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Alright i have been hanging around this guy 2 years older than me for about a month.. my friend totally hates him for many reasons , and my friends mother works with students that are in the same class as this guy . they tell my friends mother that he is on drugs and that he drinks alllll the time at partys and stuff.. but when he is around me is a whole new person.. i realized that i dont want to get a bad rep by hanging out with him so how should i tell him that we shouldnt hang out ne more..( plus : he fingered me , and im afraid he will like go tell everyone shit about me =/ ) .. but yah how should i tell him that i dont wanna hang out ne more?? THANKS

Just ease off hanging out with him. Make plans with your other friends. When you spend less time with him, your friendship sort of diwndles away until he doesn't really want to hang out with your over some of his other friends. This way he will also not have any reason to say something nasty about you.
-Cat

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OK me and my 10 year old sister want to meet this actor named Jacob smith, But we dont know how and we live in minnesota and it is realy hard to meet an actor when you live in Minnesota.....How can I meet an actor that is prolly far away from minnesota??

Try to purchase tickets or passes to any shows he might be doing. But don't expect too much, many people go their whole lives without meeting an actor.
-Cat

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i have been with this guy for almost 8 months and he still doesnt trust me. i am going to collge next year and everytime we talk about it we get into fights. he thinks that im going to cheat on him or we will never see each other. but there is also this guy who has been my friend forever and i have alwayz watned to be with him.. now i have a chance to be.i really love him and he really loves me we have alwayz just had bad timing with each other. should i break upwith my bf and be with the other guy or what. my bf andi fight constantly and i dont ever do anything cuz he gets mad. he doesnt ever want my friends around and when they are the talks crap where they can hear

plz help
confused

Sounds like you should dump your boyfriend. If he doesn't trust you and you don't trust him then it's not a very stable relationship, and it will collapse eventually. Spend some alone time before hooking up with your friend, because it can hurt someone's feelings if you dump them for another person.
-Cat

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Ok, wow. My friend knows this guy at our school and she likes him a lot, but he doesn't know it (He may, but I don't know.) And he's really sweet and no one thinks he's a jerk or mean or whatever. But, then he didn't talk to her for some reason and so now she's a little bit upset. Her other friends think that she annoyed him, but she doesn't know why. She says that she may of talked to him too much, but she said she did that so he'd like her as a friend more. And so she keeps asking me for advice on what to do, but I don't have a clue, so I was asking you for help. She doesn't want to ask him why he is/was (I don't know.) mad at her, because ofcourse that would make him even more angry or annoyed! Should she ask him or have another friend as him, or what?

Maybe the guy knows that your friend likes him, and he is avoiding her because he is embarrassed. Though I'm sure he has nothing to be embarrassed about, but it's a bit weird for someone to have a crush on you. Just tell your friend slow down and actually get to know him and have some slow nice chats, maybe pointless. Anyway, your friend should just go as ask him. When my friends are mad at me, I just ask. No harm done. If he goes on a long rant about what made him mad, then fine. Now you know, so it won't happen again right?
-Cat

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I have this friend i think he is GAY and he is like always making fun of me and my one friend and i think he takes everything WAY TO SERIOUSLY by the way i am a 14 M and he is a 14 m HELP

There's nothing wrong with being gay. Gay means happy! Hahaha... Okay, I get your point, but you're not really saying why you think he's gay. Just because he's serious and makes fun of you? About what? Your clothes and stuff?
You could ask him casually. It shouldn't matter if you're really good friends. If he doesn't want to talk about it, don't pressure him.
-Cat

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Okay, picture this.. if you look at your teeth not the two front, not the next ones. but the next ones.. i haven't lost yet, their the only ones i haven't lost and i have an extra tooth growing out of my gums and its like way up there, and you can kind of see it when i smile but i think its grown to its fullest. but i dont wanna get my two teeth removed because i am 14, and I'll get picked on really bad, would u get them pulled?? or would u just wait for them to fall out?? please help

Oh, I've had that happen before where your adult tooth grew out above your baby tooth? Well, mine just fell out eventually, but it was when I was about seven and I have braces now. So you'll probably have to get it corrected with braces. If it's already growing out now then you will definitely need braces. It happens when you don't have the baby tooth fall out soon enough, or there's not enough space for them to come in. I had to have head-gear (night) to make my mouth bigger.
But you shouldn't care about having teeth pulled, I had my four canines pulled.
-Cat

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I just signed up to be on my schools fencing team. I am 14 years old (female) and a freshman in highschool. I was wondering, what would be the best weapon to use? My coach said that we had to start out with the Foil, but after using a Foil for a while I wanted to use something different. What would be best for me to use? An Epee or a Sabre? Also, how long should I stick with using a Foil until I change to using an Epee or Sabre? Thanks if you can help!

Hmm... You school has Fencing? My friend loves fencing but we don't have it at school.
Anyway, you just choose something and try it out to see how you feel about it. Stay with the foil until you're comfortable with it too. Maybe I'll edit later with some advice from my friend, but I know she likes kendo. (Hope I helped)
-Cat

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okay theres this boy..his names jake and me and him arent together but he likes me and i relaly like him and im in texsa on vacation and he was like i miss you so much..and theni went out for the day wt myparents and i came back and hes acting differnt..like he doesnt care about me anymore :-/ and i seriously will go crazy if what we have is fadding away cause REALLY care about him..what should i say too im to see if we are both still on the same page?

Well, Kiddo, I think it's time to move on! A lot of relationships are based on just the rush of excitement and after a while they dwindle down. Maybe that's just it for him. Move on kid, he's not the only fish in the sea.
But you wanted to know if you were on the same page? Well, you could sit down and talk. Or you could casually ask him how things were when you were gone. Did he meet any new people? *hint hint*
-Cat

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ok there is this guy at my middle school and he gives me and my friends hugs like all the time but he always wants to give me the first&last hug do you guys think he is dropping hints?

Don't get your hopes up too high. Maybe you were closest or farthest away. But if he make a big show about it like, 'No, you're last!' Or first, or something, then maybe he's making a point. If you like him, then you can go ahead and ask him out, never hurts to try!
-Cat

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hey..i like my boyfriend...but i miss my ex alot... and i think i still love him... but i still like my boyfrind...should i break up with my boyfriend since i like some1 else? or try t get over my ex? because for some odd reason my boyfriend likes me alot and i dont want to hurt him... please help me... ill rate high...

Well, maybe you could break up with your current boyfriend, but let him down easy and take some time to be by yourself and think about how you feel about both of them. Don't show favoritism, and don't pickup another random boyfriend to pass the time. Just enjoy single life for a while and think about if you really like either of them that much.
-Cat

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ok well i just moved to a new town, where i noticed everyone goes to church. i am jewish, and only 1 of 2 jews in the town (the other being a 77 yr old man) some ppl here dont like jewish ppl...should i keep it a secret, lie..or tell the truth.. i need help. fast

Don't listen to those other people who gave advice. I'm half Jewish and half Chinese (yeah, weird mix). Anyway, let it be known that you're proud of who you are! Don't hide! You can make real friends that accept you for who you are!
-Cat

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How do you get rid of white heads? (i have em on my chin) and how do u get rid of black heads? (i have em on my nose).

Personally, I just let them go away naturally. Just use cover-up until they're gone. But Be sure to wash your face EVERY DAY.
-Cat

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alright the guy who is like a bro to me asked me out what should i do btw i like some1 else who flirts with me alot.
help!

Just tell him how you feel. If you're really such good friends, he should understand. But don't go chasing after the other guy, because it may seem like you don't want to date him because you want to be avalible.
Let him down nice and easy though, 'kay? Don't wanna break his heart. Don't use that 'let's just be friends' line though, it's old and hurtful.
-Cat

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I showed my friend how to use this website and how to become a columnist, b/c i thot that she'd be awful at it. But now ppl are asking her direct questions and not me. And i dont want to be jealous, but i'm the first one who was here and now she's taking my place. What should i do?

That wasn't very nice if you thought she would be horrible at it! But, even so, just stay on a lot and answer questions. Really think about what you say when you answer and maybe people will start coming back to you.
But still, even if that doesn't work, be happy for your friend! Just because she's new doesn't mean she can't get popular too! Besides, this is just a place to help people, not a popularity contest.
-Cat

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