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Hi, My name is Jessica, but you can call me Jess =] I'm 16 and a sophomore in high school. I work at Dunkin Donuts, it's not the greatest job in the world but it gets me by. I write poetry, sing, act and I love to party and have a good time, this is the time where you live your life, everything comes later. So live it up! I've had alot of experience in the "love life", some not so great but i take my mistakes as lessons and it helps me prevent from making the same mistakes again. I'm here to help anyone and get to know anyone, so go ahead and ask away. You can also send me questions in my inbox. Thanks =]

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I'm a 17 year old female and I have recently started having sex with my boyfriend. And..well the first and second time we tried it [firstly we barely did it at all because it hurt so much] I felt as if I needed to use the bathroom. I'm not really sure. I have talked to my friend about it and she feels the same way when she does it.

As in, when "it" goes in, I feel an urge to use the bathroom. But the thing is I DONT need to use the bathroom.

I have also talked to other people about this and they say that my body is totally strange. Anyway, the questions are; will I feel this way for the rest of my life? Is this just because I am new at this whole sex thing and will it go away soon?

Also this peeing urge is really bothersome, and really uncomfortable for me. Is there an explanation for this? Or a way to stop this urge permanently without NOT having sex. =) thank you

It's really normal to feel the urge to pee during intercourse. There is a certain spot in your vagina, that when hit makes you want to pee, known as your g-spot. But it is totally normal, and your body is not strange.

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(1) my boyfriend and i threw a party and he madeout with two gay guys and got a huge hicky from one. so i kissed (a little more than a peck) a gay guy to show my boyfriend how it hurts. So did i cheat or did he cheat?



As wierd as this question is, you both cheated. I don't think revenge was the best solution, since two wrongs don't make a right. But you both should know better, thats just silly.

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one of my friends sent me an icon and said it was so funny, i dont get it...can someone help me out? its a picture of a optomestrists chart that reads:

I
AM
SOFA
KING WE
TODD DID

whats that mean??
thanks

haha wow. if you say it really fast it comes out "i am so fucking retarded"




get it? try it a couple of times lol.

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15/f

ok so im thinking about changing my look to like the surf /beachy kinda thing. but i was just wondering is that a turn-on for guys? i know all guys are different but if your a guy can you give me your opinion? or if your a and you know any guys who don't/do like it can you tell me about it? thanks.

Really it all depends on the guy. I guess it matters what kind of guys your trying to attract. If your trying to attract all the surfer/beach stoked kind of dudes then go for it, but if your doing for yourself I say you should work it. I personally like that style, i'm usually like it during the summer though.

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alrite. so me & my ex boyfriend broke up in the begining of the summer becasse he was doing stuff he was not supposed to be doing. no it wasn't cheating. & i still care about him but i know for a fact he don't care about me anymore. i already talk to him. didn't help. what do i do?

If you still have feelings for your ex and he doesn't, you have to be patient. He won't automatically fall in love with you again. Try talking to him often and give him space. Start it off friendly then see where it is becoming to be, a good friendship or the start of a new love relationship. Just take your time, don't rush, he'll come around.

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Well I'll start it off like this...

Im 16,I went out with this guy named Steve who is now 17 about a year and a half ago. it ended cuz i cheated on him but i didnt mean for it to happen. anyways we both got into other relationships but i never stopped liking him i actually have more feelings for him now then i ever had in the past..i broke up with the guy i was with but hes still with this girl ..anyways we never stopped talkin and well we've hung out and done some sexual things in the last month and he says he considers us friends with benefits..but that he never has stopped liking me.. i wanna be more then that and he knows that..but i dont kno what to do..him and his current girlfriend dont really get along and are more of a sexual relationship..i really want to be with steve and i need any advice i can get on wut to do or try..thanks so much

boys name has been changed

you said the your relationship ended because you cheated, does he know he's doing the same to his girlfriend? i think you should resist from letting "Steve" use you like that. If he truly liked you he would be with you and not consider you as a friend with benefit. He's pretty much syaing, i'm using you for your body. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable knowing that he's fooling around with two different girls and that you want him to yourself, just try not to make it sounds obsessive/over-protected, just explain that your feelings are getting stronger and that you think you should be together.

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i'm 5'4.5" and about 110 pounds. i think i have a pretty good body, but kids at my school think im anorexic. it gets me so mad, they dont need to bring me down just because they're fat and im normal weight. america is so fat that they think people at a healthy weight are anorexic or bulemic. ANYWAY (sorry for going off topic) i want to add some meat to my arms and legs. I just want those two areas to be a little more "meaty". what can i do? exercize is hard for me, because i never have time for it. are there any drinks or foods i can use to help me gain weight just in those areas? thanks for your time and advice!

i know you say excercising is hard for you because of your schedule but you should probably try to fit it in your schedule. every night before you go to bed just do some leg lifts, they're simple and take 5 minutes. also try eating protein bars. There is also this new drink by Special K, K2O Protein drinks, they are really good! Just try to get as much protein as you can in your body AND TRY TO DO SOME LEG LIFTS!

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this has been bothering me all day, i though of a song today that i used to absolutely love. but i canremeber anyof the lyrics or who sings it but if you can help me out id love you forever!

its a country song
female singer
and in like the chorus shes singing about like her mother being her best friend or something
and in the music video shes like on a swing or something
and it had to of come out between 2001 and 2003.

im sorry for like the limitied details but im searching itunes like a total maniac so if anyof you can help me i would be like the happiest perosn ever.

okkkkkk i dont know the song and its by jessica something but do this

i'm rosemary's granddaughter, spitting image of my father and when the day is done my mamas still my biggest fan, sometimes im clueless and im clumsy but i got friends who love me and they know just where i am, its all apart of me and thats who i am


take that and search it on google and it will pop up. k. =] hope i helped

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okay so i'm a little scared i'm 13f and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me and i havn't even started my period yet and i'm afraid if i have it with him something bad might happen can someone please help me i'm afraid.

Your really young, having sex may sound fun but on young teen girls it's a handful. It may not be the right choice and you could regret it. You should really wait until your not afraid, because if you are it could come back to haunt you. And it is really dangerous to have sex when you haven't had your period. You can still get pregnant, yeah i know people say "you can't get pregnant your first time" or "you can't get pregnant you haven't had your period." BUT THATS NOT TRUE. It happens, you might be getting your period soon and you may be ovulating and if you have sex when your ovulating its a higher chance you might get pregnant, so please take this to caution and don't do it just because you boyfriend wants to. For all you know he might be afraid too and not ready, and if he really loves you he'll respect your decision and wait.

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-J.R.

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13/f

ok theres this guy that i like hes in my grade and i wanna tell him that i like him but .... hes not like the most attractive guy ya know and no body knows i like him.. and a lot of people think that he likes me and if they fine out i like him then i think ill get made fun of or something... idk and he always guessing who i like .... and i dont know what to do! please help! thanks!!

why care what people think? i think you should go for it. you shouldnt care what people think, as long as your happy and he is too. I'm pretty sure that other girls in the school date "unattractive" guys too, but do you think they care what people think. Half the people you know in high school, you'll never see again but you want to have the most fun you can have and being with someone you really like will be.

hope i helped, let me know.

-jess

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