I'm 16 and I've been told I give pretty good advice, a few friends told me to check out the site and see if I liked it so here I am. I'm not really one to ask for advice I normally keep things to myself, but for anyone who wants to ask any questions go for it.
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so i have a problem. i can never hold a conversation with a guy wheni talk to them on aim. it seems like we run outta things ot talk aobut. we go throught he suaul whats up and everything and then we just kinda fade out.
how do i keep the conversations going.??
any adivce is appreciated! (link)
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Act like your very interested....How was your day? What did you do? What are you up to tomorrow? If need be, be completely random, say something funny. Don't wait for them to start the conversation and don't let them end it either. Eventually you will start to talk more and become the kind of friends that can say pretty much anything to each other.
Hope this helps
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i went out with the boy and we really liked eachother but then my parents made me break up with him because he went out with my step sitster (shes in the same grade as me) and they told me not to tell anyone why. well the deal was i wasnt allowed to go out with him for a year after their breakup. and he asked me before a year (he had no idea of this rule and niether did i at the time) so the year is up and i really like him still and hes not with anyone right now and i want to hook up with him but do you think i should tell him why i broke up with him or not? (link)
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I'll give you a short and sweet answer. I personally wouldn't bring up the last break up unless he asks and if he does then just be completely honest. You cant start a relationship right off the bat with a lie.
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I could have sworn that I took my pill yesterday night. I'm pretty sure I forgot to take wednesday's pill & took it on thursday. [Not sure, but since thursday's pill was in there.. i'm thinking that's what happened]So I took yesterdays pill & tonights.
[I've been on the pill for over 6 months] & my period is supposed to come sunday.. but since the pill shortens it.. it comes a few days later in the week..
Could I be pregnant? I had sex multiple times and used a different condom each time. He held onto it as he pulled out.
Naturally, i'm a worry wart :[ (link)
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Its highly unlikely that you are pregnant seeing as how you were on the pill and used condoms, but its still could've happened if, even one of the condoms had a hole in it...it doesn't take a very large hole to let sperm slip by. I really dont mean to scare you, just trying to help, but if you are worried then you should take a pregnancy test just to make sure.
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Before my period comes on I get really really really bad cramps. I can't even go to school because it hurts so bad. Please tell me what I need to do because if this happens every month I'm going to be over in my school days. Thank YOU! (link)
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I know how you feel cramps...are just pure evil. You can buy heat pads at any drug store and wear them during the day and it should help relieve the pain. I also take 2 liquid gel advils. Midol I heard also works, I have never tried it but the advil works wonders for me. Exercising also helps, situps and jogging, unless you have a heavy flow, if you do, resist any exercising because that will make it worse. And sometimes if the cramps do hurt and nothing is working you do have to take a day off from school. I have had to do that a couple times, other times you just have to be grumpy and in pain and deal with it. I have also had to do that.
I hope this helps and hope you get to feeling better around that time of the month.
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Ok so next week august 28th I start highschool and I'm not going to lie I'M TERRIFIED I don't know what to do or how to act who to talk to what to say I don't know anything! And what's bad enough is that I have a lot of people at this highschool who I didn't get along with in middleschool and still don't get along with and the drama omg the drama I can't stand the whole "she said this about you" "she said that about you" I hate it! I want to learn how to stay away from alll the drama and all the people I don't get along with does anyone have any tips on how to make my first year in highschool a year where I don't have to worry about everything and everyone?? (link)
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Okay okay....CALM YOURSELF!!! Highschool isn't quite as terrifying as it sounds or looks. Just be yourself...you don't have to go with the trends and you don't have to try to act cool, trying to act cool just makes people seem more...childish and dorky which leads to dumb comments such as "stupid freshman"...Don't pay attention to that. As for the drama drama drama people...stay away from them. Blow off everything they say it doesn't really matter. Make new friends, in your new classes just introduce yourself or say hi to the person sitting next to you. You're gonna be a freshman so most of the other freshman are feeling like you are right now...terrified, you will look calm and confident compared to them if you are the one to say hi first. At the first sign of a dramatic person, move yourself away, you don't want drama in highschool its just plain bad, so when you see a drama girl coming your way walk a different direction. Theres a whole school of new people to get to know. I promise its not that scary.
Hope this helps...and don't worry everything will be fine!
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im 14/f my b.f and i broke up like a week ago and he got a g.f and i kinda got a b.f i dont no but w/e anyways im 14 as i said before and the guy that i might be going out wit is 17 so is that to old?? or like im tooo young ?? or is it ok ??? (link)
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I would say its okay...but just be careful and don't let him rush you into anything...3 years isn't that great of an age difference but the 17 year old mind of a male thinks very differently than that of a 14 year old female.
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16/f. I've been best friends with this guy for 4 years. Except for literally DAYS of being attracted to him when we first met, months before we were even friends (which wasn't reciprocated), everything between us has always been 100% platonic, and we've both had several bfs/gfs during the course of our friendship. However, for ages because of how close we are other people have been speculating there's something more. Recently he got this new girlfriend, and he has been spending ALL his time for her, and he never sees me anymore unless she can come along and even that's barely ever. He didn't come to my party because he was with her! It's driving me insane and I keep trying to talk to him about it, but he keeps implying that I'm just jealous of her cos I'm in love with him or something, which is ridiculous because I have a boyfriend myself. I really don't want to lose our friendship... what should I do? Is it ACTUALLY impossible to only be platonic friends with a guy with no one saying anything?! (link)
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To be quite honest I think your friend is whipped. He may be letting his girlfriend control the relationship. It is possible to have a friendship with a guy and not be attracted to him... but if you hang out almost 24-7...someone always says something and rumors get spread. I think since he won't listen to you write him a letter and tell him what you're thinking. You just want to be friends nothing more, your not "in love with him" you just dont want to lose the friendship. You want to make it work. And if he is the one saying all this "jealousy" mumbojumbo then I don't think he's as great a friend as he seemed to be. If one girl could make him ruin a great friendship then maybe you should just go your seperate ways. I do hope that you two can be friends and that he will listen to you when you speak instead of letting his girlfriends words or his ego get the best of him.
I hope that all works out...
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i have a Lhasa apso and her name is Lucy and she's about a year old and for some reason she doesn't wag her tail...i need to know why this is pissing me off
ha ha (link)
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Normally if a dog doesnt wag their tail that means they are scared or unhappy or tired. But that doesnt mean that they're also not happy. I hope this information helps. This kind of dog doesnt like to be around rough children...this makes them unhappy. They like to be able to run around outdoors so walking them will make them healthier and happier. They are really stubborn and also very suspicious of strangers so if you have new friends over often they may not like that. They dont like being alone. Try giving him treats or a bone to make him excited. Or it could be your dogs really stubborn and doesnt like to wag her tail...Either way...I don't think you should be peeved about it.
I hope this helps.
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what are the best ways to earn a lot of money, and i mean a lot of money..
please help with this answer, this is urgent.
2 people will work to raise it, what is the best way. (link)
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This all depends on age...if you're 13-15 there isn't much you can do. If your 16 you can start working at fast food places or restaurants, but theres no guarantee that you will be making a lot of money...two jobs part time maybe, but thats about all I can think of without going into something illegal. I'm sorry I cant be of more help.
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okay, so i go to a private school and most the guys havent done anything more than just kissing. but ive done more and my friend likes to tell them stories about me. but i dont really mind cause honestly i like the attention. but does it make the guys not like me? is it better to keep it a secret? or do guys like to know that stuff? (link)
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Attention is one thing...a bad reputation is another. Boys may start liking you for the wrong reasons...expecting more than they do from other girls. If I were you I would keep my personal business to myself.
I hope this helps
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hey, alright so im getting my nose pierced in martch after cheering season is over. my question isnt "does it hurt" or whatever, its what side did you get your nose pierced on? the left or the right?
thanks =] (link)
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Okay yes it will hurt a little bit, you may start tearing up but not because of the pain just because of your nasal cavitie and sinus pressure. And it doesn't matter which side of your nose you get it on. Its whatever you want.
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My mom and I are visiting my Aunt as well as my cousins.Any way today after I had breakfast with just my mom and my aunt I went shopping on my own and then my aunt and my mom went back to my Aunts Apartment at her Assisted Living Place. About a half hour into my shopping my zipper to my purse broke. I went to a store and purchased a new purse (a bigger one to hold everything). This one does not have a zipper but a magnetic snap. Anyway I transferred all my stuff from my old purse into the new one, checked the old one to see if I missed anything and then threw the old one out at the mall when I saw I transferred everything into the new purse.When I came back to the apartment my mom saw my new purse and I told her what happened. When I told her I did not keep the old purse (that I threw it out after transferring everything from the old purse to the new purse) she asked me was I sure I took everything out of the old purse. I told her I did and she asked me three more times was I sure that I did take everything out of the old purse. I then told her that I needed to buy the new one and I asked her what she would have done and she said you know me I would have brought the old purse back to the apartment and checked the old purse a few more times. However, when she said the above to me what went through my mind is that she was implying I should have still used the old one.MY QUESTION: Am I thinking stupidly and how would you have interpreted what my mom said if she said it to you? (link)
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No, what you were thinking is not stupid. I think your mom was just being cautious. That maybe she could have fixed it or that you could've double checked...triple checked, however many times until you were positive everything was out. I wouldn't worry about it, my mom would have done the same thing.
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my ex boyfriend and I have had very very strong feelings for each other for almost 2 years now..6 months of which we went out but even after we broke up we hung out and this summer we were inseperable and basically seeing each other again just not officially together..but crazy about each other..and i had told him he could hook up with other girls BUT if he does then we should probably just be friends because i didn't wanna get hurt and that just wouldnt be right but he did hook up a couple times and we ended up still staying the same until saturday night..he got head from a girl..which is something he would usuallly never do..and that night he sent me a message saying we should just be friends..and then later that night after both of us had cried cause it felt like things were coming to an end..he begged for me to just forgive him and told me how he'd pick me over ANY other girl and he just wanted to be with me..and I just kept telling him that that its best we be friends because of what he did adn because he sent a message saying we should be friends so obviously before he hooked up with her he knew it risked us just being friends and i told him that we could just be best buds like we always were because i was hurt. and so since then ive stayed strong and kept telling him we should just be friends but hes apologized countless times. and i do wanna be friends with him but heres the thing..i dont know if i should just forgive him and jsut let us be really good buds or just have some distance for a while or what..and am i the only one who thinks what he did was wrong? thank you so much! (link)
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I think what your boyfriend did was wrong but I wouldn't think what he did was so wrong that you had to wait forever to be his friend again. You two weren't technically going out and you did tell him he could be with other girls, but on the other hand he shouldnt have text you THAT night, a personal conversation would have been much better. I would say just be friends with him, you can be good buddies, and when you feel like you want to get back together with him then talk it over with him and see what he says...even though I'm pretty sure he would say yes to you in a split second. I also think that before you get back together with him you should tell him how hurt you were and that you don't want to be hurt again. This way he knows not to ever do what he did to you again.
Hope this helps...Good luck
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Okay so I had oral sex with this guy and I guess he liked me a little bit. I dont know. But he'll talk to me sometimes and then other times he just ignores me. I mind you he is really shy. Like he'll talk to me but when we were having oral he seemed like i dont know nervous. He's 2 years older than me so I dont know why he was so shy ans stuff. Now he talks to me like he likes me and then he'll act like im some sort of freak. He calls me some stupid name thats not insulting its just something he likes to call me. I dont know if he wants some sex or he really likes me. I've never had sex before. So yeah I'm a virgin. But he really pisses me off. Why does he do that? I want to ask him but he's so confusing he may never talk to me again. I'm just sick of him. (link)
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Okay, If its bothering you this much then you just need to ask him and get it out in the open. He shouldn't be treating you like your weird if he really does like you. I would say just confornt him about it...be a bitch if you need too, sometimes you have to be mean to get to the point...If he likes you then he will talk to you again and if he doesn't then thats his loss, you don't need him anyways.
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15/f
my friend sam, said she didnt like this one girl. and i mean i did, but like i guess she didnt think i did or something, because she was like ew no i hate her shes so weird. and i was like ok. but then i was reading what sam said to her on her myspace..
oh my god i got your message. and omg im sorry i cant hang out tongiht i could only hang out during the day cuase i have cheer tongiht and what about tomrorow we need to before i leaveeee. and OMG =( i just did something and oh my gosh call me noww!!talk to you later hun.
YESSSSSS. PLEASE. I NEED TO HANG OUT., Its Eight in the morning and my mom woke me up and im depressed. LITURALLY depressed. Ill explain why later. BUt yeah lets hang out today? call my cell. when you get this or wake up . Oh my god! =(
like.. wtf? theres a ton more like that too. she never leaves me comments like that? i dont think im jealous. im just confused.
whats up with her? (link)
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Okay your friends two faced. She says one thing but doesnt mean it. I think you should tell the other girl what your so called "friend" is saying. She has a right to know if someones saying crap behind her back...especially someone she thinks is her friend. And you should confront your "friend" and ask her about it...see what her excuse is. I doubt it'll be any good but its always fun to see bad people sweat.
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i had sex 9 days ago. since then, ive had my period. im still afraid i could be pregnant, would birth control have an effect if i started taking it? would it change anything if i was pregnant? i dont think i am, but i know there is still a small possibility. (link)
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You can still be pregnant if you had your period. Birth control while you are pregnant might have a serious effect on the embryo. I would say take a pregnancy test just to be sure and if your not pregnant then you should get on birth control just to be safe and always use a condom or any other means of protection. If you are pregnant you NEED to tell your parents. I dont think it matters how old you are, you should tell them as soon as you find out if worst comes to worst.
Good luck...Hope this helps
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So i'm in 8th grade, and ive been friends with this girl since the beginning of 6th and when shes with people she knows i dont really talk to, she starts talking really bad crap about me and it always comes back to me! And she says im 'one of her best friends' but she never calls me for help on things, or tells me about her crushes, or anything. And shes liked my best guy friend for over 5 months and told all my other friends but me. And she LOVES stirring up drama at sleepovers or trips. And i honestly dont know what to do anymore! im sick of it! --plus i honestly dont recall doing anything for her to treat me this bad in the first place! what do i do? am i still friends with her or not???
help! =[ (link)
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Okay...Drama=Bad. Its never fun to get mixed up in, someone always gets hurt. If she is talking behind your back you really just need to stop being friends with her. She obviously just likes to use people and abuse there trust. And it doesnt seem like she trusts you that much because she never tells you anything. You have 2 options.
1. Stop being friends with her.
2. Still be friends but act like she does. I dont mean talk behind her back...dont stoop to her level, I mean don't tell her anything about who you like or what problems your having...even if she seems interested, it could just be a way to get your secrets and then talk about you behind your back. Do not trust her with anything she doesnt seem like the type to just stop her evil ways or confess to doing these things.
I hope this helps good luck.
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Do girls get that wierded out by guys who aren't circumcized? I was just wondering because im not (link)
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If a girl gets wierded out because you're not circumcized thats ridiculous and you don't need to be with them. She would be shallow and dumb. I would say if the girl likes you she wouldn't care about something like that. Its not that big of a deal. Don't worry.
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Okay the reason why people really hate school is because of the people. It's never the work and of course school is a constant thing that seems like it's never going to end at all!!! Anyways I'm 13 and I'm in 8th grade. Can't wait to get the hell outta there. Anyways back to me. My ex friend as I call her. Well she came up to me today and told me that all these guys that she knew said I looked better on myspace then in real life. I personally think I look better in real life than in pictures. but I don't see how those guys can judge my looks when I haven't seen them in almost 3 years. I was 11 the last time I saw the guys she's talking about. I don't even remember what they look like. Anyways I think my friend is trying to piss me off because when I did meet those guys they said they wanted me to stay with them because they said I was waaaay hotter than my friend. And this made her really mad and she didnt talk to me for days. But that was 3 years ago. My question is though is my friend jealous or did those guys really mean that??? People dont say I'm beautiful or anything but they say I'm pretty and I don't think I'm thaaat ugly. (link)
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Okay I think your friend is just mad at you or jealous. Honestly...Your in 8th grade and going into highschool soon, the drama is gonna get worse. I wouldnt care what people I havent seen in 3 years think of me. Every girl is catty in their own way and some are just more insecure than others...I think your friend is just trying to get back at you. If you think your pretty and people say your pretty then your pretty! Everyone has their different taste. I wouldnt worry about it. If you really wanna make her mad without being vengeful then just blow it off. Be confident you have no reason not to be.
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ok this is really stupid and weird, but anyway... every so often my boyfriend will call me up and ask me "would you ever go out with john?" or "do you think tom is hot?". and usually, "john" or "tom" is sitting right next to him. or sometimes, john or tom will call me up and ask if i'd ever go out with them. and i know my bf is right there and told them to ask me that.
so i have two questions:
1) how do i answer that question? if i say "no, i'd never go out with you", that sounds kinda mean. but if i say "yes" or "maybe", then my bf will get mad and think i like them.
2) why in the world is my bf doing this?? i mean what is his motivation? (link)
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His motivation for doing this is probably trust issues. Someone in every relationship has them and its not unnatural. Your best bet would to maybe talk to him about this. Ask him why he puts you in those positions. Or better yet say, I like your friends, but just AS friends. They dont mean as much to me as you do. Boys will be boys as the saying goes.
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