Hey world, my name is D.J. and I'm hoping to be able to give some good advice to some people in need. Tell me what's on your mind and I will listen and respond with honesty and care. I hope my words can help many people.
Gender: Male
Location: pittsburgh
Occupation: writer
Age: 28
Member Since: May 18, 2004
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Im a male and im 24,i need tips on how to achive stamina without pills ,creams,pumps or surgery? (link)
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Before you cum you usually get a feeling that lets you know it's about to happen. You have to learn to realize what this feeling means. When you get the feeling you can pull out. Now I can hear the women cursing me out right now, so when you do pull out rub her clit with your head (the one down below) and this will keep you from going complete limp plus keep her aroused at the same time. If that doesn't work try slowing your stroke and push it as deep as you can. Pull in and out slowly and deeply until the feeling of cumming dies down. Hey and sometimes you just can't stop it!
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hi me again the reason i dont want him to know and all that is cuz its something i want to try and its with another couple so if i do like it and that then i will invite him in im just not to sure if i will like being with another women we did this onec before and he was involed in it and i felt worried of him cheating and stuff like more like he was going to like her better and that if you know what i mean (link)
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I think you should try it. If you do it and like it you do it with your husband as soon as possible! If you don't like it then you never mention it and you explain to your husband that you are not comfortable experimenting. I know this is unconventional advice but sex with people outside the marriage is always tricky.
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Okay, there's this guy I like. But, I'm not sure he likes me back. This will be long, but I would appreciate it if you could answer it. Thanks. Here, I'll explain.
Okay, I liked him (Let's call him Bob) since about December- January. Bob was a nice guy, and I liked him a lot. I started flirting with him. Then, an evil guy told him I liked him, and he said "ewww." My friend covered for me, and Bob believed my friend. Then, I told him I liked him, and that's where my problem starts.
I went to a sports game of his, and after it, he kept looking at me (Not a weird look, just a look with no emotion or anything)! It was like this:
Put equipment in bag. Look at me. Pick bag up. Look at me again. Or something like that.
Then I told him "good game" and he gave me this weird look. Now, it could be that I was out of place or whatever, but I'm not sure.
Sometimes, my friends or me catch him looking at me! Just yesterday, my friend caught him staring at me! After my friend caught him, he looked away!
And today, he said he liked me as a friend "sort of." He was in front of his friends when he said this.
Now, is it possible that he likes me? Thanks for your time and advice, I really appreciate it! ~Sakura (link)
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It sounds like he had never thought about getting with you before. He has a lot to think about. He might like you but if I were you I would keep showing up to games and having your friends talk to him. But don't let them badger him because that will just piss him off. Sooner or later he will let you know how he feels.
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hi im about to have a 3 some and my hubby dont know about it but lastnight he kind of got the idea from a profile and now i dont know what to do should i tell him of keep it a secret? but hes been asking me latley about swing but i dont want but i also dont want him to fine out about the 3 some help (link)
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You plan on having a 3some without him? If he is not into it I have to say do it. If you don't your going to worry about it and it's going to affect your marriage. But here is the kicker. You have to talk to him about this. If he wants one why wouldn't you want him involed? Is it all women? If it is then he may only want to watch. I really need more info. Why wouldn't you want to have a 3some with your hubby? Bottom line, no secrets! They will destroy your relationship! Unless that's what you want.
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IS a gigolo the same thing as a prostitute but it's a guy? (link)
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No, a gigolo is a man who doesn't believe in monogomy. A player, smooth operator. He is not a prostitute or a pimp or an escort. And if he gets money it is not for paymnet of sevices.
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what is the diff in given head & a blowjob (link)
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There is a difference. Head is concentrating on the head of the penis (feels good too!) a blow job is taking the whole penis shaft and all.
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Ok i read the response u had for a young lady struggling with weight and u basically said being skinny is not all it s cracked up to be and let someone fall in love with u for u
Ok i am a lesbian woman and so i met this woman on the chat line and we were really feeling each other s personalities and she was more infatuated with me than i was with her, to the point where she was like "u cld be talking to ur wife" so anyways i sent her my picture and she was like i m disappointed and we have not really spoke since.
I am an overweight woman and i sometimes feel that i am not attractive but i love the way i look it just seems that others dont. It seems to be very hard for me to meet women due to my lack of self confidence, how can someone lose interest just like that ? it seems impossible to have someone fall for u when it is always about what u look like physically! (link)
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I think the problem is that you were online. Get offline and into a bar! Not to get sloppy drunk! Believe it or not there are people in the real world. I know it's harsh out there but it is also a whole lot of fun! Look, big or small, none of that matters. Everyone has confidence problems for one reason or another. The key is being able to get past that and show people who you really are. Now I'm not saying you should hit the hottest club in your area but you should try your local bar. Something small to start off with and then gradually build up to going to the hottest club in your area! Even if you just make more friends that's a plus because that means more people to hang out with! The only way to meet the right person is to not give up because someone with no hope is the most unattractive person imaginable. You say you like the way you look? Prove it and never give up!!!
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Are there any heros these days? Who is out there to inspire us with a personal example of virtue and self-sacrifice in the name of a higher good? Who can we look up to? Business leaders? Sports figures? Politicians? Celebrities? Heck, we're lucky if they don't end up in prison. (link)
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That depends on your definition of a hero. The heroes in my life were the people closest to me. My older brother, my god-father and others were people I looked up to and wanted to be like. All the positions you mentioned could have heroes in them too. What we have to remember is that they are people and people make mistakes for whatever reason. That doesn't make them any less of a hero. The true mark of a hero isn't who he can knock down but whether or not they can stand up after being knocked down. No one is perfect and the day we recognize that is the day we will all be heroes!
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I am 13 going on 14 and only 5'2 . I am tired of wearing super high heels as my mum hates it when i do this , and on top of that , my crush is about 5'11 !!! . Thats like , 9 whole inches taller than me .Which means that I only reach up till his shoulder , not wearing heels .
( He's 14 going on 15 ) Do you think that i am too short for him ? How can i grow taller ?? ( I know it seems impossible to MAKE myself grow taller , but any special diet suggestions ? ) (link)
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Most men find tall women intimidating. In fact, you're taller than most of the women I know and I'm 28. Bottom line is I don't think your height will play much of a role. Unless you go to school with every player in the WNBA. Then you would be in trouble. But since you don't (do you?) you can take comfort in the fact that he probably thinks of himself as a short guy. The man is 5'11, not exactly Shaq here! And there are alternatives to heels that are just as stylish but comfortable at the same time.
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This is a stupid question. But this guy asked this girl if she had a bush. He said if she did it would be a total turn-off then he said his friend likes it. What is he talking about?
Thanks_ 14 year old. (link)
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I'm a guy. When a guy usually says bush he is not, I repeat not, talking about pubic hair, he is talking about the vagina. At least black guys and all my white, hispanic, asian, hindu and egyptian friends do!
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hi my husband says he loves me when he chats on the computer he likes to see other womens tits and ask hhem to say dirty thing he shows his pics of you know what but we fight about it all the time but he says it doesnt get trun on by other women but hes always looking at porn and stuff makes me feel unwanted what should i do (link)
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Too many negative responses! Look it sounds to me like he's looking for something he's not getting. He may be a freak! Not in a bad way. He may just enjoy the interaction. Have you talked dirty to him? From what you wrote you don't seem like the type that would. Did you know that most men don't go to the strip club to get laid but to stare and glare and fantisize about something they can never have; another woman. You should join him on the computer. Find things you like and see how he reacts. He'll either get mad and suggest you both stop. You both might get turned on and ad a new aspect to your relationship! Or you may not like it. But don't doubt his love for you because he has a fetish.
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i have been with my bf for 4 & a half years and we have a baby together. our whole relationship has been a lot of fighting. he gets so jealous and he will rip my clothes, sometimes hit, and he calls me a bitch and a slut when he is pissed off. i am 20 and he is 22. i feel i am too young to deal with all of this, even though we have our good times. i have attempted to leave him several times but am scared of change and i never go through with it. he will also put me down in front of our friends and family to make himself look good. should i finally just give up or should i stick with it for my son? and if i do decide to leave how do i do it? (link)
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First of all what kind of friends or family let someone put you down in front of them? LEAVE HIM! He doesn't deserve you or your baby. You shouldn't, no, you don't have to put up with crap like that! You should have left a long time ago. Go to a family members house and stay if you live with him. If he won't leave you alone file a PFA(Protection From Abuse) order against him. If he came near you the police could arrest him. You ask if you should stay with him for the baby's sake. The baby's sake is exactly why you should leave. You don't want the child growing up in an environment where mommy is getting beat on by daddy! Do what's right. For you and your child!
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Hey everybody! I hope you have fun answering this question! :)
Guess what!? I need some flirting tips! So go ahead and tell me some, I don't care what they are, just tell me! :P Anything you know about flirting, kissing, etc... in general would be great! 'Cause I need that type of advice right now! Thanks a bunch! :D (link)
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Ask questions. Humor is always good. Be interested even if you're not! Playing with fingers, the neck, the hair. A kiss can begin or end a relationship. And there are many kinds. For flirting I would go with the brush and soft peck against the cheek.
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me and my friend amanda have known each other for a little bit over three months. within these three months i went out with her best friend and she went out with mine. but 2 months into our friendship we fell in love with eachother. i broke up with my g/f not just cause of her but she was one of the main reasons. but anyway she is still goin out with one of my bestfriends, and me and her have already gone out on "dates" if u will and i have kissed her. but 2 weeks ago she said we cant be friends. well we became friends and fell in love again and went on a "date". she is still goin out with my friend though. she says she loves me but idk if she is just makin it up or what. me and her are always on the phone at least 2 or 3 hours a day. and i love her more than anything. i dont kno what to do about all of this. please tell me what to do. (link)
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There is no other way to put this. You are a horrible friend! But I've been there. Look, first things first, you have to tell your "best Friend" the truth about what's going on before he finds out on his own! I understand you love her but love can not survive on a lie. How would you feel if your friend was doing this to you? You have to consider that. You have to do the right thing. If you are both in love then it shouldn't be a problem for you to tell your friend what's going on! I'm telling you if you continue on the path that you are on now people are going to get hurt, friendships will end and you will have a major regret you will have to live with for the rest of your life!
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i wanan kiss a boy really extremly bad.. but i dont have a bf right now.. im in 8th grade dn i know im old enough to kiss and i want to know!! how do i go kiss someone? should i ksis a boy at the dance thsi friday??? (link)
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The best kisses aren't planned out. They are spontaneous, you don't see it coming until you're doing it! Is there someone special you want to kiss or is this just a desire to know what it's like to kiss someone? If it's someone special then it shouldn't just be up to you. Make sure he wants to too! If you are just experimenting then here is a suggestion; if you have a friend who is a boy then you could practice on each other. It's better than practicing on your brother! But honestly, a kiss can be great or horrible. Don't rush it and it'll come sooner than you thought!
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Just curious, what counts more, width or lenghth. (link)
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I'm going to assume that you are a guy and are asking the question every man asks at least once in their life time! I'm going out on a limb and say neither. They both count at different times! And that has to be true. If a woman has had more than one lover, unless they were Star Wars clone troopers, they were all built differently. Sometimes it depends on how the woman is built; loose or tight!
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Well I guess it was bound to happen.
I have been served with a Summonds to appear in court to explain why I haven't finnished paying My Child Support, I have tryed It was 59.000.00
I got it down to 14.597.00.
A lot has happen and I wont bore you with the details or make you cry.
Everything has just piled up.
Unpaid Taxes (unknown amount)
Cable 600.00
Phone 300.00 etc.
I just don't know how to start or where to turn.
Any suggestions I need advice.!! (link)
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PAY YOUR CHILD SUPPORT!!!! Look, you don't want to go to jail and you don't want your futre child viewing you as a dead beat! I know it is going to hurt but you have to forget about your cable and phone bill. Get one of those cheap pay as you use phones so the courts can get in touch with you. I'm not just some guy saying you should pay by any means for the love of your child, although that is a damn good reason, butjust in case I didn't say this before; YOU WILL GO TO JAIL!! The courts don't care about your sob story because the hear hundreds of the same stories everyday. Suck it up, pay it off and then start to rebuild your finacial life. As far as the unpaid taxes go, because you do need a place to live, send the bare minimum amount of what you can afford to pay. That'll keep them happy until you are able to send more. So remember these two sentences: PAY YOUR CHILD SUPPORT!!! and YOU WILL GO TO JAIL!! You'll be ok. Believe it or not, it gets better :-).
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yesterday i was at my parents house because my dad was fixing my car. well my boyfriend went home for lunch, which is about two minutes from my parents house. he calls me and asks how my car is coming. i tell him that my dad is still working on it, because i was going to surprise him that it was finished. he says he is going to eat something and go to the bathroom, then he would go to my moms and see me. the night before we had watched scary movie part 3 and pamela andersons boobs are popping out of her shirt. these kinds of things in movies upset me and he knows it. well i head to our house, i open the door and what i see shocks me! he has a sock on his penis and is getting off to pam, the same movie that we had seen together the other night. i feel betrayed and i feel like he has hid this from me, what else? i have asked him before if he had done this and he said no. i lost his trust. am i overreacting? whos right here? and what should i do? we have a baby and i am pregnant and 19. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I have to answer this in three parts. 1)If you are mad about boobs popping out in movies, well there is not much we can do about that because, as much as we hate it, sex sells. 2)If it's the masturbation, most men don't admit to masterbating to anyone. They don't like anyone thinking they aren't having sex! He probably hid the fact that he masturbates because he's embarrassed and didn't want you to judge him. 3)A lie like this was probably created to avoid this very situation. He's wrong for not telling the truth but you are overreacting a little. This should be an opportunity to get all secrets out into the open and resolve them like the responsible adults impending parents should be!
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