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Ok i read the response u had for a young lady struggling with weight and u basically said being skinny is not all it s cracked up to be and let someone fall in love with u for u
Ok i am a lesbian woman and so i met this woman on the chat line and we were really feeling each other s personalities and she was more infatuated with me than i was with her, to the point where she was like "u cld be talking to ur wife" so anyways i sent her my picture and she was like i m disappointed and we have not really spoke since.
I am an overweight woman and i sometimes feel that i am not attractive but i love the way i look it just seems that others dont. It seems to be very hard for me to meet women due to my lack of self confidence, how can someone lose interest just like that ? it seems impossible to have someone fall for u when it is always about what u look like physically!
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Everyone has a "type" and some people are attracted to heavier people. I know they seem to be in the minority, but they are out there.
On-line is not a good way to meet someone and know if you will be attracted in person. Also, there could have been other things going on. It is too easy to be dishonest over the internet.
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there are many people out there who are superficial, they care mostly about looks. however, how you feel about yourself reflects how you look to other people. skinny or heavy, if you aren't confident and have low self esteem it is harder for people to approach you and vs. it sounds like before you invest in a relationship you need to focus on yourself and making you happy. try hitting a gym or taking a class like yoga or aerobics. get yourself a mini makeover. just doing things for you will boost your self esteem. when your truly confident, life will be great with or without someone. good luck.
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I think the problem is that you were online. Get offline and into a bar! Not to get sloppy drunk! Believe it or not there are people in the real world. I know it's harsh out there but it is also a whole lot of fun! Look, big or small, none of that matters. Everyone has confidence problems for one reason or another. The key is being able to get past that and show people who you really are. Now I'm not saying you should hit the hottest club in your area but you should try your local bar. Something small to start off with and then gradually build up to going to the hottest club in your area! Even if you just make more friends that's a plus because that means more people to hang out with! The only way to meet the right person is to not give up because someone with no hope is the most unattractive person imaginable. You say you like the way you look? Prove it and never give up!!!
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Unfortunately we live in a world where appearances definitely matter and there's not much we can do about it. But one thing those people who are successful and popular have in common is not beauty but self confidence. As you've said, you're lacking in confidence. I think that's more of a problem than your appearance itself. Ask yourself why you're not confident and what you can do to change your outlook. Only action will make things better for you. Always be honest with yourself. I used to make myself believe that I was happy with the way I looked, but I wasn't really. I was somehow on the defensive, trying to protect myself rather than face the truth.
But remember, everyone (including beautiful people)gets old and wrinkly but what you are on the inside will stay with you forever. Besides you will find someone just right for you when the time is right.
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As I have said many other times, true love is very hard to come across. You may have to search long and hard to find someone who will not judge you by your appearence. Why the human race has come to be so shallow, I don't think anyone will concoct an answer to, but you should really consider moving on. Someone who can't accept you for who you truly are whether they be a man or a woman, is not truly in love with you. You're better than that. Go find someone who will accept you for who you are. One thing that I have learned and definately taken note to is this: don't change yourself for anyone. It's not worth it. If you're happy with you are then fine, that's all that really matters. You will come across someone sooner or later.
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