LULAS!
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