I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for 3 months. We started really nice and everything was lovely. Recently he's been under pressure due to stuff going on at home, even though he won't talk to me about it much. We were at his house and he got really upset. I tried to hug him but he pushed me down onto the floor, it didnt hurt much but it was a shock. Numerous occasions after this he's hit me or shoved me when he's got annoyed. I know he's stressed, but he doesnt apologise. He just pretends it never happens. Im beinning to bruise and im scared. What should I do? (17, girl.)
Honestly? Break up with him. Please. Now let me explain why..
A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship, and I believe it started out the exact same way you've just described, but she stuck around. She made up excuses as to why she should stay. She justified his actions exactly like you are by saying "he's just stressed". You need to realize that that is in no way an excuse. Because my friend had stayed with him, it showed him that his actions were acceptable because she did nothing about it. Things for her only got worse. He was pushing her down stairs, and hitting her to the point she had bruises. You need to remember that none of this is your fault and that in no way do you deserve what he is doing. You need to get yourself out of that relationship before it gets worse and you become hospitalized. If you break up with him and he threatens you (which I've heard has happened to people), make sure to get the police involved.
Remember to take care of yourself. You deserve so much more, and I know it's out there for you. Remember how much you're worth. I really hope this helped you in some way, and I wish you the best of luck
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Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
Tell your parents. By far the best thing you can do. Either them or the police. Trust me. I've gone through something similar, and I made the mistake of not telling anyone. My friends knew, of course, but I couldn't tell my mom. And every day I wonder if the jerk has done something worse to someone else all because I was too young and too scared to tell someone. Just know that it's normal to be scared, but make sure you also know that this is not your fault. Don't be worried about the "rumors" he said he'd spread, because what he did to you is way worse then anything he could possibly say. And if you're too scared to tell your parents to their face, even write it in a letter to them. I'm sure they'll be more worried about your well-being then the fact that you were underage drinking. I really hope your okay, and I hope that you'll find a way to tell someone!
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