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Q: Im moving to the Korea next week and my close friend is avoiding me or we barely talk now and i dont want her to avoid me any idea why shes not talking to me that much? but when we talk sometimes she gives me a big bear hug like im leaving tommorow what is she trying to tell me?

Your friend could be telling you diffeent things. Your moving and she could be hurt. Knowing that shes losing you and she thinks that if she talks to you too much she will break down and not able to be with other friends or people and just be downright miserable. Your friends obdviously mean alot to you. She may feel like shes never gonna see or talk to you ever again.
Just talk to her and Actually ask her "Why are you not talking to me and Im leaving next week and I dont want to leave a bad situation unfinished" Ask her and see what she says. Email me back with her answer.

Q: i dont know if im depressed but i saw this ( one advicenator put this in her/his answer stating it was 6 major signs of depression)

1-sudden change in eating habits
2-sudden change in weight
3-lack of motivation
4-dont care about self image
5-doesnt care about self anymore
6-doesnt care about others anymore

the problem is that i did gain weight a little, theres lack of motivation in my life but im not gonna comit sucide or anything, i dont care about my self image or the way i dress to school cause i believe im me and i dont need anyone else opinion on things

i have 5 out of 6 of those, am i depressed?
i do care about others(#6)

your not depressed because You beleive in your self. Maybe find some more time for fun and FInd some healthy eating habits.
Make sure You know that people love you and Care And I hope you feeel better.

Q: I was reading these things about friends being attached and its everything me and my best friend do except hes a guy but everyone thinks hes gay and he does look gay and he told me he doesn't really like anyone. hes had girlfriends before but he flirts with guys a lot and he'll tell me that they are cute and sexy. he doesn't believe in bisexuality either. Sometimes it seems like he likes me and I get it a lot from people and they think we are together.
Its really annoying cause I would never want to be with him like that.
Do you think he likes me more than a friend?
I'm not really sure.
thanks :]

Well If he flirts with other guys then you knows its something. Recognize if he does sports like basketball and the way he talks. Maybe distance away from him for A little while and see the way he reacts. Look on yahoo or www.dogpile.com and Find the definition for Gay. See If they give any results or qualitites of A gay person See if your friend shows any qualities then just watch your back on him.

Q: I'm really bored and I'm sitting at home with NOTHING TO DO! ive gone to every website i know and i'm still bored. all of my friends are busy and my parents will not take me anywhere so i'm suck at home bored. what websites are fun? and what can i do around the house thats entertaining?

I really like this Website called WWW.fashion-game.com Its not just fashion games just check it theres hundreds LOts of fun

Q: My Ipod Screen is cracked. Is there anyone who can fix this? And for how much? Thankss.

Go to the appple store. Go on apple.com and Look for store locator or how to reach them. I have a Macintosh Computer so I've been to the store A few times. Make sure you try it and Go get help cause you need your Ipod screen.

http://www.apple.com/support/ipod/

I went and looked up the repair service For you and Go there and Look for the service.

Q: how do you know if your friend is attached to you? and do you think being attached with your friend is bad or good and why?

Being attached Is not always a bad thing. When you really enjoy spending time with someone and You and them are best friends or have a lot of fun together then its not bad. Making sure you have time with other friends too especially if yyou have any jealous friends. Attached is not real. People use attached as A bad thing. Attached just shows How much you love being with that person.

Q: I am 13/f, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months. My friends absolutly hate my boyfriend. I can see why though. He is always calling my friends names!! It gets on there nerves and even my nerves quite often! Its nothing bad like, fat, ugly, ect. but its like your stupid, your a loser, and, like blonde jokes. So far all of my friends told me i should break up with him. Isn't that crazy?!? Even some of them say that if i dont break up with him, then we wont be friends anymore. So they are asking me; me, or your boyfriend? I dont know. i really love my boyfriend, and love my friends. i sure am in a mess.

Thanks for all the comments/advice, it is well appreciated.

Tell your boyfriend that its not right for him to say those things. You really love him but you love your friends too. Theres no reason your friends and boyfriend cant get along. Make sure your boyfriend Apologizes or acts nicer to them. Your friends are going to be more stubborn then your boyfriend. Trust me.
I had to deal with this A few months ago. My friends boyfriend stood up on a chair and Told the whole homerom who I like I couldnt believe it.I hated him but he Apologized and picked me on ihs teams and I knew he didnt like me but he was trying to apologize and make up for it. Just trust me on this.Just make sure You have a balancing act between your friends and Boyfriend too.

Q: 13/f -ok. i like this boy.i mean i REALLY like him. well school just let out=,( and i wanted to add him on myspace. but would it be too awkward to add him if hes the only guy with only 6 other girls? i really want to add him, but i dunno what to do. please help.

Dear confused myspacer,
I think adding boys on myspace is just a way to show you're friendship. It wouldn't be akward. Plus since he knows who you are then He will be fine with it. I have my crush on my top and he doesnt even know i like him. Go for it. Plus boys love it when girls like them. Its the way they are. My brother competes with his other friends on myspace to see how many girls they can put on their top. Go for and I promise you it wont go bad.

Q: ok i'm 13/f and its summer so i'm about to start babysitting. i wanted to put flyers up in the mail room because i live in an apartment. well the problem is, i dont know what to write on the flyers. can somebody please give me some ideas??
thank you!

Dear flyer girl,
Babysitting is the easiest way to get a job.
Make sure you put on a cathcy slogan and almost act as if your selling something.
Like " Are you looking for a babysitter? Well you're in luck Im (NAME) and Im here to help you out. Babysitting is my specialty and Im great with kids. I have good grades and I know how to have a safe but great time." Thats only a little but but You kno im here to help. Thats how i got babysitting and Now my neighbors always call me to sit.

~Teen advicer~

Q: i really really really really really want to dye my hair. but the thing is my mom wont let me. and i absolutely HATE my hair. it looks disgusting. i have the dye and my cousin is doin it for me. but my mom knows im gonna do it because i told her everyday so she knows. but like shes like if you do it theres no friends, im picking you up and bringing you to school, no cell phone, no computer, and blah di balh. BUT I REALLY WANT TO DO IT! i dont see why i cant! and im gonna do it! but how can i make her understand that its ok if i dye my hair!?

Everybody wants to have the perfect head of hair. I know exactly how you feel. Tell your mom it would mean so much to you If she let you dye your hair. Show her that your growing up and Your not a little girl. Explain how pretty your hair would look and All your mom really wants is the best for you. Make sure she knows how important she is to you and How much you love her. It really works. Eventually she will come through.

Q: ok im 19 and i have been with my man for like, a year and a half. the guy hasn't had sex in almost 2 years and i am still a virgin. he knows and respects that. But recently he has become sexually frustrated b/c we live together and he says it feels like we are already married with out any of ther perks ... meaning sex. im scared and i want to sleep with him i really do, but im afraid of the pain. he told me there are only two options for this situation. 1: I allow him to go and strictly have sex with another woman, just to get rid of the frustration (but he said he doesnt want that cuz he knows it will hurt me) or 2: for me to get over my fear and go through with it.

well, it all boils down to im afraid of both options, and well, i don't face fears very well. what should i do? Any kind of advice is welcome please help me out.

When you want to have sex with someone Thats your feelings and only your feelings. Being a virgin is not a crime. If you passionatly love him and Feel like he's the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with then you should take both his and your feelings into consideration. If he really loves you he will respect your decision. Give it a try and see what happens. Maybe it wont be so bad.

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Im sienna And Im an avisor. IM a straight A student but I love having fun and partying. I give advice to all my friends about love and friendships. If you ask me lots of questions Im determined to repy to all of them. I love giving advice and making sure everyone has smooth sailing through teen years. I've gone through so much drama but I always get through it because I always think things through and make sure Im suceeding.